So why are all of your romantic (and otherwise) relationships chronically abusive? Especially when you're so dead set on breaking the chain? Is it as simple as "accepting and perpetrating abuse because mom and dad demonstrated violence" like these researchers state? 

Today, let's talk about the actual brain patterning problems at play. What's going on in our heads that makes abuse seem both "normal" and "correct," especially when we live in a society that echoes all the same narratives and the fallacy of "security" plays up our continual terror states.

Talking oppositional programming, the abuser-abusee axis, energetic control, tit-for-tat agreements, and the manipulative power of offering security.

Want the whole conversation, including this MFs personal stories behind the episode and bonus content? Jump into the Blanket Fort at patreon.com, search "traumatized motherfuckers" and start getting a better grasp on yer stupid fucking brain.