Parent Coaches Unleashed

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Summary

This episode explores the complex dynamics of parenting, communication, and boundaries through real-life scenarios involving teenagers and young adults. Jessica and Carrie share insights on handling difficult situations with empathy, boundaries, and understanding, emphasizing that sometimes being the 'asshole' is necessary for healthy parenting.

KeyTopics

• Parenting boundaries and communication
• Handling mental health crises in teens
• Wedding planning conflicts and communication
• Dealing with teenagers' independence and boundaries

Resources

• Parent Coaches Unleashed Instagram
• Parent Coaches Unleashed TikTok
• Parent Coaches Unleashed Email

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Most parents are blindsided when their adult child suddenly goes no contact — but what if that silence hides years of unspoken wounds and misguided boundaries? Jen Kelman, a renowned therapist with decades of experience, dives deep into the complex world of estrangement, revealing why boundaries are key and how missteps turn into irreparable rifts. If you've ever wondered why some family bonds break despite love, this episode exposes the silent struggles behind the scenes and offers practical, compassionate strategies to rebuild or redefine those relationships.

Jennifer Kelman shares:

• Why the trend of "no contact" is escalating among young adults and how social media's cheerleading for estrangement often masks a deeper emotional disconnection
• The difference between setting healthy boundaries and pushing loved ones away, with real-world examples of flexible versus rigid limits
• How unresolved hurts, like a hurtful comment from childhood or political disagreements, can fester into years of silence if not addressed with communication, not avoidance
• Why parental remorse isn't enough — the importance of self-awareness and internal reflection for genuine reconnection
• Practical steps for parents and adult children to create boundaries that respect their needs while fostering respect and love

In a landscape where separation feels easier than the discomfort of dialogue, Jen illustrates the stakes — and the opportunity — to choose connection over silence. She emphasizes that understanding, compassion, and self-reflection are the secret ingredients to healing even the deepest familial wounds. Whether you’re navigating your own estrangement or seeking ways to understand someone you love, this conversation is essential listening.

Jen Kelman, a licensed therapist, has spent over 35 years helping families mend broken bonds. Her insights illuminate the nuanced dance of boundaries, guilt, and growth, making this episode a vital guide for anyone facing family estrangement.

Ready to challenge your assumptions about family conflict? To learn how boundaries can serve as bridges instead of barriers? Tune in now and discover the compassionate path forward—because every family, no matter how fractured, deserves the chance for renewal.

Jennifer Kelman is a mental health expert on JustAnswer, where she has provided online support to those in need since 2012. In addition to her work on JustAnswer, Jennifer Kelman has been a licensed Clinical Social Worker for more than 30 years and maintains a private practice specializing in relationships, parenting, and children’s mental health issues. She is also a children’s book author having written three books that delicately weave in themes of trust, vulnerability, and hope in her stories. 

She has lectured extensively around the country and appeared on news and television programs covering a range of issues including relationships, parenting, body-image, eating disorders, and children’s mental health.

From discussing the impact of age on children's sense of safety and confidence to navigating conversations about sensitive topics like moving and death, this episode is packed with practical advice for parents. Don't miss Jennifer's tips on building resilience in children and maintaining open lines of communication, no matter their age.

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Summary

In this episode, Carrie and Jessica shares deeply personal experiences and insights about suicide and suicidal ideation, emphasizing the importance of open conversations, understanding, and compassion. They discuss how societal perceptions have evolved, share their family stories, and highlight resources for crisis intervention.

Main Topics:

• Personal journeys with suicide awareness and family experiences
• How language around suicide has changed, from "committed" to "died by"
• The importance of conversations and removing stigma
• Recognizing warning signs and responding compassionately
• Resources like the 988 hotline and the importance of mental health support
• Addressing threats of self-harm with seriousness and care
• The impact of mental health stigma on families and communities

Resources & Links:

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
• American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
• Understanding Mental Health and Suicide Prevention

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Summary

In this episode, we explore how wedding trends, family dynamics, and budgeting have evolved over the years with seasoned event planner Julie from It Events by Julie. Whether you're planning your own wedding or helping a loved one, discover practical insights to make the journey smooth and memorable.

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Summary

In this episode, Jessica and Carrie explore the boundaries of parental decision-making, honesty, and ethics through personal stories and listener scenarios. They discuss topics like college suspensions, lying, dating across religious lines, and the ethics of manipulating situations for perceived benefits. They draw on listeners experiences as well as their own surprising anecdotes. 

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Summary

In this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, hosts Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld engage with therapist Erica Epstein, who specializes in young adult therapy. They explore the unique challenges faced by young adults today, including societal pressures, the impact of parenting styles, and the importance of setting boundaries. The conversation emphasizes the need for parents to adapt their roles from managers to consultants, fostering open communication while respecting their children's autonomy. 

Translation Guide

1. “You don’t understand.”

They might mean: “My world feels more unstable and high-stakes than yours did, and I’m scared you’ll minimize it.”

Parent/Consultant response: “You’re right—I don’t know exactly what this feels like for you. Help me understand what feels most stressful.”

2. “I’ve got it.”

They might mean: “I need to prove that I can handle this—even if I’m unsure.”

Parent/Consultant response: “I trust you. I’m here if you want to talk it through later.

3. “I don’t want advice.”

They might mean: “I already feel behind, and advice feels like confirmation that I’m failing.”

Parent/Consultant response: “Do you want me to just listen, or would it help to vent?

4. “It’s fine.”

They might mean: “I don’t know how to explain what I’m feeling yet, or I don’t want to open the door.”

Parent/Consultant response: “If it stops feeling fine, I’m here.”

5. “I don’t know what I’m doing with my life.”

They might mean: “I feel pressure to have clarity before I’ve had time to explore.”

Parent/Consultant response: “That makes sense. Most people don’t have it figured out at this stage. What feels confusing right now?”

6. “I don’t want to talk about it.”

They might mean: “I’m overwhelmed and don’t have words yet.”

Parent/Consultant response: “Okay. We don’t have to talk now. Let me know when it feels easier.”

7. “Everyone else is ahead of me.”

They might mean: “I’m comparing my inside to everyone else’s highlight reel.”

Parent/Consultant response: “That comparison can feel brutal. What does ‘ahead’ mean to you right now?”

8. “You’re just worried all the time.”

They might mean: “Your anxiety feels like pressure and makes me doubt myself.”

Parent/Consultant response: “I’ll work on keeping my worry to myself. I trust you to handle this.”

9. “I messed up.”

They might mean: “I’m afraid this mistake defines me.”

Parent/Consultant response: “Everyone learns through missteps. What did you take away from it?”

10. “I don’t need help.”

They might mean: “I need to feel capable on my own before I ask.”

Parent/Consultant response: “Understood. I’m here when or if you want support.”

11. “Why are you making such a big deal out of this?”

They might mean: “I already feel overwhelmed—your reaction is adding to it.”

Parent/Consultant response: “That’s fair. Let me slow down. What feels like the actual issue for you?”

12. “I don’t want to disappoint you.”

They might mean: “I’m still carrying your expectations even though I’m trying to be my own person.”

Parent/Consultant response: “You don’t have to manage my feelings. I care about you, not perfection.”

13. “I just need space.”

They might mean: “I’m trying to figure out who I am without outside input.”

Parent/Consultant response: “Okay. I’ll give you space—and I’m still here.”

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Summary
In this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, Carrie Wiesenfeld and Jessica Anger explore various parenting scenarios that spark debate on whether parents are being unreasonable or justified in their actions. They discuss topics such as preparing children for college drinking, the ethics of fake IDs, connecting kids with potential partners, transforming children's rooms, rules for new drivers, and the responsibilities of pet ownership. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of communication, understanding individual child needs, and setting clear boundaries. This is a fun one you don't want to miss!

Takeaways

• We are not judging any parents for their actions.
• It's important to discuss safety around alcohol with kids.
• Parents should know their own child's comfort level with alcohol.
• Communication is key when discussing sensitive topics.
• Setting firm boundaries is essential in parenting.
• It's okay to transform a child's room, but communication is necessary.
• New drivers need clear rules for safety.
• Parents should not feel guilty for wanting to keep their kids safe.
• Understanding the child's perspective is crucial in parenting decisions.
• Consequences should be followed through if guidelines are not met.

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Summary
In this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, Carrie Wiesenfeld and Jessica Anger engage in a heartfelt conversation with Paige, a mother of a transgender daughter named Chloe. They explore the journey of recognizing Chloe's gender identity from a young age, the importance of support systems, medical guidance, and the challenges faced in social transition, sports participation, and dating. Paige shares her experiences, insights, and resources for parents navigating similar paths, emphasizing the need for open communication, understanding, and community support.

Takeaways

• It's essential to recognize and support a child's gender identity early on.
• Language around gender identity is evolving, and parents should be open to learning.
• Building a network of allies is crucial for a transgender child's acceptance.
• Medical guidance should come from competent professionals familiar with transgender issues.
• Social transition should be approached methodically and with preparation.
• Coming out can be a significant event for transgender children and their families.
• Medical interventions like puberty blockers should be discussed with a knowledgeable team.
• Participation in sports can present unique challenges for transgender youth.
• Safety concerns for transgender individuals, especially in dating, are paramount.
• Community support, such as camps for transgender youth, can be life-changing.

Resources

1. www.genderspectrum.org   Many downloadable resources 

General, Family, Educational, Faith, Medical and Mental Health, Allyship, Book list. You can also get speakers and speak to professionals 

2. www.thetrevorproject.org

Non profit LGBTQ plus youth   

They have a suicide hotline and so many resources

3. Local PFLAG  and LGBTQ Centers  in your city   Just google it   Many have support groups, activities, advocacy opportunities, groups for parents and grandparents as well

4. Psychologytoday.com to find a therapist using the therapist finder. You can enter your location, issues, insurance, preferences and other criteria and it will give you names, specialties, and contact information

5. For specialists in medical care, go to WPATH Provider Directory, and https://lgbtqhealthcaredirectory.org

6. https://harborcamps.org

Books 

1. My Princess Boy by Cheryl Kilodavis

2. Raising my Rainbow by Lori Duron

3. The Transgender Child (and Teen ) by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper

4. Raising The Transgender Child by Michele Angello  

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Summary
In this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, Carrie Wiesenfeld and Jessica Anger engage in a heartfelt discussion about the fears and realities of parenting, particularly in light of social media's influence. They address a listener's concerns about losing her identity and the overwhelming nature of parenting, emphasizing the importance of support, connection, and the transformative power of motherhood. The conversation explores the balance between work and family life, the beauty of parenting, and the need for understanding and encouragement among parents.

Takeaways

• Congratulations on your pregnancy; it's a blessing.
• Social media can amplify fears about parenting.
• It's normal to feel like you're losing your identity as a parent.
• You can maintain connections while being a parent.
• The first few years of parenting can be grueling but rewarding.
• It's okay to seek balance between work and family.
• Parenting is a unique journey for everyone.
• You have options to create meaningful experiences as a parent.
• Don't judge other parents; everyone is doing their best.
• Cherish the love and bond you have with your children.

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Summary
In this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld discuss the emotional rollercoaster of college admissions for both students and parents. They explore how to support children through the highs and lows of acceptance and rejection, emphasizing the importance of finding the right college fit based on personal interests rather than prestige. The conversation highlights the need for open communication, understanding, and allowing children to experience their feelings during this pivotal time in their lives.

Takeaways

• College admissions can evoke a mix of emotions for families.
• It's important to let children experience their feelings of rejection.
• Rejection can be a powerful learning experience.
• Finding the right college fit is crucial for student success.
• Parents should guide, not dictate, college decisions.
• Encourage children to explore their interests and passions.
• College is a time for personal growth and exploration.
• Students should consider the social aspects of college life.
• Rejection is a part of life and can lead to resilience.
• Parents should avoid comparing their child's journey to others.

Questions to help guide your child:

1. What excites you about going to this school?

2. What are three things you might want to try at this school?

3. What do you think a regular day might look like at this school?

4. Let's look at what they offer in terms of support in case you need it.

5. Do they have your major and something else you might be interested in?

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