Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You

Parenting Tips for the New School Year: Mental Health, Modeling, and Realistic Expectations

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We are thrilled about everything we have lined up—and are still lining up—for Season five! To kick things off, we're talking about parenting essentials for the new school year. After watching a MasterClass on parenting, we knew we had to start this season by sharing some key principles to get you ready for another year. Join us as we delve into some key points from the MasterClass, including the importance of parental mental health, why what we model has a more profound effect on our children than the words we use, why parents need to stop optimizing, and how to identify optimization. We also highlight the definition of what “high stakes” with your child actually include, the importance of your relationship with your children, and why it’s crucial you love the heck out of them! For all this, and more, be sure to tune in now.  

Key Points From This Episode:

  • [0:00:50] Welcome to episode one of season five!
  • [0:01:30] Today’s topic of conversation: a master class in parenting.
  • [0:03:50] Why the mental health and well-being of parents is not optional.
  • [0:06:00] Go to therapy: it’s nothing new and has been happening for generations! 
  • [0:08:00] You (the parent) are not solely your child; you have a separate identity.
  • [0:09:30] We teach more with our behaviors than with our words.
  • [0:12:30] Feeling joy and purpose without disappearing completely into your child’s life.
  • [0:13:05] Stop optimizing: think of yourself as a shepherd and not an engineer.
  • [0:14:45] How do you know if you’re optimizing as a parent?
  • [0:17:15] Why the stakes aren’t nearly as high as you think they are.
  • [0:17:50] Distinguish your kid from who they are as a human, from what they do.
  • [0:18:45] We define what “high stakes” actually are (when it comes to your child).
  • [0:22:33] The importance of your relationship with your child.
  • [0:23:45] What we mean when we say a protective relationship.
  • [0:26:45] Loving the hell out of your kids.

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