Are you struggling with a child whose aggression triggers your own trauma responses? In today's episode on parenting boys peacefully, I'm joined by Tosha Schore, parenting coach and founder of the Parenting Boys Peacefully Project, to talk about how aggression is often fear in disguise.

Tosha will share her mission of creating a more peaceful world "one sweet boy at a time" and offer practical ways to set loving limits without shaming our children. We'll discuss how our own trauma triggers can interfere with responding calmly, and Tosha introduces the concept of "listening partnerships" to help heal our reactions. As post-traumatic parents, knowing how to step in physically rather than lecture can make all the difference.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by your child's aggressive behavior or struggled to know what to do when talking just makes things worse, this conversation will help you see your child's behavior—and your own reactions—in a whole new light.

1. What drives Tosha to help parents of boys with challenging behaviors, and how is she connecting her work Parenting Boys Peacefully to creating a more peaceful world?
2. Why is aggression often "fear in disguise," and how does understanding this help us respond with empathy rather than punishment?
3. How can setting "loving limits" look different from traditional discipline, and why does moving in physically rather than talking too much work better?
4. How can parents who feel triggered by their child's aggression find ways to stay present without getting overwhelmed?
5. Why does trying to talk children out of their feelings often backfire, and what alternatives work better?
6. How can parents experiment with different approaches instead of feeling locked into one "right way" of parenting boys peacefully?
7. How does society view aggression differently in boys versus girls, and what impact does this have on how we respond?

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For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/08/20/parenting-boys-peacefully-helping-boys-express-emotions-safely