This episode is for the 40-something women who are entering their midlife era and are awake to the bullshit noise that is the shaming, dismissive media burying the wise women we worked for the first half of our lives to become.
We are not over the hill.
Our mid-sections do not need fixing.
We are not wearing the wrong clothes for our age. 

Our bodies are not supposed to look TWENTY!
WE ARE WILD AND FREE.
This era is about seeing through the cracks and looking past the societal pressures women have tried to smash through… well listen ladies, Elder Millennials are not going to lay down while we continue to spew hate and shame towards the women that, for the last two decades, were cat-called, desired (often to a fault), 

The only thing we are no longer capable of us bearing children.
It’s our time now to return to ourselves. We are going inward and walking down quiet, dusty and dark hallways we haven’t seen since our childhoods but this time we know the way and we’re back for good. We’re dusting, we’re decorating and we’re going to take over the world building empires right in plain sight.
We’re doing for our daughters. Our nieces. Our inner children. We are doing it for one another.
This isn’t a crisis. This is clarity. And if you forget, we’ll be right here to remind you.
It’s time you joined the conversation.

Grab your coffee and let’s chat. 

What could we possibly have to say about love languages?

Tonia and Vanessa have put a lot of work into understanding their own love languages and talk a lot in this episode about meeting others' love language needs also.

Which love language speaks to you?

Do you know the love languages of your spouse?

Do you know the love languages of your kids?

Do you know the love languages of your friends?

Having vulnerable conversations with the people in your life sure helps form better quality relationships filled with secure attachment (see Ep.5 of QCP: Attachment Styles) and trust. Your relationships will be much more fulfilling and a nurtured friend, spouse or child always reciprocates in kind.

Explore these love languages with us:

- Quality Time

- Physical Touch

- Acts of Service

- Words of Affirmation

- Receiving Gifts

Some of these we resonate with and others either don't impact us much or can even have negative responses. Deep dive with us into this conversation. Grab your coffee and let's chat!

Tonia and Vanessa discuss ways we can support up-and-coming generations, setting them up in ways where healing is basic decency. Instilling a standard level of being treated and accepting the treatment of other people means teaching our kids to say, "that’s not ok that you said that to me" or "that's strange that you said that out loud".

Dehumanizing conversations, as the great Brené Brown discusses, includes cruelty such as name calling, discriminating, or treating others immorally and is not to be tolerated. Full stop.

Tonia and Vanessa are passionate about teaching the next generation, so this unscripted and vulnerable conversation is about leading by example. We look forward in a way that is hopeful so we can change how we speak to other people and also is one more way we can break generational trauma cycles in our family systems.

This is the start of many subsequent conversations to come.

It's time for all elder millennials to join the conversation. Grab your coffee and let's chat.

Tonia and Vanessa deep dive into what regret means as 40-something women and how to view life through the lens of aging as a privilege and opportunity.

They believe authenticity plays a huge role in making sure the decisions you make align with your core values. If you're always making decisions from a place of clarity you might find a deeply rooted sense of peace about how your life unfolds.

Find out what regrets they've had, how they worked through them and how this particular topic influences the making of Episode 36!

How do you feel about regrets? Do you have any?

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Listen in and join the conversation. Grab your coffee and let's chat.

This conversation is an extension of so many we've had in previous episodes where we deep dive into how women process information and emotions. We recognize in our forties so many of the things we're scorned for or made fun of about.. is a function with great purpose. Women talk to work out their thoughts (get it? Thought process....) and often it takes a few runs through to finally find the other thing to the chain. Aha!

We know from Episode 26 that we can't expect one person to meet all of our needs.

We know from Episode 34 that strangling our relationships wasn't the way to go and that they ebb and flow through seasons and compassion.

So how do we process? And with who?

Help us and join the conversation! Grab you coffee, let's chat.

Listen as Tonia and Vanessa talk through the lessons they’ve learned as midlife unravels the intricacies of relationships. Throughout this transformative time in our lives we begin to understand how to have healthy adult relationships with the friends and family in our lives. We stop strangling out of fear and anxiety because we are no longer living in survival mode. We can see things more clearly as we work to live more in our peace than in our chaos. Midlife reveals how each of our relationships offers value and we are sinking more into that value and allowing everything else to be what it is. Take it or leave it.
And do you know what has happened?
We’ve made space for love to exist where once it might have felt forced. Relationships are feeling abundant. Our needs are being met, and our relationships are thriving. 

This episode also dives into a midlife book we’re listening to on audible that helps to make sense of stepping into our forties and beyond with a new idea. We gain so much clarity in this time because for the first time life is truly about coming back to ourselves. You need you. Perimenopause is meant to bring us back to ourselves, recognize there isn’t anything to fix but instead embrace with love and compassion. There is nothing to fix, we are not broken.
Au contraire, marketing works against the midlife woman telling us about our decline and all of the ways we can fix what’s wrong with us. It’s our important job to share our truth to help shift the narrative from viewing midlife women negatively to the beautifully slow transformation back to our own peace. When you’re sold a sad, scary story about becoming “old” and invaluable you aren’t prepared for what’s actually happening. Perimenopause is for you. Your second half of your life is all yours. When you know that in your soul you pour into yourself in ways you never have before and everything else blossoms around you because of it.
This is an important conversation starter! So grab your coffee and let’s chat.

As forty-something women entering our midlife era, it's time to get real about our expectations. For ourselves, for our people and for our careers. Do we constantly raise the bar? Is the bar high enough?

When we think about our standards, our core values and our beliefs about our own capabilities, are we gracious? Are we raising ourselves up?

Or are we skipping the celebration of transformation, of completion, of accomplishment to rush off to the next best thing. It's time to join the conversation with Tonia and Vanessa on this episode of the podcast. We love us some self improvement!

Grab your coffee and let's chat.

One of our strategies to stay ahead of your own self-doubt is to put other successful people’s voices in our ears when we’re striving for more in our lives or careers. Who has what we want? Who can we learn from? Who has set a very high standard example we can follow as a roadmap?
We’ve all met Imposter Syndrome in our lives if you’ve ever pushed yourself out of your comfort zone. Tonia & Vanessa started Quality Coffee Podcast pushing through inner voices, too. What matters at all is that any great idea is explore with a solid effort. No one who ever invented anything knew if it was going to work out. No billionaire accidentally fell into a pile of money after their first business idea took off the week after they started. It takes effort and discipline to work through those obstacles and anyone can do it so long as you try.
Let’s start this conversation and see where it might lead us. 40 something women… grab your coffee and let’s chat! 

The most important thing you need to remember about life is everything is made up! All of it! Tonia is an author and wrote a book about wine because she couldn’t find literature that actually helped to bridge the gap between wine drinker and wine expert. Now it exists because she made it up! Vanessa couldn’t find the quality skin care she needed so she did the research and made her own! It didn’t exist so she made it up!
You don’t have to be an entrepreneur to shit gears, either. You can do anything you want, especially nowadays. We live in an incredible time. Not only can you do almost anything, there is an abundance of opportunities to earn multiple streams of income. Elder Millennials are in such a unique position and there’s no limits to what we can and can’t do… with grit and discipline.
We don’t just discuss careers here, we also talk about designing your life to look exactly how it should in order for you to be the most optimal human being possible. Everything from alarm clocks to avoiding rush hour traffic, all in the name of increased peace and decreased chaos. Small tweaks can make a massive impact on your emotional and mental health.
Join the conversation and follow Quality Coffee Podcast for reminders about new episodes released every Friday! 

Just a couple of sisters sharing real life stories and laughs about midlife maturity, self love and acceptance. Loving yourself after life's experiences is what the Quality Coffee Podcast is all about. Honest millennial talks. It's a life upgrade podcast. Join us for weekly taboo subjects women have been apprehensive to talk about... until now. Tonia and Vanessa are conversation starters, breaking down vulnerabilities on their self-acceptance journey.

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