Let's say you go out to eat with friends. Let's also say these friends order appetizers with the full intention of ordering a entrée later. What if they raised the steaks higher and suggest that you all order 'Family Style'?

What do we do here folks?! Even if sharing food is your thing, how is a table of 3 supposed to split an order of 8 cream cheese lumpias???!!!

Horror scenes such as the above are happening all around our country. And they're going unchecked and unregulated....Until NOW.

Join Neil, Graham and their best friend and muddiest guest, Mudslide, as they write the unwritten rules of group orders on an ALL NEW Premeditated!

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde

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Imagine you're a member of a family.

Imagine you're a man.

Imagine you encounter another man. There is no decision more dangerous or more rewarding.

What NOW? Do you extend one arm? Right or left? Both up high for a double high five? Should you put both arms out and say, "Up!"

And IF you commit to the hug, do you remain firm, pull away or linger? Do you back pat or back SLAP!

Tune in this week for male, inter-family displays of affection! On an ALL NEW Premeditated!

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde
insta: @premeditatedpod

Should we, as citizens, make reservations? 
And if so, should we be offered a little grace with respect for punctuality? 
Also, panthers aren't animals. 

Our guest, Ben Messmer, brings an intriguing case file that promises to tickle your sleuthing fancy and leaves us pondering the depths of dining etiquette. 
From sharing stories about Michelin-starred adventures to debating the merits of spontaneity versus planning in restaurant reservations, we explore the vibrant world of fine dining.What about the absurdity of technology in customer service, conjuring images of buzzing trays and square vibrators. As always, there's a heartfelt appreciation for the human touch in hospitality. We weigh the charms of old-fashioned communication against the sterile efficiency of gadgets.

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde
insta: @premeditatedpod

How long should you wait before you throw away a card? Consult the rules, before you offend your loved ones.

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde
insta: @premeditatedpod

Ever felt the need to celebrate a personal victory without sounding like a show-off? Join us for a captivating ride with the ever-entertaining Ben Cassil, The Disruptor. Tune in for a parasocial deep dive into a thrilling cold case brought to life by Ben.
As we navigate the hardscrabble streets of Los Angeles, prepare for stories that merge the city's notorious surface-level personality with the glimmer of Hollywood ambition. From childhood car anecdotes to laugh-out-loud encounters at Gelson's with a roommate and an unexpected brush with a budding Paramount star, our conversation mixes the allure of Tinseltown with the humdrum of everyday life. 
We unravel the art of sharing successes while keeping them humblebrags at bay. Examining cultural attitudes towards bragging to the contrast of New England reserve with other regions, our candid chat aims to illuminate the joys of genuine expression. Whether it's responding to achievements with heartfelt enthusiasm or understanding that sharing happiness doesn't require a tit-for-tat, we champion authenticity and the power of a supportive community.

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde
insta: @premeditatedpod

What would you do if a mysterious package addressed to someone else landed at your doorstep? Join us as we juggle the ethical precedent of possibly opening mystery mail, and imagine the treasures or troubles it might contain. Neil and Graham, your trusty hosts, get caught in a back-and-forth over roommate etiquette, mail privacy, and even a surprise class action lawsuit. 
Travel back to the enchanting days of snail mail, when the mailman was as magical as Santa or the tooth fairy. We revel in the nostalgic joy of sending and receiving handwritten letters and gifts. We muse on the mailman's misunderstood psychic miasma, harkened to by humans but disliked by dogs. Don't miss out on our lesson about the blurred lines between curiosity and privacy.

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde
insta: @premeditatedpod

Ever wondered about the unsung heroes of the courthouse? Join us as we tackle the intriguing role of county clerks and their historical significance, all while holding space with out special guest, Kyle Taksar, Evan's sister. With her sharp legal insights, she's the perfect addition to our banter on society's unwritten laws. We dust off a neglected case file and ponder the justice system's abject failures.

Picture this: a night out at the Cheesecake Factory with the endless battle of choosing between wings and  rings. Our waiter, Pierre, helps navigate the extensive menu and the blight of elective gluten-free dining. Feel the dark pressure of facing down gargantuan lists options.

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde

insta: @premeditatedpod

The doctor is in, and she's HUNGRY!
Our improvised case file this week exposes the subtle violence of couples who only talk to each other. Quite the nightmare.
Ever thought about how we all play different roles in social situations? Join us as we navigate the dance of norms with our special guest, Dr. Tess. She turns the tables with an unexpected case study, prompting us to reflect on our own experiences as both victims and perpetrators in group conversations. As the episode unfolds, we transition into a lively discussion with Jamie, Other Jamie, Barry, and friends who are gearing up for a 13-month anniversary celebration and explore the art of mixing social circles when different groups collide.
We examine how new couples can create an exclusive atmosphere and how seasoned couples navigate these interactions differently. 

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde
insta: @premeditatedpod

Ever been stuck in a car on a long road trip, bladder bursting, with no rest stop in sight? Our case file has a Vegas-bound anniversary with tenants' rights advocate Kuba Güün. Hang onto your She-Wee's and Stadium Pals, this is a bumpy ride.
As we journey through the hilarity, Jacob offers insightful perspectives that remind us of the importance of communication and consent, even amidst bladder emergencies. We navigate the fine line between thrill-seeking and going too far, using some outrageous scenarios to illustrate the point. Whether you're in it for the laughs, the practical tips, or the reminder that thoughtful decision-making is key, this episode promises a wild ride full of laughter and learning. So buckle up, because you're in for one entertaining trip to Vegas!

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde
insta: @premeditatedpod

Ever found yourself pondering whether to leave a hotel room spotless or let the cleaning crew earn their keep? On this episode of Premeditated, Neil and Graham take you on a journey through the unspoken rules of hotel checkout etiquette and those quirky norms we all seem to abide by. From deciding if taking home those tiny toiletries is a savvy move or a moral misdemeanor, to personal tales of less-than-luxurious stays featuring Florida bugs, body bugs, bed bugs, and inventive ways to stay warm in NYC, this episode has it all.
If you've ever felt a pang of guilt for eyeing that plush hotel robe or wondered how far courtesy should stretch when it comes to tidying up, you're not alone. Whether it's the allure of scented lotions or the creative lengths some go to maximize their hotel experience, we take a look at the tragic world of hotel stays.

Hosted by Graham Cameron and Neil Zumwalde
insta: @premeditatedpod