Our Love Sphere

By Janis and Carly SpindelSociety & Culture Relationships

Our Love Sphere episodes

May 16, 2023 Red Flags: What to look out for when dating
Red flags are warning signs that something may be wrong with the relationship or the person you are dating. In this episode, we'll discuss common red flags and tips on how to identify and avoid these red flags in your own dating life so that you can make healthier, happier relationship choices.

Highlights
(01:19) - Communication (lack of and too much)
(02:39) - Dishonesty
(03:47) - Hot and cold behavior
(04:20) - Lack of empathy/emotional intelligence
(04:45) - Disrespectful to you or others
(05:40) - Narcissism
(06:19) - Controlling behavior
(07:22) - Relationship with others
(07:46) - Substance abuse
(08:38) - Lack of ambition or motivation
(09:07) - The way you deserve to be treated

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
11 min
May 09, 2023 Getting Back Out There: Navigating the dating world
In this episode, we'll share advice and tips for newly single, divorced, or widowed people who are ready to get back in the dating game and find love again. Whether you're nervous to be with someone new, wondering how to overcome your fear of rejection, or how to communicate your intentions to potential partners, we’ve got you covered. Episode highlights and timestamps can be found below.

Highlights
(01:00) - How do you know if you’re ready to start dating again?
(02:22) - What advice do you have for someone newly dating?
(03:26) - Where can you meet someone?
(05:16) - Should you be honest about your past relationship on a first or second date?
(05:51) - How do you navigate dating with kids, if you have them?
(07:06) - How and when do you communicate boundaries and expectations in a new relationship?
(07:57) - How do you deal with rejection and keep a positive attitude when dating?
(09:19) - What is it like to sleep with someone new after you were with one person for so long?
(10:27) - How can you avoid getting into a rebound relationship?
(11:37) - How can you avoid repeating the same mistakes in future relationships?
(12:46) - When should you introduce your new partner to children, friends, and family?

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
15 min
May 02, 2023 Dating Apps: How to Stand Out Online
In the world of dating apps, it can be tough to make a memorable impression and stand out from the crowd. In this episode, we'll share tips and tricks to help you create a standout online dating profile that will increase your chances of finding love. From choosing the right photos to crafting an engaging bio, we've got you covered.

Highlights
(01:04) - Which pictures you should include
(04:11) - Showcasing your passions and interests
(04:53) - Creating a standout bio
(07:14) - Highlighting your best self
(08:21) - Less is more
(10:42) - Lying about your age
(1126) - Dealbreakers
(11:45) - What do avoid

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
13 min
April 25, 2023 Thoughtfulness: How to be thoughtful when you’re dating
In this episode, we will discuss how to be thoughtful in a relationship. Whether you're in a new relationship, have been together for awhile, or are married, there are always ways to show your partner that you care. We will provide tips on how to be thoughtful, from small, everyday acts of kindness to things you should avoid. We will teach you how to make your partner feel loved and appreciated. Episode highlights and timestamps can be found below.

Highlights
(01:08) - What are some ways to show thoughtfulness towards someone you're newly dating?
(05:36) - How can you figure out what your partner finds thoughtful early on in a relationship?
(06:33) - How can you continue to show thoughtfulness towards your partner as the relationship progresses?
(09:04) - How can you show thoughtfulness towards your partner when you're physically apart?
(10:15) - What are common mistakes that people make when trying to be thoughtful?
(10:48) - How can you balance being thoughtful and not overwhelming your partner?
(11:28) - What are the challenges to being thoughtful in a more established relationship?
(13:31) - How can you rekindle thoughtfulness in a relationship that has become stagnant?

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
16 min
April 18, 2023 Age Gap Relationships: Controversial or misunderstood?
In this episode, we explore age gap relationships. This type of relationship has been around for centuries, yet is still very controversial and misunderstood. Age gap relationships can be both beautiful and challenging, so it's important to understand both sides before you judge or enter into one. Episode highlights and timestamps can be found below.
Highlights
(01:02) - What is an age gap relationship?
(01:27) - Does age make a difference in romantic relationships?
(03:08) - Is there an ideal age gap between men and women when dating?
(04:31) - Why do men want to date younger women?
(05:15) - What are the pros of age gap relationships?
(06:15) - What are the cons of age gap relationships?
(07:49) - If you are going to enter an age gap relationship, what factors should you consider?
(09:31) - Does having (or not having) children affect age gap relationships?
(11:23) - If you decide to enter into an age gap relationship, how do you navigate it?
(12:27) - Do age gap relationships work?
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
14 min
April 11, 2023 Heartbreak: Tips for moving forward
In this episode, we'll discuss tips on how to get through a breakup or the loss of a partner. If you're widowed, going through a divorce, or recovering from a past relationship, the pain and emotions can be overwhelming. We will provide guidance on how to move forward in a healthy way. Episode highlights and timestamps can be found below.
Highlights
(00:59) - What should someone do to help them begin the healing process?
(02:38) - What are some healthy ways to cope with loneliness and sadness?
(04:09) - Where can you meet single friends that you can go out with that relate to what you’re going through?
(04:45) - How can you rebuild your self-esteem and confidence and make you feel sexy again?
(06:18) - How can you rediscover your own identity and sense of purpose?
(07:11) - How can you learn from this to become a better partner in future relationships?
(07:50) - How can you move on without feeling guilty or regretful?
(09:29) - Should you maintain a healthy friendship with your ex? If yes, how do you do it?
(12:04) - Should you start dating right away?
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
15 min
April 04, 2023 Someone's Ex Could be Your Next (and who is off limits)
When you’re single, you need to keep an open mind and have no shame when it comes to dating. In this episode, we will talk about how to have the mentality that anyone could be the man of your dreams. We will discuss how long and how serious it had to be to be considered off limits, how to turn a date into a friend, and how to expand your dating network. Episode highlights and timestamps can be found below.
Highlights:
(1:05) Off limits men: how long did they date and how serious was it
(2:30) Wingman party: every woman brings a man to expand their network
(3:57) potluck dinner party: evey woman bring a man and a dish
(4:33) Someone trash could be your treasure: Turn him into a friend! Just because someone isn’t the man of your dreams doesn’t mean he isn’t the man of another woman’s dreams
(6:18) If you’re not into him, how you respond in your “thank you” text makes a difference!
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
8 min
March 28, 2023 The Perfect First Date: First impressions are everything!
First dates don't need to be stressful, they should be fun! On this episode, Janis and Carly will discuss the ideal first date and how to make a great first impression. First dates determine whether or not you have enough chemistry and attraction to go on a second date - keep them light and airy. Learn what topics to talk about and which to avoid, how long a first date should last, how much to drink, who should pay, and more! Episode highlights and timestamps can be found below.
Highlights:
(00:50) - First impressions are everything - make them count!
(02:21) - How many drinks are too many?
(03:15) - What should you talk about on a first date?
(04:45) - Topics to avoid on a first date.
(05:48) - Who should pay on a first date (don't do the fake reach).
(07:20) - How long should a first date last?
(8:10) - Should you kiss on a first date?
(8:57) - Should you text after the first date?
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

12 min
March 21, 2023 Sex: What you need to know before sleeping with someone
In this episode we will discuss when you should sleep with someone for the first time. Sex is a big step in any relationship, and it’s important to make sure that you’re ready and comfortable with the person. This podcast will help you understand yourself and your partner, as well as navigate the pressures and considerations that come along with the decision to have sex for the first time. Episode highlights and time stamps can be found below.
Highlights
(01:28) - When should you sleep with someone and why does sex complicate things?
(02:49) - Should you talk to your partner about sex, or just do it if it feels right?
(05:36) - What advice do you have for people who feel pressured to have sex before they’re ready?
(06:33) - Should you have the exclusivity conversation before sleeping with someone?
(07:49) - Should you use a condom?
(08:36) - What if he doesn’t try to wear a condom, what should you say?
(10:20) - What if you’re not very sexually experienced?
(11:12) - Should alcohol be involved and if it is involved, does that make a difference?
(12:43) - You had sex, now what?! Do you sleep over? What happens the next day? What changes?
(15:35) - What if you do NOT have sexual chemistry?
(16:44) - What if you DID have sexual chemistry. How do you know if it is just lust or is it love?
(18:52) - Do men lose interest after sex?
Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com
Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel
Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker
Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography

20 min
March 14, 2023 Too Picky? How to set realistic non-negotiables
It’s good to have standards, but you need to be open minded and give people a chance. On this episode, Janis and Carly will discuss realistic expectations and how to know if you're being too picky. Is he too short? Bald? Didn't go to the right school? Doesn't make enough money? How he makes you feel is what matters most. Learn about setting realistic non-negotiables and reasonable expectations. Episode highlights and timestamps can be found below.

Highlights:
(00:58) - How to know if you're being too picky
(04:34) - How to know if you're emotionally available
(05:40) - How to know if you're ready to get married
(06:27) - What can you learn from past relationships?
(07:41) - The magic mirror: Are you realistic with your expectations?
(09:46) - What should you look for in a partner?
(11:22) - Setting realistic nonnegotiables.

Website: www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com

Connect on Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @janisandcarlyspindel

Books
- Get Serious About Getting Married: 365 Proven Ways to Find Love in Less Than a Year
- How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

Photo credit: Mike McGregor Photography
14 min

About Our Love Sphere

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Janis and Carly Spindel are an all-star mother-daughter matchmaking team who devote their lives to bringing love to the world. This podcast will bring you inside the minds of men and teach you how to land (and keep) the relationship of your dreams.

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