Have you ever been confused about what love is? Do you struggle with being consistent with loving yourself and others. Have you always thought that love is simple a feeling?

In this episode we also look at some of the misconceptions that we have about love, what love truly is, and how we can access our true nature of love.

I hope in this episode you will see that YOU ARE LOVE!!!

Join me as we take a look at:

• Why love is not just a feeling or preference
• How to overcome self-judgment and embrace self-compassion
• Practical exercises to nurture self-love
• The spiritual essence of love and its healing power

Love is not a transient feeling or a preference; it's a deeper, steadfast commitment that transcends changing circumstances. By understanding love in this way, we can cultivate more stable and meaningful relationships with ourselves and others. 

We can bring love to all aspects of life, especially the challenging ones, such as personal struggles and negative behaviors that often stem from pain. 

Whether you're struggling with self-acceptance or seeking deeper understanding of love's true nature, this episode has valuable insights to help you on your journey to self-healing and transformation.

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If you have been struggling to build self-confidence or wondering how to build self-confidence then this episode is for you. 

In this episode of the Permission to Love podcast we explode the concept of self-confidence, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. 

My hope is that you will find insights and practical steps on how to rebuild or build self-confidence for the first time. 

This episode emphasizes that self-confidence is not merely a feeling but a core belief that must be nurtured and developed through consistent actions and trust in oneself.

Key Topics:

Self-Confidence Defined:
- Self-confidence is the ability to trust oneself.
- It's a core belief, not just a feeling.

Building Trust with Yourself:
- Importance of showing up for yourself consistently:
- Keeping promises to yourself to build self-trust.

Practical Steps to Build Self-Confidence:
- Start with small, achievable commitments.
- Ensure consistency in actions.
- Use corrective experiences to reinforce positive behaviors.

Challenges for Trauma Survivors:
- How trauma can dismantle self-confidence.
- Strategies to rebuild trust in oneself.

Action Steps:
- Choose one small commitment to yourself this week and follow through.
- Reflect on past experiences and look for ways to create corrective experiences.
- Keep a journal of your commitments and track your follow-through.

Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction: Defining Self-Confidence
03:17 - Common Challenges with Self-Confidence
05:24 - What Self-Confidence Truly Is
06:39 - Confiding in Yourself: Building Trust
08:29 - The Impact of Trauma on Self-Confidence
10:55 - Building Self-Confidence Through Experiences
12:09 - My Journey with Self-Confidence and Starting a Podcast
14:15 - Execution: The Key to Building Self-Confidence
16:56 - New and Corrective Experiences
18:02 - Consistency and Repeated Experiences
20:15 - Keeping Promises to Yourself
21:02 - Trusting Yourself: A Core Belief
23:34 - Self-Betrayal and Its Impact on Self-Confidence
25:36 - Making and Keeping Commitments to Yourself
28:14 - Practical Steps to Start Building Self-Confidence Today

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In this episode, we dive into how to reprogram our limiting beliefs with the power of positive affirmations. 

Have you tried positive affirmations in the past and they haven’t seemed to work for you? Do you feel like it’s been impossible to let go of your limiting beliefs?

In this episode, we discussed those questions and more. 

Discover how changing the way you think about yourself can heal your relationship with yourself and manifest the life you truly deserve. 

In this episode, I share personal insights, practical steps, and the neuroscience behind why positive affirmations work. 

Whether you're skeptical of positive affirmations or a firm believer, this episode will offer valuable tools to enhance your healing journey.

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Key Points:

• Positive affirmations can rewire core beliefs and transform lives.
• Importance of viewing positive affirmations as tools, not cure-alls.
• Seven steps to effective positive affirmations:
  1. Alignment with desired changes.
  2. Specificity of the belief you want to change.
  3. Believability and reasonable truth.
  4. Repetition mentally and verbally.
  5. Connecting emotions to affirmations.
  6. Visualizing the desired state.
  7. Consistency and patience.

Practical Tips:

• Start small if believing positive affirmations feels foreign.
• Use physical movement to help connect emotions to affirmations.
• Visualize your life as if the affirmations were already true.
• Record and celebrate small wins to stay motivated.

00:00 - Introduction to Positive Affirmations
01:14 - Debunking Misconceptions About Affirmations
02:19 - Understanding the True Nature of Positive Affirmations
03:11 - The Power of Negative vs. Positive Affirmations
03:54 - The Correct Application of Affirmations
06:51 - Personal Story of Transformation Through Affirmations
09:16 - Detailed Guide to Effective Affirmation Practices
10:27 - Steps to Crafting Powerful Affirmations
14:59 - Choosing and Using Your Affirmation Phrases
16:45 - Adding Intensity to Your Affirmations
20:07 - Connecting Emotions to Your Affirmations
23:01 - The Importance of Visualization
24:04 - Consistency in Affirmation Practice
27:00 - Commitment to Change: A Long-term Perspective
28:07 - Recognizing and Celebrating Small Wins
30:40 - Overcoming Resistance to Change
32:36 - Analyzing and Adjusting Core Beliefs
33:19 - Tools and Resources for Continued Growth

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Can radical self kindness be the key to your healing journey and if so, how do we practice it?

In this episode, we celebrate one year of the Permission to Love podcast as well as discuss the practice of radical self-kindness, exploring why it's crucial for healing and self-love.

Thank you for being a part of this podcast for the last year. This podcast would not be possible without you the listeners.

I am so grateful that you’re here and are a part of this community. I look forward to another year of going on this journey with you as we discover how to heal our relationship with ourselves by giving ourselves the permission to love ourselves.

In this episode we discuss how self-kindness can rewire our nervous system, counteract self-abuse, and promote genuine self-compassion. This episode is filled with personal anecdotes, practical exercises, and thought-provoking insights to help you embark on your journey towards radical self-kindness.

Key Points:
1. Introduction to Radical Self-Kindness:
    * Radical self-kindness as an essential practice for healing and transformation.
    * The role of self-kindness in rewiring the nervous system and transforming shame.

2. The Impact of Self-Abuse:
    * How years of self-criticism and harsh judgment wreak havoc on our well-being.
    * The necessity of replacing self-abuse with self-kindness as an expression of self-love.

3. Personal Journey:
    * My personal experiences with resistance to self-kindness.
    * My journey of understanding that punishment is not corrective and that it is love and kindness that are the true corrective forces.

4. Overcoming Resistance to Self-Kindness:
    * Common objections to self-kindness and addressing feelings of unworthiness.
    * Challenging the belief that one’s mistakes or flaws make them undeserving of kindness.

5. Healing Through Kindness:
    * How self-kindness helps us relax in our own presence and fosters self-acceptance.
    * The importance of creating a safe environment for self-examination and healing.

6. Practical Steps to Practice Radical Self-Kindness:
    * Journaling and self-inquiry to understand when and why we are unkind to ourselves.
    * Replacing unkind behaviors with kind actions and supportive self-talk.
    * Treating oneself with the same kindness and understanding one would offer a friend.

7. The Healing Process:
    * The transformative power of meeting oneself with love and understanding.
    * Visualization exercises to heal the inner child and provide corrective experiences.

Practical Exercise:
* Self-Examination:
    * Identify moments when you are prone to self-criticism.
    * Recognize the behaviors you exhibit towards yourself during these times.
    * Replace unkind actions with positive, kind behaviors and supportive self-t

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Do I have to forgive someone in order to heal? I get that question a lot. 

In this episode I hope to provide some answers to that question as well as others. 

When we understand that forgiving someone is about us and not about the other person  our entire perspective on the subject of forgiveness will dramatically shift. 

Forgiveness is ultimately about us and the choice is always ours. It ultimately is about releasing energy from our system and freeing ourselves from that energy that is only harming us. 

0:00 - Introduction to Forgiveness in Healing
4:02 - The Consequences of Unforgiveness
5:02 - How Unforgiveness Traps Us Emotionally and Physically
6:11 - Understanding Why We Resist Forgiveness
6:45 - Common Reasons for Holding Onto Unforgiveness
7:37 - Misconceptions and False Empowerment in Unforgiveness
8:57 - Unforgiveness as a Defense Mechanism
9:24 - Holding Grudges Against Those Who Have Passed
10:13 - The Dilemma of Forgiving to Honor Pain
11:28 - What Forgiveness Is Not: Dispelling Myths
13:41 - The Pressure and Misunderstanding Around Forced Forgiveness
14:13 - Forgiveness and People-Pleasing in Toxic Relationships
15:33 - Clarifying What True Forgiveness Entails
16:24 - Forgiveness as Personal Healing and Release
17:47 - Practical Steps Towards Genuine Forgiveness
18:49 - Making the Decision to Forgive and Its Impact
20:17 - Exploring the Benefits of Choosing Forgiveness
21:13 - Shifting Perspectives on Forgiveness
22:19 - The Importance of Intention in Forgiveness
23:30 - Letting Go of Emotional Baggage Through Forgiveness
24:33 - Healing the Original Wound to Enable Forgiveness
25:09 - Implementing Forgiveness in Daily Life
26:12 - The Ongoing Practice and Rewards of Forgiveness

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Have you ever stood in the shadow of your own unmet potential, feeling the weight of the person you might have been if ltrauma hadn't left its mark? 

This is a reality many face, and in our latest podcast episode, we journey into the process of grieving what trauma stole from us as a way to journey  into deeper healing. 

Together, we confront the raw emotions of anger and rage that emerge from the unnamed sorrow we carry. 

We look at practical writing exercises that can be powerful tools for recovery. We will examine how to craft letters that articulate the deep-seated grief of what we might have become without the trauma we experienced. 

We also  celebrate who we are today and learn how to see the beautiful qualities about who you are now. 

Yes trauma stole so much from so many of us and we need to grieve that. And as we grieve we can  also learn to see, fully love, and accept who we are now. And it is from that place that we can start walking into the all the beauty right now in this present moment. 

0:00 - Introduction: The Impact of Unresolved Grief
0:59 - The Concept of Grieving Potential Selves
3:55 - Healthy Grieving vs. Staying Stuck in the Past
4:39 - Understanding and Initiating the Grieving Process
5:36 - The Dual Nature of Grief: What Wasn't Given and What Was Taken
6:26 - Exploring the Five Stages of Grief Related to Lost Potential
7:57 - Practical Steps to Grieve Who You Might Have Become
8:51 - Exercise: Writing a Letter to Your Future Self
10:12 - Exercise: Writing a Letter to Your Present Self
12:02 - Moving Towards Acceptance and Letting Go
13:28 - Celebrating the Person You Are Today
14:20 - Final Exercise: Recognizing Your Current Strengths and Qualities

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In this episode we discuss how to discover the transformative power of the present moment to heal your relationship with yourself and how being present can help heal your nervous system. 

Whether you struggle with being present, feel overwhelmed by life's demands, or seek escape through distractions, this episode is tailored to guide you towards profound self-healing and acceptance.

What You'll Learn:

• The Importance of Presence: Understand why embracing the present is crucial for healing and how avoiding it can hinder your progress.
• Why we avoid being present: Why it is important for us to understand how not being present is serving us. 
• The Benefits of Being Present: Three Ways Being Present Helps Heal Our Nervous System
• Acceptance Techniques: Explore methods to foster self-love and accept your true self, by being present. 
• Mindfulness Practices: Simple, actionable strategies to enhance mindfulness and maintain presence in everyday life.

I know how transformational the practice of being present has been for me. I hope you find the same benefit in practicing being present as a part of your healing journey.

0:00 - Introduction to the Healing Power of Presence
1:31 - The Impact of Being Present on Self-Healing
5:17 - Why We Avoid Being Present and Its Consequences
6:01 - The Three Primary Reasons We Avoid Ourselves
6:40 - The Negative Effects of Avoiding Presence
7:29 - What Does Being Present Mean?
8:28 - The Present Moment as the Only True Moment
9:29 - The Immediate Benefits of Practicing Presence
10:16 - Techniques for Becoming Present in Daily Life
11:32 - How Being Present Transforms Our Emotional Health
12:09 - The Role of Observation in Healing
12:35 - Breaking the Cycle of Negative Self-Talk
13:39 - Calming the Nervous System Through Presence
14:05 - Overcoming the Initial Challenges of Being Present
15:07 - The Question That Can Bring You to the Present
15:54 - Recognizing Safety in the Present Moment
16:38 - The Healing Break Provided by Presence
17:41 - Disconnecting from Past and Future to Embrace Now
18:44 - Teaching the Nervous System to Recognize Current Safety
19:40 - Gaining Perspective and Making Rational Choices Through Presence
21:04 - How Presence Clarifies Feelings and Decisions
22:15 - Investigating the Root Causes of Our Reactions
23:05 - Connecting with the Authentic Self Through Presence
24:08 - Discovering the Authentic Self and Its Needs
25:28 - Embracing True Self-Acceptance
26:29 - Challenges and Benefits of Practicing Presence
28:07 - Simple Practices to Enhance Presence in Everyday Life
29:09 - Additional Tips for Staying Present

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There is a place where you can fully accept yourself and have your self-development/self-improvement come from the place of self-acceptance.

Self-acceptance is a much more healthy and powerful energy to come from as we work to improve ourselves. 

Have you ever struggled with being on a never ending treadmill of self-development. Would you like to learn how to accept yourself while you are also practicing self-development? If so then this episode can be a great resource for you. 

In this episode, we explore the dynamic between self-acceptance and self-development. We discuss how embracing our current selves does not preclude growth and improvement. 

This episode contains helpful insights, personal reflections, and practical advice aimed at helping you cultivate a healthy balance between accepting who you are and striving for personal growth. 

What you will learn:

• The definition and importance of self-acceptance and how it differs from complacency.
• The positive aspects of self-development and how to pursue growth without self-judgment.
• Practical strategies for cultivating a life-giving approach to personal development.
• How to recognize when self-improvement efforts might be causing more harm than good.

0:00 - Introduction to Self-Acceptance vs. Self-Development
0:06 - Are You Chasing a "Better" Version of Yourself?
3:11 - The Never-Ending Treadmill of Self-Improvement
4:36 - Understanding the Value of Self-Development
5:59 - Balancing Self-Acceptance with the Desire to Improve
6:51 - Exploring Radical Self-Acceptance
9:06 - Why Accepting Current Realities is Crucial
10:30 - The Role of Self-Acceptance in Personal Growth
13:05 - The Continuous Journey of Self-Acceptance
14:48 - Signs that Self-Development Might Be Going Awry
17:38 - The Trap of External Validation in Self-Improvement
20:02 - The Importance of Being Present and Self-Acceptant
22:12 - Why There is No Final Destination in Growth
24:28 - How Future Self-Perception Influences Current Self-Acceptance
25:35 - Practical Tips for Healthy Self-Improvement
29:45 - Setting Realistic Goals in Self-Development
31:17 - Free Resources

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Do you always feel like you need to fix yourself? Do you feel like there is something wrong with you, and if you just keep working on yourself, then you will finally feel "normal" and be able to accept yourself?

The feeling that we need to fix ourselves is often a response to trauma and something we developed as a way to stay safe. In response to the painful things we were experiencing, we began to believe that if we could find something about ourselves to "fix," we could then prevent the abuse or pain. The challenge is that this feeling that we need to fix ourselves got wired into our systems, and now we struggle to let go of it. 

In this episode, I share how you can finally get FREE from the feeling that you need to fix yourself.

As you listen to this episode, you will discover:

1. Why you always feel like you need to fix yourself.
2. Trauma and its impact on feeling like there is something wrong with us that needs to be fixed.
3. Why trying to fix yourself for others never works.
4. Why trying to fix yourself is an illusion.
5. How to let go of trying to fix yourself.
6. How to see the beautiful person you are right now.
7. A simple mindfulness exercise to let go of the belief you need to be fixed.

I hope this episode helps you in your healing journey and opens your eyes to see how you have never been a problem that needs to be fixed.

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Have you ever felt like you are chasing after trying to be normal? Do you carry a nagging feeling that there is something wrong with you? Are you always looking for something in your life that needs to be fixed?

I carried that feeling for over 40 years, and in this episode, I share how I got rid of those thoughts and feelings.

This episode is the first of three episodes on the topic of "chasing normal." 

In this first episode, I start the series by helping you understand that nothing is wrong with you. I know you often feel like there is, but the truth is that there has never been anything wrong with you.

In this episode, we will look at the following:

1. How trauma is the origin of that feeling
2. How that feeling has tried to keep us safe.
3. How you can let go of that feeling 
4. An exercise to practice for ongoing healing

I hope by the end of this episode; you will see that there has never been anything wrong with you and can begin to see the beautiful person that you are right now!

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