What does it take to rebuild your life after unimaginable tragedy? Dr. Kimberly Harms knows this journey intimately. Born as a thalidomide baby with seven fingers, she defied an advisor who told her dental school was impossible, going on to become the first female president of the Minnesota Dental Association. But her greatest challenges came later – losing her mother to suicide, then facing her son Eric's suicide at just 19 years old.

The moment that transformed her grief journey came unexpectedly in a parking lot, when someone confronted her about how her suffering was affecting her remaining children. This wake-up call sparked her determination to "kick and scream and fight" her way out of the grief pit – not just for herself, but for everyone who loved her.

Dr. Harms shares practical wisdom from managing her dental practice through tragedy, including creating "crying rooms" and systems to help team members support each other through crisis. But perhaps most profound were the lessons she learned while establishing 65 libraries across Rwanda in her son's memory. There, genocide survivors who had lost everything taught her about true forgiveness – not forgetting, but choosing to build something new from devastation.

This conversation offers rare insight into how someone moves forward when life divides into "before" and "after." Dr. Harms doesn't sugarcoat the difficulty of this journey, emphasizing that finding joy again requires active fighting against negative self-talk and shame. Yet her message radiates hope: no matter what tragedy has occurred, love and joy remain possible if we're willing to fight for them.

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