Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

How can we help our children bounce back from setbacks and build lasting resilience? In this episode, Dr. Lisa Damour, Reena and Dr. Tovah Klein dive into the critical role parents play in fostering resilience in children. They break down the five pillars of resilience and offer practical advice on helping kids navigate failure while maintaining a steady presence. They discuss the importance of self-awareness and self-care for parents as we guide our children through life’s inevitable challenges.

We want to hear from you! How do you help your children build resilience, and what challenges have you faced along the way?

Tovah’s book: https://www.tovahklein.com/books#order

Tovah’s website: https://www.tovahklein.com/

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Keywords: resilience, children, parents, emotions, connection, acceptance, failure, setbacks, self-awareness, self-care, steady presence, dr. tovah p. klein

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Is it okay for tweens and teens to swear? Or is it a behavior that is always grounds for concern? In this episode, Reena and Dr. Lisa tackle a heartfelt letter from a mom struggling with her 10-year-old’s explosive outbursts and explore why children are drawn to swearing and how, at times, it can be used to cause or express emotional pain. Dr. Lisa unpacks the research on why people swear, emphasizes the importance of predictability and consistency in setting boundaries around cursing, and discusses when swearing in tweens and teens might be a sign that it’s time to seek therapy or school counseling.

We want to hear from you! How do you handle swearing in your household? Do you have the same rules for yourself and your kids?

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Keywords: swearing, cursing, emotional pain, therapy, predictability, consistency, swear words

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Is your teen struggling with depression? This episode offers essential guidance on how parents can support their teens through tough times, from managing daily routines and addressing intrusive thoughts, to assessing the risk of self-harm. Dr. Lisa discusses various treatment options, including medication, therapy, and exercise, while emphasizing the importance of open conversations and the role of social media.

We want to hear from you! How do you set healthy boundaries and safeguard your child’s mental well-being?

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Keywords: depression, teens, routines, intrusive thoughts, self-harm, medication, therapy, exercise, social media, boundaries

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Is your child uninterested in team sports in a sports-obsessed town? In this episode, Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena offer practical advice for parents on finding alternative activities that align with your child's passions, while still fostering social connections. They explore the importance of nurturing your child’s confidence and self-worth, whether or not that includes team sports. 

We want to hear from you! Do you have a kid in a similar position? 

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Keywords: support, team sports, athletic, unathletic, sports-obsessed town, physical activity, alternative physical activities, social connection, confidence, self-worth

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Wondering how to approach the topic of masturbation with your teen? In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Reena dive into the challenges and importance of having open conversations about sexual development. They explore how sex-positive parenting can help remove shame from these discussions while respecting teens' need for privacy and boundaries. They also cover the influence of pornography and how parents can guide their teens toward healthier understandings of sex and relationships through thoughtful sex education. 

We want to hear from you! How do you foster non-judgmental communication and promote healthy attitudes toward sexuality?

Books mentioned in this episode:

Girls & Sex by Peggy Orenstein

Boys & Sex by Peggy Orenstein

Sex, Teens, & Everything In Between by Shafia Zaloom

Yes, Your Kid by Debby Herbenick

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Keywords: masturbation, sex-positive parenting, shame, privacy, boundaries, pornography, sex education

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Feeling overwhelmed by the college admissions process? Dr. Lisa and Reena talk with Rick Clark, Executive Director of Strategic Student Access at Georgia Tech, to address key questions from listeners. From when to start the process, how to navigate standardized tests, to what it takes to craft a standout college essay, Rick shares expert advice on how to help your teen shine. Tune in to hear Rick’s perspective on financial aid, academic scholarships, athletic scholarships, and when it makes sense to turn to college consultants for support. 

We want to hear from you! How do you maintain a positive mindset and support your teen during the college admissions process? 

Rick’s Blog: https://sites.gatech.edu/admission-blog/author/rc218/

Rick’s Book & Workbook: https://www.truthaboutcollegeadmission.com/books

Rick’s Podcast: https://www.truthaboutcollegeadmission.com/podcast

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Keywords: college admissions, process, standardized tests, support, college essay, standing out, college admissions, test-optional, college essay prompts, athletic scholarships, financial aid, scholarships, college consultants, positive mindset

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Is your teen acting entitled? In this episode, Dr. Lisa shares practical tips to help parents and caregivers address entitlement and guide teens toward becoming responsible, empathetic adults. Dr. Lisa and Reena explore how holding high expectations, giving kids meaningful responsibilities, and being empathic can help teens move past self-centered behavior.

We want to hear from you! How do you handle entitlement and maintain perspective during this phase?

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Keywords: entitlement, teenagers, parenting, routines, responsibilities, empathy, perspective, self-care

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Is your middle schooler caught in the whirlwind of trash-talking and competitive behavior? You’re not alone. A parent writes asking for guidance on how to handle the social dynamics that boys often face in middle school, where establishing social power can involve trash-talking and intense competition. But what happens when your child feels uncomfortable with these behaviors? Dr. Lisa offers expert advice on how parents can be sensitive to their kids’ feelings, offer empathy, and start meaningful conversations that help them navigate these tricky situations. Reena & Dr. Lisa discuss practical strategies to guide your child through this challenging phase.

We’d love to hear your thoughts! How do you manage competitive behavior and social dynamics in middle school? 

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Keywords: boys, middle school, trash-talking, competitive behavior, social power, sensitive, parenting

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Are you struggling to support your teen through the ups and downs of body image and self-acceptance? Reena & Dr. Lisa dive into the complex psychology of parenting teens and tweens as they navigate eating, weight, and activity levels during puberty. A concerned parent writes in about her daughters’ struggles with body image. This episode explores the critical role parents play in supporting their teenagers through weight gain and body changes, addresses the dangers of dieting and restricted eating, and notes the red flags that may indicate the onset of an eating disorder. 

We want to hear from you! How do you help your teenager build a healthy relationship with food and their body?

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Keywords: teenagers, body image, weight gain, puberty, eating disorders, healthy eating habits, body positivity, red flags, parenting

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Ready to make this school year your child’s best year yet? We’re kicking off Season 5 with special guest U.S. Secretary of Education Miguel Cardona! In this episode, Reena and Lisa explore the initiatives shaping the future of education. They discuss the importance of building community in schools, reducing chronic absenteeism, enhancing out-of-school activities, and expanding access to mental health support. Secretary Cardona shares powerful advice for parents on advocating for their children and celebrating their unique strengths, and Lisa emphasizes the critical role of connection in learning. 

More info on the 2024 Back to School Bus Tour.

We want to hear from you! How are you preparing your child for the new school year?

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Keywords: education, school year, community, chronic absenteeism, out-of-school time, mental health support, relationships, uniqueness

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