An old story - everybody has one.

Typically old stories are framed by absolutes - "I never..." or "I always..." or "I'm not someone who..."

But we have the power to change our actions, and in doing so change our stories.

I want to change the story about myself that I'm not adventurous; I don't travel. I'm broadcasting this episode from Italy where I am in the midst of an adventure - an impromptu trip sparked by a friend who was traveling here for a conference.

By booking the flight (and showing up for it) I changed my mind about myself. I am a woman who travels and has adventures - I'm not just work, work, work.

But you can change any behavior, and the associated identity that goes with it. So what do you want to change?

Pick one negative thing you say about yourself - i.e. "I'm not a person who works out..." and then book something - a training session or pilates class - that refutes that idea. )I've found that if I spend money, I'm less likely to flake out).

I'm going to spend some time on this trip making a list of traits I wish I embodied. Then I'm going to sign up for one thing in each category so I can be on the road to being who I really want to be.

Feel free to hold me to it.