Relationships are the sandpaper of life. Isn’t it often true the relationship struggles of your life are used by God to refine and teach and help you grow to maturity? I want to examine five biblical principles we need to know when we are experiencing relationship difficulties on our jobs.

The Extra-Mile Principle

We are called to have an extra-mile attitude in our relationships with others. Matthew 5:38-41 is pretty clear about this.

You have heard that it was said, 'Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.' But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles (Matthew 5:38 – 41).

What does it mean to have an extra-mile attitude, to turn the other cheek, to give your cloak as well as your shirt? Jesus was trying to teach us:

to endure unfair treatment at times, without griping or complaining.

to refrain from saying some of the things we would like to say to that difficult coworker.

to do some work we don’t have to or want to do.

to put in extra time and effort to help a difficult person.

Surely that is all a part of this extra mile principle. And it would lead you to endure at times and to do more than perhaps even your employer would require or expect of you. But there is also a balance we must find. I believe Jesus gave us boundaries with this extra mile principle, and he is not teaching us to endure any unacceptable behavior or habits forever and never say anything negative to anyone.

Do you go the extra mile with difficult relationships? When we are willing to, it can often open a door for a miracle.