As a life coach, I am always diving into relationship conflicts people struggle with - that often begin with something like "He should just KNOW that I want quality time with him in the evenings" or "It really hurts when my husband doesn't think to arrange anything for my birthday". Many people feel frustrated or resentful in their marriage because their spouses aren't meeting their needs they way they expected they would. So they double down on trying to control or change them so they can try to feel better. Only problem is, marriage suddenly turns into a long list of obligations to try to make each other happy. It's not a fun time for anyone. I used to feel caught in that same struggle. Until I learned a life changing concept called "the manual" that I teach in this episode and why the best thing you can ever do for your relationship is to throw out your manual completely. Loving what is - that's what true happiness and freedom is.

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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate Gladdin introduces the podcast episode and its theme of personal growth.

New Year Reflections (00:00:19)   Kate shares her excitement for the new year and discusses her holiday experiences.

Baking and Mindfulness (00:01:05)   Kate reflects on the joy of baking and being present during the holidays.

The Oven Malfunction (00:03:01)   A malfunctioning oven leads to a metaphor about expectations in relationships.

Manuals for Relationships (00:04:14)   Kate introduces the concept of having a "manual" for how we expect others to behave.

Frustrations in Relationships (00:05:02)   Kate encourages listeners to think about specific individuals causing frustration.

Personal Anecdote: Loss and Expectations (00:06:04)   Kate shares her experience with her sister's partner after her sister's passing.

Shifting Perspectives on Happiness (00:07:16)   Kate discusses how happiness in relationships is based on our own expectations.

Challenging Traditional Relationship Advice (00:08:30)   Kate critiques the notion that happiness depends on others meeting our needs.

The Problem with Manuals (00:09:42)   Kate explains how manuals can lead to frustration in relationships.

Expectations vs. Reality (00:10:47)   Kate emphasizes the disconnect between expectations and the reality of people's behavior.

The Burden of Control (00:12:34)   Kate discusses the emotional burden of relying on others for happiness.

The Illusion of Control (00:13:28)   Kate reflects on the futility of trying to control others’ actions.

The Impact of Manuals on Relationships (00:14:33)   Kate explains how manuals can create resentment and misunderstandings.

Releasing Control (00:16:32)   Kate encourages listeners to let go of the need to control others.

Taking Responsibility for Emotions (00:20:08)   Kate concludes by emphasizing personal responsibility for one's emotional well-being.

Boundaries and Control (00:21:19)   Discussion on the importance of boundaries and controlling one's own reactions in relationships.

Dropping Expectations (00:22:22)   Emphasizes that disappointment stems from our expectations, not others' actions.

Open Communication (00:23:38)   Encourages expressing needs without depending on others for emotional fulfillment.

The Power of Acceptance (00:24:42)   Realizing the importance of accepting people as they are, without imposing expectations.

Expectations vs. Reality (00:25:47)   Highlights how personal manuals create unrealistic expectations that lead to disappointment.

Letting Go of Manuals (00:26:39)   Discusses the exhaustion of expecting others to fulfill personal manuals for happiness.

Seeking Understanding (00:27:41)   Encourages compassion and understanding in relationships to avoid resentment.

Five Practical Steps (00:29:39)   Outlines steps to identify and let go of personal manuals in relationships.

Examining Thoughts (00:30:48)   Encourages self-reflection on why we want certain behaviors from partners.

Taking Responsibility (00:31:53)   Stresses that our feelings are controlled by our thoughts, not others' actions.

Open Perspective (00:32:52)   Advocates for discussing feelings openly and understanding each other's perspectives.

Letting Them Be (00:34:40)   Reminds listeners to allow partners to be themselves without emotional dependency.

Transforming Relationships (00:36:50)   Describes how dropping manuals can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Empowerment Through Choice (00:38:53)   Encourages taking responsibility for personal happiness and letting go of expectations. 

Final Thoughts (00:40:06)   Invites listeners to practice letting go of one manual this week for personal growth.

This episode is sure to inspire you, which is exactly why I asked my special guest, Lyndell Harbeck, onto the show! She's the wife of a military veteran, talented singer, owner of the online business Marketing Movement, but most of all, she's a dear friend of mine who now lives on a sailing boat!

I just HAD to have her on the show to hear her amazing story of how her and her hubby packed up their lives in Perth and spent months sailing around the coast of Australia - all while she was running her own business and making money! Given the ocean can be so unpredictable, Lyndell's story is an incredible example of how life isn't about trying to have EVERYTHING under your control, but taking leaps of faith towards the experiences you want most in life and learning to adapt and pivot your plan as needed. 

If you're an overthinker, overplanner or overpreparer, PLEASE give this episode a listen and then go LIVE your life that little bit more!  Connect with Lyndell online here @lyndell.harbeck

Sick of self doubt and anxiety holding you back? Schedule your FREE consult call with me here to learn how my personalised coaching can help you have the breakthroughs in confidence you need to create a life you truly love. 

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How many New Years resolutions have you actually followed through on throughout a whole year? If the answer is none or not many, you're not alone! In fact, 92% of people fail at their new year resolutions. Why is that? Why are we so bad at making lasting behavior changes and constantly break promises to ourselves? In this episode I dive into answering this exact question and the psychological barriers that get in the way. Whether you're looking to lose weight, save money, or simply become a better version of yourself, this episode is packed with practical advice and insights to help you set New Years Resolutions that you will actually stick to this year.

Sick of self sabotaging and spiraling into the same toxic cycles of insecurity and self doubt? Schedule your FREE consult call with me here to learn how my personalised coaching can help you have the breakthroughs in confidence you need to create a life you truly love. 

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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate welcomes listeners to the episode and introduces the theme of New Year's resolutions.

Reflecting on the Year (00:00:18)   Kate shares her thoughts on the importance of reflection during the holiday season.

The Power of Goals (00:01:12)   Discussion on how setting goals can provide focus and direction for personal growth.

Statistics on Resolutions (00:02:15)   Kate presents statistics showing the high failure rate of New Year's resolutions.

Understanding Behavior Change (00:03:25)   Emphasis on the necessity of understanding the reasons behind current behaviors to facilitate change.

The Importance of Knowing Your Why (00:04:23)   Kate discusses the significance of identifying personal motivations for making changes.

Exploring Underlying Issues (00:05:31)   Understanding deeper motivations behind habits to create lasting behavior changes.

Example of Overeating (00:06:29)   Kate provides an example of how stress may lead to overeating, highlighting the need for self-reflection.

Addressing Stress and Boundaries (00:08:23)   The importance of addressing underlying stressors rather than just eliminating distractions.

Money Mindset and Savings Goals (00:09:25)   Discussion on how beliefs about money can affect saving behaviors and goal achievement.

Changing Beliefs for Better Outcomes (00:10:22)   Kate explains how shifting limiting beliefs can lead to better financial behaviors.

Gym Attendance and Time Management (00:11:17)   Exploring excuses for not going to the gym and the importance of addressing underlying issues.

Deeper Questions for Behavior Change (00:12:27)   Encouragement to ask deeper questions to understand barriers to achieving goals.

Planning for Success (00:14:52)   Kate introduces the concept of SMART goals to enhance goal-setting effectiveness.

Identifying Obstacles (00:15:49)   The importance of recognizing potential obstacles to goal achievement and planning strategies.

Overcoming Resistance to Change (00:17:46)   Discussion on the natural resistance to change and the need for strategies to overcome it.

Managing Brain Tendencies (00:18:46)   Discusses replacing dopamine from unhealthy habits with small, specific goals for accomplishment.

The Challenge of Behavior Change (00:20:00)   Emphasizes the discomfort of change and the tendency to revert to familiar behaviors.

Discomfort as Progress Currency (00:20:20)   Explains that discomfort is essential for growth, and overcoming it leads to achieving goals.

Personalized Coaching Offer (00:21:14)   Invites listeners to schedule a free coaching consult for tailored support in overcoming bad habits.

One-on-One Coaching Programs (00:21:54)   Promotes personalized coaching programs aimed at helping women regain control and confidence in their lives.

Do you notice you get anxious about food during the holidays? With so many delicious meals and treats that come with this festive season, it can be easy to start to stress about overeating or want to beat yourself up when you do. So in this episode, I welcome back Anjuli Mack, a female transformation coach, who shares her expertise on managing food anxieties and body image issues during the holidays.

Together we explore the importance of  a holistic approach to health, including nutrition, exercise, sleep, and mental well-being. We offer up practical advice on mindful eating, avoiding guilt, and setting boundaries during holiday meals. This episode will help you navigate festive gatherings with confidence and ease. Remember, the holidays are really about connection, joy, and creating beautiful memories with loved ones more than anything else.

Connect with Anjuli online: @anjuli_fitforlife

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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate Gladdin welcomes listeners to episode 20 and introduces the guest, Anjuli Mack.

Anjuli Mack's Background (00:01:36)   Anjuli shares her journey as a female transformation coach and her holistic approach to fitness and nutrition.

Importance of Sleep (00:03:01)   Kate discusses how sleep affects health and well-being, emphasizing its often-overlooked role.

Holiday Season Pressures (00:04:33)   Kate highlights the unique pressures of the holiday season on body image and food relationships.

Coping with Holiday Anxieties (00:06:06)   Anjuli reassures listeners that holiday food anxieties are common and offers advice to manage them.

Focusing on Relationships (00:06:44)   Anjuli emphasizes that holidays are about spending time with loved ones, not just food.

Long-Term Habits Over Short-Term Indulgences (00:07:39)   Anjuli encourages building healthy habits throughout the year rather than stressing over occasional indulgences.

The Importance of Mindfulness (00:08:17)   Kate reflects on the significance of a mindful approach to eating during the holidays.

Setting Personal Rules for the Holidays (00:10:35)   Anjuli suggests establishing personal guidelines for enjoying holiday meals without guilt.

Mindful Eating Strategies (00:11:33)   Anjuli shares practical tips for mindful eating during holiday gatherings to enhance enjoyment.

Individual Approaches to Eating (00:15:17)   Anjuli emphasizes the need for personalized strategies based on individual eating habits and preferences.

Podcast Episode Timestamps

Understanding Food Waste (00:16:56)   Anjuli discusses the importance of not forcing yourself to eat excess food and its impact on well-being.

Navigating Holiday Eating (00:17:47)   Anjuli emphasizes the need to reflect on eating habits during holidays without self-criticism.

Emotional Eating and Shame (00:18:46)   Kate highlights how emotional discomfort can lead to overeating and the cycle of shame.

Reflecting on Triggers (00:19:49)   Anjuli talks about the importance of reflecting on what triggers overeating to avoid repeating patterns.

Power of Sharing Feelings (00:20:33)   Anjuli explains how discussing feelings with a coach can help troubleshoot eating behaviors.

Identifying Deeper Issues (00:21:15)   Kate and Anjuli discuss how underlying issues, like people-pleasing, affect eating habits.

Shifting Self-Talk (00:22:30)   Kate emphasizes the importance of changing restrictive language around food to empower choices.

Setting Boundaries (00:23:19)   Anjuli advises on being firm with others about food choices during the holiday season.

Planning for Urges (00:24:36)   Kate shares strategies for managing food urges and delaying gratification during festive times.

Staying Distracted from Food (00:26:03)   Anjuli discusses the benefits of staying engaged in activities to avoid mindless eating.

Trusting Yourself Around Food (00:28:22)   Kate encourages trusting oneself and reframing negative self-talk about food control.

Setting Up for Success (00:29:08)   Anjuli emphasizes the importance of establishing healthy habits year-round, not just during holidays.

The holiday season may be known as the ''most wonderful time of the year'', but often for those who have lost loved ones, it can also be a really challenging time of mixed emotions. If you feel that way, I recorded this episode for you to know you're not alone. 

It will be my 13th Christmas without my sister here on earth. It's tough. So in this episode I speak openly about how I've learned to better handle grief and sadness during the festive season. I share advice on how to still show up and enjoy Christmas Day, whilst also healthily processing your emotions and honouring your loved one. Merry Christmas to all of my listeners, I am so grateful for you all! <3 

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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate introduces the episode and its focus on navigating grief during the holiday season.

Emotional Complexity of Holidays (00:00:18)   Discussion on the contrast between joyful holiday expectations and deep grief for those who've lost loved ones.

Personal Reflection on Loss (00:01:19)   Kate shares her personal experience of losing her sister, Nicole, two months before Christmas.

Revisiting Past Insights (00:02:46)   Kate reflects on a previous episode about coping with loss during Christmas and the lessons learned since then.

The Community of Grief (00:05:06)   Emphasis on the shared experience of grief during the holidays and the importance of community support.

Processing Grief (00:08:29)   Kate discusses the inevitability of grief during the holidays and the need to acknowledge those feelings.

Allowing Emotions to Surface (00:10:40)   The importance of not resisting emotions and allowing oneself to feel sadness during the holiday season.

The Healing Power of Crying (00:12:25)   Kate highlights the cathartic nature of crying and its role in processing grief.

Navigating Grief in Future Holidays (00:14:17)   Advice on respecting one's pain and the challenges of grief in subsequent holiday seasons.

Acceptance of Sadness (00:16:19)   Encouragement to accept sadness as a natural response to loss while fostering gratitude for the loved one.

Balancing Sadness and Gratitude (00:17:25)   Kate discusses the importance of balancing grief with gratitude and kindness towards others.

Finding Balance in Grief (00:19:23)   Kate discusses balancing sadness and gratitude during the holidays after losing a loved one.

Honoring Loved Ones (00:20:20)   Suggestions for personal traditions to remember and celebrate those who have passed away.

Keeping Memories Alive (00:21:21)   Kate emphasizes the importance of keeping memories alive through shared experiences and stories.

Understanding Grief (00:22:28)   Acknowledging that others may not understand your grief and the importance of compassion.

Compassion for Others (00:23:29)   Encouraging listeners to extend compassion to those who may not grasp the depth of grief.

Embracing the Holiday Spirit (00:24:26)   Kate highlights the need to focus on love and gratitude rather than resentment during the holidays.

Creating Peaceful Experiences (00:26:22)   Encouragement to maintain a peaceful mindset and connect with loved ones during the holiday season.

Reflections on Grief (00:27:21)   Kate shares her ongoing journey with grief and the importance of honoring lost loved ones.

Living Fully (00:28:26)   Encouragement to embrace life, laughter, and memories, even in the absence of loved ones.

Appreciating Family Moments (00:29:31)   A reminder to cherish the imperfect moments that define family and life during the holidays.

Join me for one of my show's most inspiring interviews yet with the incredible Ali Ingersoll, whose life took a dramatic turn after a diving accident left her a C6 quadriplegic. Ali shares her adventurous pre-accident life, her harrowing recovery journey, and her inspiring work as a disability rights advocate. Most importantly though, she shares why victimhood is a choice and how we can use the power of perspective and taking responsibility for ourselves as the key to changing our lives for the better - no matter the adversity that we face. Get ready to laugh, tear up and be beyond inspired by the incredible, Ali Ingersoll.  Learn more about Ali and connect with her here: https://aliingersoll.com/ 

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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate Gladdin introduces episode 18 and welcomes guest Ali Ingersoll.

Ali's Colorful Background (00:01:06)   Ali shares her unique upbringing and experiences traveling around the world.

Moving to China (00:03:37)   Ali discusses her spontaneous move to China and experiences there.

Life-Changing Accident (00:06:53)   Ali recounts the shallow water diving accident that left her paralyzed.

Initial Recovery Challenges (00:07:50)   Ali describes her recovery journey, including medical challenges and surgeries.

Struggles and Resilience (00:08:36)   She shares her ongoing struggles, including health issues and mental health challenges.

Connecting with the Disability Community (00:11:17)   Ali explains how connecting with the disability community changed her life.

Advocacy Work (00:12:13)   Ali discusses her advocacy efforts for health equity and disability rights.

Navigating Personal Life (00:12:27)   Ali talks about her dating life and the intersection of personal experiences with advocacy.

Combining Advocacy and Business (00:13:56)   Ali shares her journey to becoming a disability strategy consultant and speaker. 

Conclusion of Ali's Journey (00:15:14)   Kate reflects on Ali's inspiring journey and the lessons learned along the way.

Ali's Surgery Experience (00:16:45)   Ali describes a failed surgery and the emotional impact of her recovery journey.

Finding Community (00:17:44)   Ali shares how connecting with others on Facebook helped her feel less isolated during recovery.

The Importance of Support (00:18:27)   Ali emphasizes the need for community support and understanding from those who have shared similar experiences.

Choosing Empowerment (00:19:10)   They discuss the significance of choosing to empower oneself instead of adopting a victim mentality.

Belief Systems and Life's Challenges (00:19:25)   Ali reflects on whether everything happens for a reason, emphasizing personal interpretation of life's events.

Mentorship and Listening (00:21:00)   Ali talks about mentoring women with similar experiences and the importance of listening to their needs.

Processing Grief and Loss (00:22:09)   The speakers discuss the complexities of grief and how personal experiences shape their perspectives.

Life's Unexpected Paths (00:24:11)   Ali considers how her life would have been different without her accident but finds meaning in her current path.

Redefining Happiness (00:24:39)   Ali's TED talk focuses on the concept of "happy enough" and the societal pressures surrounding happiness.

Taking Responsibility (00:25:33)   Discussion on taking 100% responsibility for one's life and the impact of mindset on personal growth.

Emotional Hostage Situations (00:28:24)   Ali describes how negative thoughts can trap individuals in their own lives, hindering progress.

Humor in Difficult Times (00:31:22)   The importance of humor and light-heartedness in coping with serious life challenges is highlighted.

Legacy and Impact (00:32:32)   Ali expresses her desire to leave a legacy that positively impacts others rather than focusing solely on personal achievements.

Social Media and Doomscrolling (00:33:06)   Ali discusses her use of social media, including a phase of doomscrolling.

Happiness vs. Purpose (00:33:27)   Kate reflects on the difference between external validation and finding internal peace after loss.

Hope Among Holocaust Survivors (00:34:24)   Ali shares insights from studies on Holocaust survivors and the power of hope during adversity.

Altruism and Selfishness (00:35:11)   The speakers debate whether altruism is selfish if it benefits both the giver and receiver.

Finding Meaning in Grief (00:36:07)   Kate explains how her sister's death led her to seek underlying problems and create a charity.

Risk Assessment in Adventure (00:37:40)   Ali describes her approach to risky activities, emphasizing research and acceptance of consequences.

Cultural Differences in Grief (00:38:01)   The conversation touches on varying beliefs about death and how they influence behavior.

The Power of Perspective (00:40:19)   Kate shares a story about a farmer illustrating the unpredictability of life events and responses.

Curiosity as a Life Principle (00:41:06)   Ali encourages being insatiably curious and learning from diverse experiences and conversations.

Friendship Dynamics (00:41:47)   The speakers discuss the unrealistic expectation of finding everything in one friend.

The Importance of Resilience (00:42:31)   Kate emphasizes the choice between being a victim of circumstances and maintaining resilience.

Connecting with Ali Online (00:43:19)   Ali shares her blog and website for listeners to connect with her and her work.

Gratitude is such an important practice to focus on for mental health and happiness, which is why I love that it's Thanksgiving this week! A time to slow down and appreciate the good things we have in life with those we love most. However, I recorded this episode because I feel like sometimes we feel bad for wanting more in life - like we "should" just be grateful for what we already have. So we shut down our BIG dreams and let the fears and doubts get in the way from us taking action on them. Because also, what if we fail and never get to our goals? It's tempting to push them away and settle for what we have.

So this episode is the pep talk you need to allow yourself to dream as BIG as your heart desires from a place of abundance and gratitude by introducing you to one of my favourite gratitude practices that goes beyond your stereotypical advice.

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Introduction to Thanksgiving (00:00:00)   Kate welcomes listeners and introduces the theme of Thanksgiving week.

Experiencing Thanksgiving as an Aussie (00:00:18)   Kate shares her experiences celebrating Thanksgiving in the U.S. as an Australian.

The Importance of Gratitude (00:01:02)   Discussion on the significance of gratitude, especially during challenging times.

Introducing the "Want List" Practice (00:02:07)   Kate explains a unique gratitude practice that combines gratitude and goal-setting.

Overcoming Fear in Goal-Setting (00:03:01)   Kate addresses the fear adults face when considering their desires and goals.

The Structure of the "Want List" (00:03:51)   Instructions on how to create the "want list" with alternating entries of what you want and what you already have.

Reflecting on Past Goals (00:04:40)   Kate reflects on her previous goals and how many she has achieved since then.

Encouragement to Participate (00:05:33)   Listeners are encouraged to actively participate in the "want list" exercise.

Sharing Personal Goals (00:06:28)   Kate shares her updated "want list," illustrating her desires and gratitude.

Shifting from Scarcity to Abundance (00:09:35)   Discussion on moving from a scarcity mindset to one of abundance and possibility.

Permission to Want More (00:10:36)   Kate gives listeners permission to desire more in life while being grateful for what they have.

Final Thoughts on Goal-Setting (00:12:44)   Concluding thoughts on the importance of pursuing goals and evolving through the process.

This episode I have the pleasure of chatting with Lori Hodges, a seasoned firefighter, paramedic, and emergency management expert with over 30 years of experience. We dove into her new book, "Shaking in the Forest," exploring deep themes like trauma, resilience, and the power of perspective. Laura shared her incredible journey, emphasizing how humor and a purpose driven mindset can help us navigate life’s toughest challenges. It was an inspiring conversation about finding unexpected beauty in chaos and the importance of self-care and choosing your outlet to shape your experiences for the better. 

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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate Gladdin welcomes listeners to Episode 16, introducing the theme of resilience and personal impact.

Introducing Laura Hodges (00:00:21)   Kate expresses excitement about having Laura Hodges, a seasoned emergency responder and author, on the show.

Inspiration Behind the Book (00:01:07)   Laura shares her journey of writing "Shaking in the Forest," focusing on lessons learned from trauma.

Coping with Trauma (00:01:59)   Laura discusses coping mechanisms and the importance of resilience in overcoming personal and professional trauma.

The Importance of Choice (00:03:25)   Laura emphasizes the power of choice in responding to life's challenges and the role of self-love.

Setting Boundaries (00:04:45)   Laura reflects on learning to set boundaries to protect herself while dealing with family addiction issues.

Safety First in Emergencies (00:04:56)   Laura explains the crucial lesson of ensuring personal safety before assisting others in emergency situations.

Managing Anxiety in Crisis (00:06:28)   Laura shares practical tips for managing anxiety during stressful moments, emphasizing grounding techniques.

Perspective in Emergency Situations (00:10:04)   Laura highlights the importance of maintaining a broader perspective during emergencies to avoid tunnel vision.

The Role of Humor in Trauma (00:13:24)   Laura discusses how humor serves as a coping mechanism for trauma and builds connections among emergency responders.

Finding Beauty in Chaos (00:15:28)   Laura reflects on the concept of "collateral beauty of chaos," emphasizing lessons learned from difficult experiences.

The title change (00:18:37)   Laura discusses the initial title of her book and the reason for changing it.

Focus on the positive (00:18:41)   Kate emphasizes the importance of choosing to focus on positive aspects during struggles.

Finding purpose in chaos (00:19:28)   Laura reflects on discovering beauty and lessons during challenging times.

Starting a paramedic career (00:20:19)   Laura shares her journey into emergency services at age 25.

Advice for the lost (00:20:34)   Laura offers guidance to those in their 20s feeling uncertain about their career paths.

Signs and decisions (00:22:04)   Laura recounts pivotal moments that guided her towards a fulfilling career.

Curiosity over passion (00:23:33)   Kate advises following curiosity as a pathway to discovering one's passion.

Emergency management vs. firefighting (00:24:00)   Laura explains her preference for emergency management over traditional firefighting roles.

Finding beauty amidst chaos (00:25:14)   Kate shares her experience of witnessing beauty during wildfire chaos.

Key takeaways from the book (00:26:39)   Laura discusses the importance of learning from mistakes and finding beauty in adversity.

Embracing life's ups and downs (00:27:50)   Laura emphasizes focusing on the good during tough times and celebrating small victories.

Connecting with Laura (00:29:05)   Laura shares how listeners can reach her and purchase her book.

 I'm so excited to announce that my latest book, "Okay, Now What?", is officially on sale!! So in this episode I share the recording of my Instagram Live book launch, and dive deep into the journey of writing this book and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. 

Get your copy here!

After having written 3 books for teens, this book is for ADULTS. Because I'm sure you've discovered like I have, life doesn't get any easier as we get older.  In fact, major life changes happen every 12 to 18 months on average. And some of these changes are very unwanted. Deaths, diagnoses, divorces - there's endless ways we can be blindsided. Or sometimes it's just the daily things that keep going off track. And a critical skill to handle it all is resilience.

By 'resilience' I don’t mean just smother your struggle with smiles and try to snap back to happiness. Resilience is more than just 'bouncing back', it’s about building - building a set of skills that help you face the world with courage, adapt to change, and become mentally stronger. After my sister was killed in an accident, I made it my mission to learn how to do this - how to become more resilient in a way that is both practical and impactful.  And now I've written this book to help you do the same. 

Grab your copy here!

It's also available as an audiobook - narrated by yours truly! So if you prefer listening to audiobooks narrated by the author themselves, make sure you check it out on Audible or your favorite audiobook outlet!

Listen to the book on Audible.

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Thank you to everyone who's supported me along my journey & helped me get to where I am today, I am so thankful for you! 

You've likely heard that confidence comes from thinking positive thoughts about yourself - which can help give us confidence sometimes, although other times it can backfire because those thoughts might not feel believable or we get us so focused on ourselves that we get in our own way and stops us from taking action on our goals. So in this episode I teach you the most powerful shift in mindset I've made to help me build my confidence that isn't thinking more of myself - but actually less. I know that sounds counterintuitive, so tune into the episode to find out why this is true & how to put it into practice in your life. 🙌

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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Kate Gladdin welcomes listeners to episode 14 of "Okay Now Watch" and sets the stage for the discussion.

Book Announcement (00:00:19) Kate shares excitement about her upcoming book "Okay Now What?" focused on resilience, launching in six days.

Journey of Writing the Book (00:01:07) She reflects on her two-year journey writing the book across various countries and challenges faced during the process.

Shifting Focus from Self-Doubt (00:02:05) Kate discusses the importance of moving beyond self-doubt to cultivate confidence and embrace discomfort.

Redefining Confidence (00:04:04) She challenges conventional views on confidence, emphasizing action and courage over self-centered thoughts.

Contribution Over Self-Interest (00:06:11) Kate explains that true confidence comes from focusing on contributing to others rather than obsessing over self-worth.

The Question of "Am I Good Enough?" (00:07:05) She argues that instead of asking if one is good enough, it’s more beneficial to consider how to contribute.

Embracing Discomfort (00:09:03) Kate highlights the value of embracing discomfort to grow and take meaningful actions in life.

The Importance of Self-Expression (00:10:43) She encourages listeners to express themselves freely, using personal choices to inspire others.

The Selfishness of Self-Doubt (00:11:33) Kate asserts that dwelling on self-doubt is ultimately selfish, preventing meaningful contributions to the world.

Final Thoughts on Contribution (00:12:29) She concludes with a message about the importance of contributing value to the world rather than questioning self-worth.