In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of relapses and the intense shame that often follows. I share my insights on why shame is so detrimental to the recovery process and offers practical strategies for navigating those difficult post-relapse emotions.

If you've ever struggled with the "relapse shame cycle," this episode is for you. I break down the key steps to support your body through shame, challenge the beliefs that fuel it, and ultimately break free from the grip of pornography for good. Get ready to gain a new perspective on relapses and learn how to approach them with self-compassion and resilience.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/what-to-do-relapses

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Do you ever feel like your slip-ups with pornography are holding you back from making real progress in overcoming this habit? What if I told you that these setbacks could actually be transformed into valuable stepping stones on your journey to freedom? In this episode, I introduce a powerful tool called Learn and Move On that will help you do just that.

I walk you through the Learn and Move On worksheet and explain how to use it effectively. You'll discover how to challenge shame-producing thoughts, identify helpful grounding techniques, and visualize yourself implementing your key takeaways. Most importantly, you'll learn how to turn the discouragement of a setback into the empowerment of a learning opportunity. Let's dive in!

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/utilizing-learn-and-move-on

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

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Are you feeling motivated and ready to start the new year, or do you just want to hibernate a little longer like me? I have an exciting announcement today - we've launched a new free program that lays out the beginner basics of everything you need to quit viewing pornography for good in an easy-to-digest format.

I also talk about the Hoʻoponopono Prayer from traditional Hawaiian culture, which can be used for forgiveness and healing in your relationships with others or yourself. Tune in this week to discover how you can use this prayer to overcome pornography use.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/new-free-program

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

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In this episode, I reflect on the successes and challenges of the past year for the Overcome Pornography for Good community. From the major rebrand to building an incredible team, it's been a time of growth and transformation behind the scenes.

I also dive into the key question: How can we create sustainable goals for quitting porn that align with our values and redefine what "overcome pornography for good" really means? Discover a powerful perspective shift that will set you up for lasting success.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/sustainable-goals-2025

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

Do you struggle to stick with your New Year's resolutions, especially when it comes to quitting porn? The surge of motivation and energy that comes with a new year can quickly fade, leaving you feeling discouraged and ready to give up. But what if there was a way to harness that energy and create lasting change?

If you're ready to make this the year you finally quit porn for good, this episode is a must-listen. I share the tools and mindset shifts you need to create sustainable change and become the person you want to be in 2025.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/year-you-quit

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

If you're ready to break free from the cycle of chronic shame and embrace accountability with confidence, this episode is for you. By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of how to recognize and work through chronic shame. Learn practical strategies for shifting your mindset around mistakes, separating your actions from your identity, and even learning to love and appreciate your shame.

Dive deep into the topic of chronic shame and how it affects your ability to be held accountable. We explore how shame is different from guilt, and how it can subtly influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in ways we might not even be aware of.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/chronic-shame

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

I dive deep into the topic of overwhelm and how it can impact your journey to stop using pornography. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear roadmap for navigating overwhelm and staying on track with your goals.

Discover exactly where your overwhelm is coming from, and what you can do about it. You’ll learn some powerful tools and strategies for managing overwhelm, including understanding our triggers, breaking things down into tiny baby steps, and focusing on just 1% growth at a time.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/what-to-do-overwhelmed

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here: https://centerforovercoming.com/podcastlive

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Do you ever feel strong urges to view pornography, tied to specific patterns, times, or emotions? I call this "over-desire" - and it's something many people struggle with. But here's the good news: just like the scientist Pavlov trained his dogs to stop salivating at the sound of a bell, we can train our brains to overcome these compulsions too.

I explain the science behind over-desire and share real-life examples of how people have successfully reconditioned their brains. I also share the importance of understanding the difference between over-desire and an addiction, and introduce the concept of mindfulness as a key tool in the process of building a healthier relationship with your sexuality. 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/over-desire

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

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Something you may have been told before about your unwanted porn use is that you don’t have a moral compass and that you lack self-control. This simply not true. The reason you view porn isn’t weakness or a lack of righteousness, so listen in to learn the real reason behind unwanted pornography use.

Tune in this week as I try something new on the podcast. I conducted a live stream, inviting listener questions, talking directly to listeners just like you. I dive deep into the real reason behind your unwanted pornography use, and I give you the foundations for making real progress toward quitting porn.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/its-not-weakness

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

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In this episode, I introduce a concept called the shame-apathy trap. This insidious cycle causes unnecessary pain and suffering, often without us even realizing it. I walk you through how it manifests in our lives and share actionable tips to help you break free.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not doing enough to overcome pornography, or if apathy is creeping in and amplifying your shame, this episode is for you. I show you why trying to care more or do more isn’t the solution and where your focus truly needs to be instead.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/shame-apathy-unraveled

If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

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