Raising Middle School Girls

The tactics that motivated our younger kids often don't work on our tweens and teens. So what does it take to get your kid to care about the stuff they need to do at school and beyond? In today's episode, Becca Block, author of Can you Help Me Give a Sh*t?, gives us the recipe to create an environment where our kids want to do the things that are good for them to do, and why some of the most common tactics for motivation result in burnout in some of our kids and apathy in others.

About the Guest:
Dr. Rebecca R. Block has been working in service of young people for over twenty years, and is the lead author of the new book Can You Help Me Give a Sh*t? Unlocking Teen Motivation in School and Life, which she co-wrote with undergraduate student Grace Edwards. As an educator, researcher, youth coach, and parent, she is steeped in both the research on motivation, positive youth development, and learning science as well as the lived experience of connecting with young people as they learn and grow. She's passionate about supporting young people in developing their agency, goals, and sustainable motivation so they can thrive not just in school but throughout their life.

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Does it feel like your middle schooler requires constant reminders to do the important things? Or does it feel like they're willfully not doing the things they need to do? It may not be intentional, but rather a gap in their executive functioning. In this episode, executive function coach Carrie Bonnett helps listeners understand how their children's brains work and provides strategies to help kids get things done. The good news is that even though some struggle with executive functioning, these are skills that can be taught to improve our kids' time management, organization, and more.

Books referenced in this episode:
The Gift of Failure, Jessica Lahey

About the Guest:
Carrie Bonnett is a veteran teacher and lifelong list-maker. She is an Executive Function coach based in Bend, Oregon, where she lives with her husband and two children. Carrie works with students and families all over the world. Her no-shame approach and the strategies she teaches:

• empower students to thrive in life and in school, 
• help parents and teachers to better support their children, and
• help adults get on top of all that life requires. 

Get Carrie's quick-start blueprint to help your middle schooler get things done without constant reminders.
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Learn more about Carrie's work at www.carriebonnett.com.

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Do you worry about what kind of "information" your kids are exposed to? From fake news, to clickbait headlines, to sneaky sales tactics, we're exposed to faulty logic everyday designed to make us think, feel or do things. What if your kid (and you) could learn how to spot these tactics and not fall victim to their attempts? With a little bit of knowledge it may be easier than you think. In today's episode, I talk with Kathy Gibbens, host of the Filter it Through a Brain Cell podcast. Kathy is a mom who's made it her mission to help teens learn how to think clearly in a world filled with bad reasoning.

Books mentioned in this podcast episode:
The Fallacy Detective

About the Guest
Kathy Gibbens loves teaching people how to think well. As a homeschool mom, one of her goals has been to teach her daughter HOW to think, not just WHAT to think. Kathy's daughter was in 7th grade when the pandemic broke out and that year they read a book about logical fallacies. To Kathy's surprise & delight, her daughter started to be able to recognize bad thinking everywhere! That's when Kathy realized that people who are trained to recognize truth and foolishness are impossible to fool!

She knew she had to start teaching this topic - our world desperately needs people who can think well! The Filter It Through a Brain Cell podcast was born and in each short, fun episode, Kathy teaches teens (and their parents!) how to recognize bad thinking, practice media discernment and think well.

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Do you feel like your relationship has become more challenging with your daughter in middle school? It may not be just a feeling. Many factors impact the mother daughter relationship during middle school. In this episode, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, Emotionally Focused Couples therapists, mothers, and co-hosts of the Honest Women podcast, discuss how to preserve and foster a healthy relationship with our daughters through these challenging years.

About the Guests:
Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison are two very real mental health therapists with thriving private practices in the suburbs of Chicago. They are the co-hosts of the Honest Women podcast, where they take the topics that come up all the time in therapy (aka, LIFE) and discuss them.  It's the podcast equivalent of drinks with your best mom-friends, if you best mom-friends just happen to be therapists!

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It’s so easy for us parents to do things for our kids so they can avoid failure, or simply to help them get ahead. Sometimes we do it out of fear of them getting it wrong, worrying about their future, impatience, or even simply to be nice. In fact, it often feels like allowing our kids to fail or expecting them to figure things out on their own is mean by today's parenting standards. But are we really helping our kids when we take over? In this episode, Jessica Lahey, acclaimed author of The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed shares her insights on the role failure plays in fostering resilience and competence in our kids, and why middle school is the perfect time for parents to begin passing the reigns to our kids, whether they (or we) are ready or not.

Books mentioned in this episode:
How to Be a Happier Parent, KJ Dell'Antonia
How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims

About the Guest:
Jessica Lahey is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Jess was awarded the Research Society on Alcohol’s Media Award for “outstanding journalistic efforts of writers who cover empirical research on alcohol” […] “for her book The Addiction Inoculation and advocacy for the recovery community.” Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She has written about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, The Atlantic, and her biweekly column “The Parent Teacher Conference” ran for three years at the New York Times. She designed and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning animated series The Stinky and Dirty Show, and was a 2019 Pushcart Prize nominee. Jess holds the dubious honor of having written an article that was later adapted as a writing prompt for the 2018 SAT. She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast from her empty nest in Vermont.

Learn more about Jessica's work at www.jessicalahey.com.
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Thank you for listening to the Raising Middle School Girls podcast. Want to hear more from experts who can help you support your middle school girl? Please subscribe to the podcast or sign up for the Raising Middle School Girls newsletter.  Do you have a burning question about raising your middle school girl? Send a DM to @RaisingMiddleSchoolGirls on Instagram to have your question considered for a future episode. We're in this together, parents!       

Parenting through the middle school years can be hard. Step-parenting a blended family - even more challenging. In this episode, I talk with Amy Stone about her experiences parenting and step-parenting through the middle and high school years, as well what steps parents of blended families can do to create a family they love.

About the Guest:
Amy Stone is a mentor, educator and coach for stepparents, parents and adults who are looking for a feeling of happiness and satisfaction in a blended family. She is a mom, a stepmom, and a step-grandma. Her personal journey from single woman to wife, stepmom and mom pushed her to create a unique path to happiness that she shares with other stepparents today.

Learn more about Amy's work at https://www.amysaysso.com
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Thank you for listening to the Raising Middle School Girls podcast. Want to hear more from experts who can help you support your middle school girl? Please subscribe to the podcast or sign up for the Raising Middle School Girls newsletter.  Do you have a burning question about raising your middle school girl? Send a DM to @RaisingMiddleSchoolGirls on Instagram to have your question considered for a future episode. We're in this together, parents!       

Does your daughter want to be a part of the elite group of popular girls at her school? Or is she a part of a popular group where she no longer feels like she can be herself? In this episode, child and adolescent therapist Hannah Leib walks us through the difference between popularity, power and authentic friendships in middle school. We discuss why some girls are pulled into the popularity trap, why great kids can be excluded, and how to support your daughter's self-confidence in a way that helps her develop authentic friendships.

About the Guest
Hannah Leib, LCSW, is a child and adolescent teen therapist whose passion stems from her own mental health battles throughout her childhood and teen years. In college, she started a mental health support group called Thrive, in which she led discussions on mental health and student life. It grew into a successful program, which then led her to achieve a Fulbright scholarship in Bulgaria in 2016 after she graduated with a Bachelor's degree from Pitzer College. She is now a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is dedicated to helping children and teens grow and glow into their best selves.

Learn more about Hannah's work at www.growandglowchildtherapyla.com.
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So much weight sits on the shoulders of teen girls today in a society that pressures them to fit in a box influenced by social media and achievement culture. How do we help our girls break free from that mold, to become the strong, confident individuals they're meant to be? In today's episode, Chelsey Goodan, author of the new book, Underestimated: The Power and Wisdom of Teenage Girls, talks about what's really on the minds of teen girls and how we as parents can break through. Chelsea offers both an understanding of what teen girls want, as well as practical how to advice parents can implement with their teen today to improve her confidence and sense of identity.

About the Guest:
Chelsey Goodan has been an academic tutor and mentor for sixteen years, with a particular emphasis on the empowerment of teenage girls. She regularly speaks to audiences about gender justice, conducts workshops, and coaches parents on how to better understand and connect with their daughters. She is the founder of The Activist Cartel and the mentorship director of DemocraShe, a nonprofit that guides teenage girls from historically underrepresented communities into leadership positions. As an activist, she advises public figures, galvanizes volunteers, and organizes large-scale events for national nonprofits, while also serving on the board of A Call to Men, a nonprofit working to end gender-based violence. Her passion to explore humanity’s potential for authenticity, liberation, and empowerment permeates all of her work.

Learn more about Chelsey at https://www.chelseygoodan.com/.
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Thank you for listening to the Raising Middle School Girls podcast. Want to hear more from experts who can help you support your middle school girl? Please subscribe to the podcast or sign up for the Raising Middle School Girls newsletter.  Do you have a burning question about raising your middle school girl? Send a DM to @RaisingMiddleSchoolGirls on Instagram to have your question considered for a future episode. We're in this together, parents!     

Middle school prepares our kids for high school. High school prepares our kids for college. But does college always prepare our kids for life after college? In this episode,  I talk with Dr. Kevin J. Fleming, bestselling author of (Re)Defining the Goal and producer of multiple viral career planning videos including Success in the New Economy. Kevin discusses the 4 skills and 4 steps our kids need to obtain true career success, the limitations of traditional schooling in obtaining these skills, and what parents can do starting in middle school to help our kids prepare.

About the Guest:
Dr. Kevin J Fleming is an educator, speaker, producer of multiple, viral animation videos including Success in the New Economy, and author of the bestseller, (Re)Defining the Goal. Dissatisfied with the status quo, he has dedicated over two decades advancing career education forward as both a faculty member and administrator. Dr. Fleming serves as the Founder and CEO of Catapult, which delivers masterclasses to educators and schools helping to make all education relevant. Dr. Fleming is a passionate advocate ensuring all students intentionally equip their potential, enter the labor market with a competitive advantage, and find their purpose on purpose.

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Check out Success in the New Economy and other career planning videos.
Check out (Re)Defining the Goal: The True Path to Career Readiness in the 21st Century.
Learn more about Kevin's work at www.kevinjfleming.com.

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In this episode, licensed therapist and author Keri Cooper speaks candidly about the teen girl anxiety crisis. Keri discusses the drivers of increased anxiety, what parents should look for, and the skills our teens need so they can build confidence and reduce fear and anxiety.


About the Guest
Keri Cooper LCSW is a therapist who works with teens. Her second book is a workbook for teens, Mental Health Uncensored: 10 Foundations Every Teen Needs To Know. She is a speaker and writer who helps educate teens and parents on the topics teens face in everyday life.
Learn more about Keri's work at https://kericooperholistictherapy.com/.
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Thank you for listening to the Raising Middle School Girls podcast. Want to hear more from experts who can help you support your middle school girl? Please subscribe to the podcast or sign up for the Raising Middle School Girls newsletter.  Do you have a burning question about raising your middle school girl? Send a DM to @RaisingMiddleSchoolGirls on Instagram to have your question considered for a future episode. We're in this together, parents!