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Negativity is such an easy thing to get caught up in, especially if you have many people in your life that engage in that type of mindset. Which is why I'm giving you 6 tips on how to not get caught up in the web of negativity, which is just a black hole.

Show Notes:
I live in this mindset that I need to stand up for what is right & correct based on societal rules & what has been agreed upon as a world that it gets me in trouble sometimes. I’m high on justice & want people to follow the rules. And I don’t think these ideals are terrible, but it’s when I try to tell someone that they didn’t make the right choice where things get tough.

And I don’t do it rudely or even all the time, but maybe more than I should. But I’d say most of the time, this doesn’t really bother anyone else because I’m saying it respectively. It does, however, bother people that like to deal in negativity.

I wouldn’t say my life is full of toxic people (something we should all evaluate in our lives on the regular) but there are some that are toxic in the sense that negativity is their main vibe. And I believe that I am in those people’s lives for a reason, but it can become extremely difficult to keep being a light in their lives when it’s the same attitude all the time. No change.

And you can’t convince or make someone change if they don’t want to or aren’t ready to, so the only thing to do is find a way to not get caught in their web of negativity.

That’s why today I wanted to chat with you about what we should do instead of giving in to someone else’s negativity:

1. Be Aware of When Negativity is Coming
2. Don’t Get Reeled In to Their Toxicity (change topic & don’t rationalize)
3. Remember It’s Not About You
4. Know It’s Not Your Problem to Solve 
5. Refrain from Responding or Contributing Too Much
6. Keep Being the Light in Their Life

There will be times you need to end relationships with people for your own personal health. And that is perfectly fine. Don’t let anyone tell you different.

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Lying to ourselves is something we do on the regular, whether we realize it or not. Let's chat about 5 common lies we tell ourselves & why these lies aren't helpful & how to handle those experiences differently.

Show Notes:
It’s super easy to lie to ourselves. It’s super easy to tell ourselves something isn’t happening, something isn’t affecting us, nothing is wrong or even that you will get to or deal with something later. More often than not we are trying to tell ourselves things have to be a certain way when that’s not really true. Lies to ourselves are pretty deep in limiting beliefs.

And I knew this would be a helpful topic to chat about because it’s something we all struggle with. Plus, it’s something I haven’t spoken about, either. At least not directly spoken about.

Now before we get into the lies, let’s talk about cognitive dissonance. The lies we tell ourselves have a lot to do with cognitive dissonance. This is a term that basically means we as people have a tension between who we believe we are & how we are behaving. There is an inconsistency with our thoughts, beliefs & actions & it really boils down to finding a way to relieve that tension & unease that comes from uncomfortable situations.

And this will make more sense when we go over the examples I have pulled to talk about today. But for a general definition, cognitive dissonance is the perception of contradictory information. It can be contradictory because you aren’t sure how you should feel versus how you want to feel or how someone else wants you to feel. So this is why it’s so easy for us to tell ourselves lies because with enough confusion, you just want something you can lean on & move forward with

Today we are going to talk about 5 common lies we tell ourselves & what we should do instead:

1. I Don’t Have a Choice
2. I Have to Be Perfect
3. If I Ignore It, It Will Go Away
4. I’ll Never Be Smart Enough
5. When I Get This I Will Be Happy

Hopefully, I didn’t confuse you in any way on understanding cognitive dissonance & that this was helpful for you to understand that you don’t have to lie to yourself for comfort. And that making the easy choice isn’t always the best choice.

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Faking your feelings can also be seen as wearing a mask. It’s an emotional mask, obviously, but it’s still a mask that is meant to cover up what is actually going on.

Show Notes:
There are so many reasons for you to put an emotional mask on. It could be your inability to trust people right now, history with not being believed in your feelings, shame & embarrassment, and many other reasons. And I want you to know the reasons matter, but not as much as you may think. What’s more important is figuring out how to not let those reasons get in the way of allowing your mindset to shift when it comes to no longer using the mask.

It’s very easy for us to use what has happened in the past to crowd our thoughts & decision-making when trying to create change in our lives. We don’t want to go through the same thing again. And I get that. It’s tough to endure the same experience over & over if it’s not a positive one. But unless we impart some change in our lives, we will be susceptible to the same things happening over & over in our lives because we aren’t doing anything to move forward. Standing still & doing nothing is not hiding. You’re still exposed to the trouble. And you can’t go backwards because that would be worse. You need to move forward, which is scary, but necessary & will allow you to break free.

This was me for so many years of my life. I didn’t feel like I could share my feelings with anyone, even my family, that I was hurting, in pain and needed support & help. It was because the few times I did ask for help, I was rejected or made to feel like I was being weak or bad for experiencing anything negative or making a deal about it. And I moved through my life being more fake than real until I was in college. My mask started to break because it was all too much to bare. And those broken pieces allowed a few people to get in & be trusted, but not many. I think I was in my early 30’s when I finally started to take off the mask.

This means that no matter how old you are or have far gone you believe you are wearing your own mask that you can still take it off. It might take a bit of work, support from others & courage, but it can be done. And maybe you won’t let everything out all at once, but if you can start with being honest about your emotions, it will be a really good beginning.

Let’s go through 4 reasons why it’s important to stop pretending to be happy:

1. You can’t honor your feelings when you’re pretending what those feelings are.
2. You can’t get help with your mental health struggles if you pretend there aren’t any.
3. The longer you pretend, the heavier everything will feel, which could lead you to crack under pressure.
4. You’re not being authentic to yourself if you’re pretending to feel one way when you actually feel another.

My hope is this information & chat has helped you realize that pretending to be happy & keeping your mask up is only the act of continually causing pain for yourself because it only gets harder & harder the longer you wait to be free of that burden.

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I have spoken many times about having boundaries with others, but I think it’s time we spoke about having boundaries with ourselves. 

Show Notes:
This might sound like a weird concept because it sounds like we would be limiting ourselves, which isn’t the message that is being passed around in today’s society. But actually, having limits & sort of a set of rules for yourself can help you feel safe & in an already established mindset of what is best for you & will serve you well, in your current season of life, of course.

I think one of the reasons I like boundaries so much is because I am such a lover of rules. And no, boundaries aren’t exactly rules, but these are a set of decisions you know will work best for you & keep you from falling into giving too much or too little of yourself, which can lead to a negative headspace. 

A rule is more definitive, generally, and set for someone else, where boundaries are created for your benefit. But I love rules & boundaries because both of these set expectations from the jump & that’s comforting. 

So let’s get into some boundaries we can set for ourselves that will help us become our best selves. Because boundaries are meant to help you take care of yourself by managing stress, creating healthy relationships, taking care of yourself physically & really taking the time to recognize what you need in your life to flourish.

Here are 7 examples of boundaries you can set for yourself:

1. Managing your finances properly with a budget & paying bills on time
2. Establishing a bedtime & wake-up time & sticking to it
3. Setting limits on how much you will work each week
4. Avoiding people who hurt you, stress you out, influence the worst in you
5. Not participating in gossip or talking behind someone’s back
6. Taking rest & mental health days
7. Taking time to process your emotions & honor your feelings

I hope going through these examples of boundaries you can set for yourself has been helpful & will lead to creating a list of your own or just using these ones mentioned here.

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Sometimes you need a little more than just recognizing what you're grateful for & just choosing to be happy to get through the really tough days. I'm sharing 7 suggestions on how to power through those really tough days & make it a tiny bit easier on yourself.

Show Notes:
Not every day of our lives is going to be rainbows & sunshine. I think we all know this to be true. And I know I speak a ton on being grateful & focusing on the silver lining moments so as not to push yourself into a funk or bad headspace or to even pull yourself out of the mood, but sometimes you need more backup to get through the really hard days.

Tough days take so much more energy than normal days, especially if you are struggling with depression or anxiety or something else that could be plaguing your mental health.

I have had some tough days lately, but thankfully mostly good ones. But this weekend I was dealing with some strong emotions & all I wanted to do was just get through the day. I would still point out what I was grateful for, but I wasn’t interested in making the most of the day or pushing myself to be better or stronger or more capable. I just needed to get through it. I needed to get on the other side of it so that I could get back to being my best self.

We all have really hard days, weeks, seasons of life & it can get tougher & tougher to navigate each day if those days continue to stack. It can start to feel neverending & hopeless. Which is why I thought it would be really important to give you some ideas to fall back on when all you need to do is get through your day without you falling apart.

Let me share with you 7 suggestions for you to try when you just need to get through your tough days as unscathed as possible:

1. Acknowledge you’re having a tough day/season & that it’s ok
2. Find someone you enjoy talking to & have a chat
3. Complete tasks one at a time & give multitasking a break
4. Try a little self-care (I know it’s cliche but it helps)
5. Limit your exposure to toxic people
6. Remind yourself you are not your problems or situations
7. Find small things to look forward to at the ends of your days

Hopefully these suggestions are helpful to you! I understand the pain & effort it can take to just get through really rough days. But it’s better to find the best, more supportive way than one that just causes more drama & dissatisfaction.

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Let's chat about what we need to lean into more in our lives that will give us more energy & what we should try to avoid that is likely sucking energy out of us more than we know.

Show Notes:
I think we can all agree that we spend too much time worrying about what could go wrong in our lives & what problems we have, rather than what’s going well & what breakthroughs we are having. This kind of thinking can really zap our energy & not really push us to keep going or have the amount of hope we should be having that things will get better. We aren’t doing ourselves any favors by leaning into the negatives. Which is why today, I want to talk about what we should lean into that will actually give us energy & not add more weight to our lives.

It’s amazing how easily our energy can be drained by focusing on negative or hard things happening in our lives. And maybe this is something you have never really noticed because it’s become a habit. I totally get it. Plus, it takes way less effort to be negative than it does to be positive. There is actual effort involved in being positive, especially when you are going through something really tough in your life. You have to be purposeful in managing your mindset & not letting really big things & really small things through you out of whack completely.

And yes, I am going to suggest some things to lean into that will bring you more energy, but first I want to discuss some specific things that suck your energy away. Here are 5 good ones to consider whether you’re struggling with or not:

Overthinking

Being Disorganized

Not Getting Enough Sleep

Holding Onto Anger & Resentment

Toxic People

Now, let’s discuss 5 things that you should lean into that will give you energy:

Clear Boundaries

Learning Something New

Do Something For Yourself (Self Care or Hobby)

Supportive People

Consistency & Goal Planning 

I hope discussing what we should & should not be leaning into was helpful & will push you to really consider what you are allowing in your life & whether or not it’s helping you become your best self or leading you in the opposite direction.

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Let's stop wasting time only dreaming about who we want to become & start acting like the person NOW while we work into it.

Show Notes:
I believe we spend too much time thinking about who we want to be and not actually working on becoming that person. We need to start acting like the person we want to become, not just dream about it.

I live in a ton of fear. The problem with living your life in fear is that it becomes more & more difficult to get out of that mindset & lifestyle as more fear piles on & piles in. You fear making a positive change in your life because you don’t know, without a shadow of a doubt, that it’s going to work out. And there is no way to know what you want to happen will actually turn out, so you continue to live in fear because you lack absolute certainty.

You have to convince yourself that the possibility of taking a chance on something you really want & desire to do & be is worth the risk, whether it works out or not. And yes, this can & probably will induce more fear, but you have to strengthen your mindset to be tougher than it has been. You have to push yourself to take a few chances to experience disappointment & fulfillment. Some things will work out & others won’t. It’s just how the world works.

But maybe you don’t struggle with living in fear. I do understand that just because you don’t live in fear doesn’t mean you won’t struggle with putting action into the person you want to become. Fear can still linger there, but maybe your real issue is doubt.

It could be your own doubt you placed in your mind, from seeing others fail or succeed. But it could also be doubt that someone else has placed in your mind, whether out of love & protection or purposeful pain. Either way, it’s not good and will need to be conquered to fully act like the person you want to be now.

My biggest reason for not acting like the person I want to be now is because I am afraid people will judge me for it. It’s not a great reason, but I do struggle with being a people pleaser. I care way too much about what other people think about me & it gets in the way of me trying new things & really putting myself out there to fail, succeed, make mistakes & experience life even more. Or to even figure if the thing I want to become is really for me. 

How will I know if I never try??

So today, I am going to give you a few tips on how you can start acting like the person you want to be, whether you struggle with fear, lack of experience, seeds of doubt or something else. And none of these things are quick fixes.

Here are 4 tips to help you start becoming the person you want to be:

1. Accept that people will judge you & that’s on them, not you.

2. Start adding in something new each week to slowly acclimate yourself to what it would be like to do those things as this person.

3. Keep notes/journal of how you feel trying these new things & whether or not you need to change course/direction or make any tweaks.

4. Remember you are never too old or young or whatever to attempt to do whatever it is you are wanting to do.

Thank you again for listening & I hope this episode was helpful.

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You can make every single day a new day if you choose to. Let's talk about why that's important & a couple of tips on how to go about it.

Show Notes: 
I think I talk about this topic of accepting & understanding that every single day can be a new day a lot because it’s really hard to believe. It’s hard to believe this when you are in a really hard season of life. It’s really hard to accept when life doesn’t feel like it’s getting better or easier or anything. And it’s really difficult to leave behind the hurts, the pains, the betrayal, the loneliness, the love & the confusion. 

It’s really tough for me to leave behind emotions that haven’t fully been figured out. Like trying to understand why this person doesn’t like me, love me, why they hate me, why this relationship is the way it is. Or even the things that didn’t go my way or exactly the way I wanted it to go or even why I couldn’t figure something out about my life.

But to be honest, these are all things that don’t need to be our concern. We can’t change the past & the future isn’t in our control, either. So the best thing to do is learn from everything we go through, good & bad, & move forward to experience what comes next.

But in our attempts to let go of what has happened in the past, it’s important to know that allowing ourselves to have a fresh start every single day can be life changing, depending on how deep our control issues go or how high our anxiety can be.

Today can be a new day for you, if you let it be. You can’t just expect some magic to happen that will force you to have a good day. You have to make the cognitive choice to allow the day to be a new day, not allow your baggage from the previous day(s) drag you down into the following days & understand that by allowing yourself to have a fresh start, you will be stronger than you were before. You will have the opportunity to have a new perspective on this new day & even the ones from before. You are not allowing the past to cloud your vision for the future. You are not allowing what happened yesterday to get in the way of today.

Here are a couple of tips to start each day as a new day without letting yesterday get in the way:

1. Evaluate your day at the end of THAT day, not the next day.
2. Commit to understanding that lessons need to be learned from past experiences to serve you better in the future.
3. Decide who you want to be today & commit to those attributes.
4. Understand you can’t enjoy today if you’re so worried about yesterday & tomorrow.

Thank you again for listening & I hope this episode was helpful.

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Let's discuss why it's so hard to be ourselves & some thoughts to ponder on to get us in the mindset to be ourselves more & what baby steps we can take to get on that journey.

Show Notes:
I struggle with being my true self so much. It’s actually the reason I have dedicated myself to helping others be more authentic & vulnerable because I know it will help me & I would love it if any of my knowledge & research & discovery helps someone else, too.

But I have spent so much money on books to help me understand how to be more of myself. And I, even still, spend tons of time listening to sermons & podcasts & audio books & read blogs & try my hardest to just freaking understand what I’m supposed to do to be me.

Isn’t it interesting that we need other people’s advice to know how to be ourselves? We, for some reason, do not have the capacity to just look inside ourselves & know who we are. Oh wait, yes we do. We do have this capability, yet we don’t do it. 

You know what we do? We look inside & think that what we see is wrong & that by some magic of following someone else’s advice, we will be able to figure out who we are because of what they say. We are looking at ourselves through their lens. Which, don’t get me wrong, it can be a really great lens that speaks so highly of us & tells us how amazing & awesome we are & that we are stronger than we think & believe & just need to tap into it. Because apparently it’s super easy.

But it’s not easy, as we all know. It’s easier for some, but still a tough task for most because by being yourself, your true self, you are exposing yourself to the world. A world that sometimes judges us & hates us & doesn’t like us or is willing to accept us. And these are big reasons to stay hidden & pretend to be what the world wants. Or be nothing at all. Just a shadow person not really doing anything.

But I’m not here to convince you that being yourself isn’t something you should do. We should all do it. I’m reading a book right now called, “How to Be Yourself” by Ellen Hendricksen because I long to be my true self. But I needed to call out the fact that it’s really really hard. Especially if you have spent a good portion of your life pretending to be someone else.

Unfortunately, I don’t have any real answers to offer you today on how to be yourself. I’m still trying to figure it out. But I do have 1 piece of advice for you: Start with being true to yourself with 1 thing every day. This means that if you have pretended to not like something, even though you really do like something, just admit it. Then keep building on this with what you like to do, how you want to live your life & so on. Because at least it’s a start.

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Let's chat about triggers & discovering that some of your reactions may be due to triggers you didn't know existed. I'll also be sharing a list of triggers to consider if you believe you might have experiences you are consistently reacting to.

Show Notes:
A lot of times we get triggered by things & are not even realizing that our reaction is due to a trigger. A trigger is when something comes up that reminds you of a negative experience you went through. And that can be anything, like someone you encounter resembles an attacker, you go a place where something negative happened before, you observe someone else getting abused the way you were, hearing similar words or verbal attacks you have dealt with in the past, or even being touched a seemingly innocent way that was used abusively before.

I didn’t realize until the last couple years that getting hugs from people I don’t have a very close relationship with was very triggering for me. It made me feel very uncomfortable, but I never took the time to really understand why or that I was even that weird about it, unless someone was trying to give me a hug. It’s interesting because it was other people’s comments that really opened my eyes to something that I was dealing with.

Which is something to be aware of, too. You might not think you have any triggers, but you could without even knowing it & those close to you could be really insightful if you feel like it’s something you want to know more about.

And today I want to chat about 10 different things that have been known to cause triggers & situations to consider thinking over when these happen to better understand yourself & growth personally. some

1. Feeling forgotten or excluded.
2. Feeling unsafe.
3. Feeling like you aren’t cared for.
4. Feeling unloved in any type of relationship.
5. Feeling trapped.
6. Feeling like you couldn’t speak up or unheard.
7. Feeling like something wasn’t fair.
8. Feeling like someone is blaming you.
9. Feeling judged by others.
10. Feeling like you’re being manipulated.

Hopefully having this set of examples & speaking on triggers is helpful to you!

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