There's a pervasive influence of technology on mental health, particularly in the context of anxiety management for children and adolescents. The Bonnies are joined by Dr. Adam Pletter, a fellow psychologist and an expert in navigating the challenges posed by digital advancements in our children’s lives. With over 25 years of experience, Dr. Pletter shares invaluable insights into how technology, while beneficial, can also be a major source of anxiety and distress for young individuals and their families.

They kick off the conversation with Dr. Pletter emphasizing the importance of understanding how our children's interaction with technology is akin to navigating a complex digital world, where they often engage in impulsive behaviors without fully comprehending the immediate consequences. As they delve into the nuances, Dr. Pletter draws parallels between the ways we, as parents and psychologists, must adapt to guide the younger generation in this digital landscape.

A crucial theme they explore is the distinction between being a digital native and a digital immigrant. They talk about how children, having been born into a world infused with technology, approach screens differently than adults who have had to catch up. Dr. Pletter unpacks this generational gap, introducing the concept of developing healthy boundaries around technology usage to mitigate feelings of overwhelm and anxiety. He offers practical strategies such as predict, recognize, and do different, which empower families to create environments that foster mindful technology use.

Throughout their conversation, they also address the troubling rise in issues such as cyberbullying, the addictive nature of smartphones, and the potential consequences of late-night device access. Dr. Pletter advocates for proactive communication between parents and children, stressing that open dialogues about digital experiences can pave the way toward safer interactions online. He encourages parents to cultivate a supportive atmosphere where children feel comfortable discussing their challenges rather than retreating into silence.

As they wrap up, the emphasis on starting small contrasts with the tendency for many families to overhaul everything in a panic when faced with technology-related issues. Dr. Pletter champions a tailored approach, focusing on addressing one problem at a time, enabling individuals to regain control in a manageable way. This realistic perspective—acknowledging that devices will remain a part of our lives—resonates strongly, as we collectively seek to find balance while preserving mental well-being.

HIGHLIGHTS:

2:30 Meet Our Guest: Dr. Adam Pletter

7:18 The Intersection of Technology and Parenting

11:34 The Impact of Technology on Our Nervous System

15:22 Strategies for Resetting the Nervous System

20:38 Addressing Parental Concerns and Overwhelm

27:02 The Role of Dopamine in Technology Use

40:14 Navigating the Digital Landscape for Children

connect with Dr. Adam Pletter

website: https://iparent101.com

Tell Apple to build a smarter first iphone: https://iparent101.com/smarter-first-iphone-lets-give-apple-our-feedback/

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BZE and BZW explore the concept of “shoulds” and how they can trap us in a cycle of anxiety and self-judgment. Together they discuss the internal rules we often impose on ourselves and how these can lead to feelings of shame and frustration when we inevitably diverge from them. Their conversation delves into personal anecdotes that illustrate how rigid self-imposed categories can create unnecessary pressure and negativity.

They reflect on the role that “shoulds” play in personal relationships and day-to-day situations. Expectations of how others ought to behave can lead to frustration and anger, particularly when those expectations are not met. BZE shares how she's been challenged with feelings of guilt or wrongness stemming from self-imposed labels about food, and how acknowledging the fluidity of identity allowed for a lighter existence free from the burden of these shoulds.

Addressing the connection between shoulds and regret, BZW recounts a significant personal experience of navigating the aftermath of the LA fires, touching upon how she battled with feelings of inadequacy regarding her insurance coverage decisions. This leads us to discuss the detrimental effects that should statements can have on mental health, particularly how they exacerbate anxiety and lead to rigid thinking patterns that inhibit personal growth and happiness.

Throughout our discussion, they examine cognitive distortions and how they intertwine with the concept of shoulds. They share insights into therapeutic approaches and explore how challenging these cognitive errors can lead to greater emotional resilience and healthier relationships.

They stress the importance of self-acceptance and the acknowledgment that our expectations often do not align with reality. They provide listeners with practical strategies for re-evaluating their inner dialogue and propose a shift in thinking that empowers individuals to navigate their lives with less judgment and more compassion. By advocating for a mindset that embraces imperfection, they aim to help listeners identify their own patterns of shoulding and work towards creating a more harmonious existence.

HIGHLIGHTS:

4:22 Personal Reflections on Shoulds

7:11 The Impact of Shoulds

8:55 Road Rage and Expectations

10:58 Acceptance and Letting Go

14:51 Cognitive Distortions and Shoulds

17:24 The Burden of Shoulds in Relationships

20:36 Shoulds in OCD Treatment

24:33 Health Anxiety and Shoulds

26:23 Shoulds and Depression

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In this episode of Anxiety Matters, the Bonnies welcome filmmaker, Sunita Prasad to discuss her impactful short film, Sleep Training, which uses comedy to explore postpartum depression.

They discuss the critical role media plays in shaping understanding around mental health, particularly in women's experiences during and after childbirth. Sunita shares her creative journey and personal struggles with postpartum challenges, emphasizing the tension between societal expectations and the realities of new motherhood.

Their discussion highlights the importance of authentic storytelling, the need for supportive healthcare systems, and the role of partners in navigating maternal mental health. This episode really aims to normalize conversations about postpartum issues and emphasize the significance of relatable narratives in fostering empathy and understanding.

HIGHLIGHTS:

6:20 Filmmaker Spotlight: Sunita Prasad

11:02 Exploring Postpartum Depression Through Film

16:20 The Challenges of Motherhood

27:22 Identity and Parenting

31:13 The Importance of Support and Resources

38:36 Conclusion and Film Viewing Information

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For more info & viewing options: https://www.sleeptrainingfilm.com

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The Bonnies delve into an in-depth conversation with Dr. Elisha Goldstein, a clinical psychologist and bestselling author whose work focuses on emotional health and mindfulness. As the creator of the 4R method – Recognize, Release, Refocus, and Reinforce – Dr. Goldstein shares his insights on how small emotional pivots can significantly impact our mental well-being, stress levels, and relationships. They explore his recently published book, "Tiny Shifts: How Emotional Health Transforms Stress, Relationships, and Longevity," where he emphasizes that emotional stability should be the cornerstone for achieving a healthy and fulfilled life.

Dr. Goldstein takes us through his personal journey that led him to mindfulness as he reflects on the significance of understanding what truly matters in life, drawing from experiences with those facing the end of life. His perspective ties back to the idea of living with intention, engaging with life meaningfully, and cultivating emotional flexibility amid overwhelming circumstances.

During their discussion, they explore the neuroscience behind stress responses and how emotional awareness can aid in regulating our feelings. He articulates the value of mindfulness as a tool to recognize and interrupt damaging emotional patterns, offering practical strategies that anyone can incorporate into their daily routines. The emphasis on small, manageable shifts rather than overwhelming changes resonates strongly, outlining a pathway that prioritizes self-compassion and progress over perfection.

The episode highlights the importance of community and connection in fostering emotional longevity, echoing Dr. Goldstein’s belief that nurturing our relationships is integral to our holistic health. He underscores that even amidst a society that often glorifies productivity, emotional well-being should always come first. As he articulates, "If we want to feel better, we must start paying attention to how we feel."

HIGHLIGHTS:

6:33 Introducing Dr. Elisha Goldstein

7:56 Dr. Goldstein's Journey to Mindfulness

13:59 The Impact of Mindfulness on Emotions

15:27 Understanding Panic and Anxiety

20:43 Strategies for Managing Panic Attacks

26:46 The Four R Method Explained

30:37 Navigating Moments of Panic

37:09 The Role of Labeling in Emotional Health

44:09 Emotional Longevity Defined

connect with Dr. Goldstein

website: https://elishagoldstein.com

book: https://drelishagoldstein.com/tiny-shifts-early

podcast: https://elishagoldstein.com/podcast

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Delving into the impact of technology on mental wellness and our ability to engage in the moment, the Bonnies explore the growing trend of technology-free retreats, reflecting on their own experiences of digital detoxes during vacations. They discuss the significance of personal sanctuaries like BZW's retreat in Ojai, California, and BZE's safe-space in Florida, highlighting their role in nurturing mental health.

As they examine the challenges posed by screen dependence, they emphasize the need for mindful habits to reclaim focus and presence. They also offer practical tips for managing screen time and fostering meaningful in-person interactions, addressing the implications for family dynamics and the importance of small changes. The conversation concludes with a message of grace, encouraging listeners to navigate the complexities of technology with intention and strive for deeper connections.

HIGHLIGHTS:

4:08 Discovering Happy Places

5:37 Accessing Calm in Everyday Life

5:57 Technology's Impact on Mental Health

13:47 Tolerating Boredom and Uncertainty

16:49 Intentional Living: Modeling for Kids

19:06 The Importance of Social Interaction

20:17 Reassessing Our Relationship with Phones

22:18 Mindfulness in a Fast-Paced World

28:18 Practical Tips for Mindful Living

30:22 Embracing Change and Grace

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In this inspiring episode of Anxiety Matters, the Bonnies welcome Kathy and Jeff Long, co-authors of "A Parent's Guide to Anorexia." Kathy and Jeff share their deeply personal journey as parents grappling with their daughter’s unexpected anorexia diagnosis during her ninth-grade year.

The Longs recount their emotional struggles and the critical role of support systems, both for their family and others in similar situations. They discuss the importance of community and peer support in recovery, alongside the gaps in treatment resources they encountered. Their guidebook serves as a crucial tool for families, embodying the knowledge they wish they had.

The Longs also introduce their nonprofit, Teens4Teens Help, aimed at connecting teens and providing authentic narratives to foster understanding and support. Throughout their conversation, the Longs highlight the transformative power of storytelling and community in the recovery process, illustrating the resilience of families facing mental health challenges.

HIGHLIGHTS:

3:29 The Longs' Journey with Anorexia

5:14 Creating a Guide for Others

9:01 Lessons in Acceptance and Support

13:24 Understanding Anorexia and Its Challenges

14:51 The Importance of Specialized Care

17:54 The Need for Support in Treatment

21:44 Turning Points in Recovery

24:54 The Power of Sharing Stories

27:18 Launching Teens4Teens Help

29:51 Building a Community for Healing

34:15 The Role of Knowledge in Recovery

36:11 Strengthening Family Bonds

38:03 Kara's Journey Today

connect with Kathy & Jeff:

website: https://www.teens4teenshelp.org

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Bonnie Zucker Psy.D. (east)

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This episode is one that many can benefit from with the focal point on how to provide effective support for loved ones dealing with mental health challenges. BZE and BZW start by stressing the critical role of a treatment relationship and how guiding someone to find the right therapist can be immensely beneficial.

The conversation pivots to recognizing that intentions to help might fall short without an understanding of how to meet them where they are; for someone grappling with depression, even the simplest tasks can feel monumental. They walk through practical strategies, including how to approach these situations with empathy and validation, rather than unintentionally worsening their symptoms with well-meaning suggestions that may not align with their current capacity.

The discussion emphasizes the power of validation when interacting with a loved one facing anxiety or depression. By acknowledging their feelings and experiences, rather than attempting to fix them or push them beyond their limits, they explore how loved ones can foster a sense of understanding that can pave the way for healing. It’s not about dramatically changing behaviors right away, but rather about taking small, meaningful steps together, like providing a comforting presence or creating a relaxed environment.

It's important to differentiate between validation and accommodation, particularly in the context of disorders like OCD. It’s vital to recognize behaviors that might inadvertently support the disorder rather than alleviate it. BZE and BZW highlight how to engage with someone struggling with OCD differently than with someone dealing with more general anxiety or depression, pointing out that while support is essential, it must be navigated carefully to avoid reinforcing unhelpful patterns.

Their conversation outlines strategies for managing one's own comfort and emotional responses. Caring for someone with mental health issues can elicit feelings of helplessness, frustration, or anxiety in caregivers. They share insights on how to manage those feelings without letting them manifest negatively in our efforts to help our loved ones. By cultivating self-awareness and practicing self-validation, caregivers can maintain their well-being while offering the support their loved ones need.

HIGHLIGHTS:

4:55 Supporting Loved Ones with Anxiety

8:17 Meeting Them Where They're At

10:09 The Importance of Validation

17:55 Understanding Triggers and Responses

25:09 Differentiating Validation from Accommodation

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Bonnie Zucker Ph.D.(west)

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In this episode of the Anxiety Matters podcast, Bonnie East and West welcome their esteemed guest, Dr. Robert Leahy, a renowned psychologist and author of numerous books, including his recent release, "If Only: Finding Freedom from Regret." Their conversation centers around understanding the multifaceted nature of regret and how it can impact our lives, decisions, and mental health.

Dr. Leahy emphasizes that regret can be both a productive and unproductive emotion. While it often brings discomfort, it can also serve as a pathway to self-improvement and wisdom when navigated wisely. He draws comparisons between how we think about past decisions and current relationships, introducing the concept of “adaptive humility” as a means of fostering healthier interactions and deeper insights into our emotional lives. The conversation touches on how many individuals ruminate over past mistakes, but Dr. Leahy suggests reframing these thoughts into opportunities for growth.

They also discuss the inherent uncertainty of life and how our society's obsession with perfectionism can lead to increased regret. Dr. Leahy's insights remind us that it's natural to have mixed feelings when faced with decisions, and he encourages listeners to embrace this ambivalence rather than be paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong choice.

Throughout the episode, the narrative weaves in practical advice on how to handle regrets constructively, particularly in the context of relationships. Using metaphors such as a train journey, Dr. Leahy illustrates the importance of letting go of past grievances, allowing listeners to consider the potential futures that await them instead of dwelling on past failures.

By the end of the episode, they summarize that regret doesn’t have to define us; instead, it can guide us toward a more authentic life filled with meaningful relationships and experiences. Dr. Leahy's wisdom encourages us to shift our focus from what we’ve lost to what we can still gain, ensuring that moving forward becomes a journey characterized by growth, resilience, and, importantly, compassion—both for ourselves and others. This insightful and thought-provoking conversation not only shines a light on the complexities of regret but also empowers listeners to find freedom within it.

HIGHLIGHTS:

7:37 Welcoming Dr. Robert Leahy

14:21 Understanding Regret in Our Lives

36:36 Regret and the Impact of Loss

46:04 Balancing Regret and Emotional Intelligence

connect with Dr. Leahy:

American Institute for Cognitive Therapy: https://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/staff/dr-robert-leahy/

Amazon Author Page & Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Robert-L.-Leahy/author/B000APW3QO?ref=ap_rdr&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=40d07c19-96d0-4e2f-98ab-5dde55f32df9

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The content of Anxiety Matters Podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute mental health or medical advice, nor is it a substitute for professional mental health or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, call emergency services or a local crisis line.

Have you made your goals for 2026 yet? If not, you're just in time to join BZE and BZW as they delve into the importance of setting SMART goals.

They reflect on their personal goal-setting experiences and share the impact of turning vague aspirations into actionable objectives. Their conversation highlights the role of self-monitoring in achieving success and offers practical tips for tracking progress, all while emphasizing the significance of self-compassion.

This dynamic duo also outlines their podcast goals for the upcoming year, aiming to expand their listener base and introduce engaging content through high-profile guests. Ultimately, they aim to motivate their audience to set their own aspirations, fostering a supportive community focused on growth and understanding.

HIGHLIGHTS:

1:56 Setting SMART Goals

5:36 Monitoring Progress

8:52 Personal Goals and Aspirations

14:35 Promoting the Upcoming Book

16:51 Goals for the Podcast

24:29 Engaging High-Profile Guests

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Bonnie Zucker Ph.D.(west)

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Bonnie Zucker Psy.D. (east)

website: https://www.bonniezuckerandassociates.com

The content of Anxiety Matters Podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute mental health or medical advice, nor is it a substitute for professional mental health or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, call emergency services or a local crisis line.

Bonnie & Bonnie revisit their very first conversation to share their journey and the serendipity that brought them together as colleagues and friends, exploring the unexpected connection born from a shared name and profession. As they celebrate the holiday season, they're thrilled to present this special re-release, allowing new listeners insight into their dynamic and the inception of their podcast.

Throughout their discussion, they reflect on the humorous and frustrating moments at the start of their careers when they first discovered each other's existence. Initial feelings of annoyance quickly transformed into a deep appreciation for the unique path each has taken in the field of psychology. They recount how their unique similarities extend far beyond just a shared name; from their therapeutic approaches to the fateful moments that shaped their careers, they explore the synchrony of their lives.

By listening to their journey, both seasoned followers and newcomers, will gain a deeper appreciation for the heart and humor that underpins their conversations about anxiety. Join them as they celebrate their connection, the work they're passionate about, and the exciting journey ahead on the Anxiety Matters podcast.

HIGHLIGHTS:

0:31 Reflecting on Our Journey

3:52 Replaying Our Original Episode

4:14 New Year Goals Ahead

4:21 How We Met: A Serendipitous Connection

9:43 The First In-Person Meeting

13:03 Discovering Our Paths in Psychology

19:01 The Impact of Our Work

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The content of Anxiety Matters Podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute mental health or medical advice, nor is it a substitute for professional mental health or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, call emergency services or a local crisis line.