In this episode of Hello Universe, Kyley and Eva wade unpack how victim consciousness can form as a protective response to real harm, heartbreak, overwhelm, and unmet needs and how it can quietly harden into an identity that keeps us stuck, depleted, and disconnected from our power.

This conversation is not about bypassing pain, minimizing trauma, or pretending hard things didn’t happen. Quite the opposite. Kyley and Eva explore how victim consciousness often arises when pain hasn’t been fully felt, witnessed, or metabolized. They talk candidly about resentment, self-pity, martyrdom, righteous anger, and the strange comfort that can come from staying “right” and wronged. 

This is a conversation for anyone who has ever felt stuck in resentment, helplessness, or “why me?” energy, and also for anyone who is afraid to fully feel their anger, grief, or longing.

What we cover in this episode:

🌀 What victim consciousness actually is and how it differs from experiencing real harm
🧠 How victim identity can form as a protective response to unwitnessed pain
🔥 The difference between liberating anger and anger that keeps us stuck
💔 Self-pity, martyrdom, resentment, and the “I’ve done everything right” trap
🧍‍♀️ How victim consciousness feels in the body and why somatic awareness matters
🛁 The “warm bath” of victimhood and why it can feel so hard to leave
👶 Parenting, inner children, and the role of allowed emotional expression
🌱 Reclaiming power without bypassing grief, vulnerability, or reality

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