Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to Episode 188 where we listen in to bits of top five most listened to episodes about assertiveness.

In this episode we will be getting on my absolute soapbox – and that is the concept of assertiveness. Over many years of studying, teaching, learning, and doing my own work around personal growth, I believe we cannot have good self-esteem if we cannot own our voice. We cannot feel empowered unless we are standing and living our truth. We cannot have healthy relationships without being in a place of choice. This is why I am building a course on this because I believe in it so much. More on that to come! This week we will listen on some of the most popular episodes about the different components of being more assertive.

Key Elements:

• Define what assertiveness truly is, and what it isn't
• Talk about the core issues we must work on to speak our truth in healthy ways.
• Look at how we must know, love and trust ourselves first.

Without the confidence to act,

few will venture down a new path,

no matter how clear the road map.

-W. Chan Kim

Resources:

EP023 Defining Assertiveness: What it Is and What it Isn't

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 023)

EP024 What Assertiveness Looks Like:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 024)

EP099 Stop the People-Pleasing…Please

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 099)

EP145 Healthy Communication: Assertiveness is More than Just a Skill: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 145)

EP178 Being Assertive Means Having Inner Strength: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 178)

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Welcome to Episode 187 where we will be getting into one of the more popular categories of boundaries and listening in on the five most downloaded episodes.

In this episode we listen in on the top five boundaries episodes and how important boundaries are for confidence, healthy separateness in relationships, and for creating change. Know that boundaries is a huge concept with so many layers and flavors that we could probably never fully finish talking about it. What matters most is to keep learning, owning and practicing healthier boundaries…within and without, so your life can feel better and better.

Key Elements:

• Discuss what boundaries are and how they show up for us.
• Process how boundaries require letting go of outcomes.
• Explore what it means to verbalize healthy boundaries and why staying in choice is so necessary.

"Having boundaries means

that you have a voice

and you're not afraid to

use it."

– Unknown

Resources:

EP010 Defining Needs

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-010/

EP018 Setting and Maintaining Boundaries:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-018/

EP148 Creating Change Means Starting with Boundaries:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 148)

EP165 Empowerment Means Having Good Boundaries: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 165)

EP179 Being Assertive Means Detachment and Boundaries: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 179)

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Welcome to Episode 186 where we highlight the top four favorite episodes about getting needs met.

In this episode we talk about how we can certainly underestimate the importance of getting our needs met in healthy ways, especially the emotional and psychological ones. We talk about why it matters to define them, own them and figure out healthier ways to get them met, because not taking ownership usually leads to some form of acting out and self-neglect.

Key Elements:

• Discuss how it's important to define just what our needs are beyond food, water, and shelter.
• Look at the costs of unmet needs growing up, and how we can continue to deny them in adulthood.
• Explore what it looks like to own our needs and take responsibility for getting them met in healthy ways.

Either you got healthy, accurate mirroring

of who you truly are - or unhealthy toxic mirroring

like the mirrors in a carnival funhouse.

Healing requires searching carefully

for true reflections.

Resources:

EP006 Defining Needs

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-006/

EP007 Unmet Needs and Why They Matter:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-007/

EP009 Taking Responsibility for Getting Needs Met:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-009/

EP101 Putting Your Voice Out There…Vulnerably:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 101)

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Welcome to Episode 185 where we highlight the top five most-listened to episodes about self-confidence.

In this episode we focus on what YOU the listeners have voted as the most popular episodes that have focused on self-confidence, which is such a big part of empowerment. I realize that some of these episodes are the earlier ones and have been left off of some of the listening platforms. Know that you can always go to ownitopowercast.com to grab any episode you want, and I intend to keep as many there as possible for you to reference as needed.

Key Elements:

• Explore how self confidence is either created or wounded in our early relationships.
• Revisit episodes that discuss the importance of owning our choices, and how the healing journey works.
• Process how confidence is conveyed in our communication – or not.

"Trust yourself—

you know more than

you think you do."

- Benjamin Spock

Resources:

EP002 Defining True Self Confidence: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-002/

EP019 Confidence and the Big Setup: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-019/

EP055 Self-Confidence Is: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 055)

EP062 The Hero's Journey: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 062)

EP164 Empowerment Means Owning our Choices: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 164)

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Welcome to Episode 184 where we finish out the month and the year wrapping up some big areas of change we have been talking about.

In this episode we finish out the year talking about radical self-care, where we identify a few things in the areas of boundaries, healing, in daily self-care that can help us take charge of our life and really start changing things. We explore how owning our choices is so important if we want to feel empowered and hopeful, rather than anxious or depressed. Or perhaps resentful of others and events in our life that we feel wield so much power.

Key Elements:

• Assess progress and next steps in setting healthy boundaries.
• Discuss the importance of owning our choices, even our small part in things.
• Process how healing and grief work are necessary for having hope in the future.

"The time is now.

Stop hitting the snooze button

on your life."

- Mel Robbins.

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 183 where we talk about how trauma comes in different forms and levels of severity, and how important it is to work toward healing so that we can feel more grounded, glued together and have more peace in our lives.

In this episode we define the different types of trauma, its effects on us, and ways to begin healing. As many people either think about or engage with more family this holiday season, it may be a triggering time of year where many people struggle. Others may just have anxiety and not know why. Either way, finding ways to heal and reclaim your life is the way to peace…and hope that things actually can be better!

Key Elements:

• Discuss the different types of trauma, and what many of the symptoms are.
• Process the need for understanding the less obvious traumas.
• Talk about ways to begin the grief work and healing journey, and some of the great benefits from doing so.

Suppression

leads to momentary relief and permanent pain.

Feeling

leads to momentary pain and permanent relief.

-Chinese Proverb

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 182 where we focus on the interconnected Boundary/Detachment/Grief work we either are doing or need to do so we can heal and come to acceptance of the realities of our life.

In this episode process the concepts of how griefwork, detachment and boundaries work together like three legs of a stool to help us sit with, face, and feel what is and has been true for us, and what we need to come to acceptance around. We focus on the many types of losses we may not be familiar with and thus may not realize what we need to grieve. This is such important vulnerable work, and opens the door to more healing, more hope, and more peace.

Key Elements:

• Explore the stages of grief and the challenges we face when walking through it.
• Talk about how boundary work is the crucial first step in healing.
• Ask ourselves how we have done this year when it comes to making peace with what is.

"It is always our own self

that we find at the end

of the journey.

The sooner we face that self,

the better."

- Ella Maillart

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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EP181 Finding Hope and Peace Where You Can

Welcome to Episode 181 where we focus on ways you can find some hope and peace no matter what is going on or where we are. It is also a great time of year to look back on all that's happened and all you have accomplished in your work, as well as where you want to go next year.

In this episode we SO today we start a new month all about self-focus, reflection, and self-care. The different areas we will look at is healing old wounds, boundary work, and what we need to do to take care of ourselves, and our life. To look at what this year has been like for us, and to thoughtfully consider what we would like to carry forward into the next year. Perhaps some new loving habits we would like to continue or create, and what needs to change in order for us to truly live intentionally. Knowing things can change brings hope. Changing some important things can bring peace.

Key Elements:

• Look at how we will assess what the past year has meant for you.
• Talk about how healing old wounds, boundary work and self-care are what bring about hope – and maybe even peace.
• Process ways you can begin assessing right away if you've been loving yourself enough.

"In moments of quiet reflection

our minds embrace

the sea that we

have crossed."

- Holmes.

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 180 where we wrap up the month about assertiveness by getting down to what it takes to actually practice!

In this episode we finish up the month talking all about the necessary components for assertiveness and examples of what this looks like, from setting boundaries, to shushing your inner critic and looking at how NOT to react emotionally. Just by making clear goal statements about how you want to change in the coming months – is empowering because you are choosing. You are owning, and you are becoming, you are transforming. How powerful is that!

Key Elements:

• Note the work you need to do on boundaries and healing.
• Discuss examples of how to begin making real changes in your communication.
• Explore how reigning in your emotions is everything when it comes to communicating your boundaries in a healthy, respectful way.

"The only way

to find your voice

is to use it."

-Jen Mueller

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to Episode 179 where we talk about the importance of making friends with healthy boundaries, and not be in a space where are secretly trying to get an outcome to happen.

In this episode talk about how to be assertive and have healthy communication in our relationships, we MUST do work on boundaries and loving detachment. If not, we end up rescuing, controlling, and enmeshing, and avoiding the healthy risk of just asking for what we need and letting go of the outcome. Practicing staying in our lane and being courageous and emotionally honest is the best thing we can do for ourselves, and our relationships.

Key Elements:

• Identify how you know it's time to detach!
• Process steps of detachment and boundary work.
• Talk about how each of us has personal rights in every relationship.

"Speak boldly and with intellect.

Never hush your voice

for someone's comfort.

Speak your mind."

— Unknown

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don't miss a thing!