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April 07Ep 92 - Purity After Divorce: Does It Still Matter?
Is purity still relevant after divorce—or is it something reserved for the never-married?

In this honest and thought-provoking episode, we dive into what Scripture actually says about sexual purity, sanctification, and honoring God with your body after divorce. Looking at passages like 1 Thessalonians 4, Romans 7, and 1 Corinthians 6, we unpack the tension between flesh and Spirit, the cultural lies surrounding sexuality, and the deeper purpose behind God’s call to holiness.

This episode isn’t about shame—it’s about alignment, healing, and walking in freedom.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:
What “sanctification” (hagiasmos) really means
Why purity is not limited to the unmarried or inexperienced
The truth about porneia and God’s design for sexuality
How sexual choices impact emotional and spiritual healing
The difference between struggling and surrendering
Why purity protects your future—not just your present
SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
1 Thessalonians 4:3–8
1 Corinthians 6:13–20
Romans 7:21–25
SHOWS REFERENCED:
Episode 58
Episode 67
Episode 68
CALL TO ACTION:
If this episode encouraged or challenged you, share it with someone who needs truth and hope.
Be sure to follow Redeemed Identity After Divorce for more faith-based healing, real conversations, and practical steps forward.

We are the fragrance of Christ,

Dana

WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com
LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/
SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/#

Amazon:

Healing After Divorce Paperback:
https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp
Healing After Divorce ebook
https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:

YOUTUBE:
https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce
25 min
March 31Ep 91, From Porn Addiction to Freedom – A Man’s Real-Life Journey
Pornography can quietly take control of a man’s life, heart, and relationships—and yet few speak honestly about it. In this final episode of our series on pornography, a men’s ministry leader shares his real story: how it started, how it escalated, the damage it caused, and how he finally found lasting freedom.
We cover:
How pornography first entered his life and why it escalated
The emotional, spiritual, and relational damage he experienced
What true repentance and accountability look like
How he achieved freedom and maintains it today
Advice for men struggling in silence and those supporting them
Disclaimer: This episode discusses pornography and addiction. It is intended for awareness, hope, and biblical guidance—not to shame or condemn.

Whether you’re personally affected, supporting someone, or seeking understanding, this conversation offers honesty, insight, and practical hope for freedom and restoration.

To watch on YouTube and engage with our audience there, go to https://youtu.be/us8aCF2Kg58

We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com
LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/
SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/#

Amazon:
Healing After Divorce Paperback:
https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp
Healing After Divorce ebook
https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:
PODCAST:

APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447

YOUTUBE:
https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce
31 min
March 24Ep 90, Understanding Porn Addiction and the Path to Healing from a Pastoral Perspective
⚠️ Disclaimer
This episode discusses pornography, sexual immorality, betrayal trauma, and marital restoration. While no explicit details are shared, the themes may be emotionally triggering. Listen with care and step away if needed.

Episode Summary
Pornography is one of the quietest home-wreckers in Christian marriages—not because people don’t care, but because they’re afraid to talk about it. In this episode, we sit down with Pastor Ben Brinkman of Canvas Church to unpack the spiritual, emotional, and relational impact of pornography from a pastoral perspective.
We talk honestly about betrayal, repentance, biblical grounds for divorce, and the hidden damage that ongoing pornography use can cause. Whether you’re the one struggling or the spouse carrying the weight of secrecy and lies, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and a path toward healing.
👤 Guest: Pastor Ben Brinkman, Canvas Church – San Diego
Pastor Ben and his wife Katie have been in ministry since 1999 and are passionate about helping people grow in faith and experience real transformation. Known for his humor, biblical clarity, and practical teaching, Pastor Ben brings a grounded, grace-filled perspective to this difficult conversation.

🗣️ What We Discuss in This Episode
Why pornography is often a hidden root issue in struggling marriages
Whether pornography use qualifies as a form of infidelity
How betrayal trauma impacts the heart and mind of the wounded spouse
Where pornography fits within Jesus’ teaching on sexual immorality in Matthew 19
The emotional and spiritual fallout of repeated lying, gaslighting, or secrecy
What true repentance looks like—and when someone needs professional help
How pastors and churches can better support BOTH spouses without pressure or shame
Why “just reconcile” can be harmful when safety and emotional well-being are ignored
What someone should know if they’re realizing, "This is my marriage..."

💛 Listener Reflection (Outro)
Before you close this episode, take a breath. Whatever came up—grief, conviction, anger, clarity—those feelings matter.
If you’re struggling with pornography, freedom begins with honesty, not hiding.
If you’ve been betrayed, you’re allowed to seek safety, healing, and truth.
You are not weak or unspiritual for needing support beyond prayer.
Jesus’ teaching on sexual immorality is meant to protect hearts, not shame them.
Sit with this conversation, pray through it, and reach out to safe, wise support if needed.
Pastor Ben closes us with a powerful prayer for all listeners walking this road.

RESOURCES

Episode on Betrayal Trauma
On YouTube: https://youtu.be/C1e1ZWziB7E

Ted Roberts, Pure Desire:

Covenant Eyes:

YouTube Version: https: //youtu.be/M6MGb3pMz4E

🔗 Connect with Redeemed Identity After Divorce
WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com
LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/
SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/#

Amazon:

Healing After Divorce Paperback:
https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp

Healing After Divorce ebook
https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:

PODCAST:

APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447

YOUTUBE:
https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce
43 min
March 17Ep 89, Redeemed After Divorce: Understanding Porn Addiction and the Path to Healing (Therapist Perspective)
What actually happens in the brain when someone becomes addicted to pornography—and why is it so hard to stop? In this episode, a retired marriage and family therapist explains the neuroscience behind porn addiction, escalation, and the real path toward healing.Keywords: Divorce counseling, porn addiction recovery, therapist advice, emotional healing, betrayal trauma
Pornography addiction is often misunderstood—but its impact on the brain, relationships, and personal identity can be profound.
In this episode, I’m joined by retired marriage and family therapist Jeff Herring to explore what pornography actually does to the brain and why breaking free can be so difficult.
Jeff explains the neurological cycle behind addiction, why porn use often escalates over time, and how secrecy and betrayal can deeply affect relationships and trust. We also talk about hope—because healing and recovery are possible with the right support, accountability, and renewal of the mind.
If you’ve ever wondered why porn addiction feels so powerful or how real recovery happens, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical insight.
In This Episode
How pornography affects dopamine and neural pathways in the brain
The addiction cycle: euphoria → normal → pain.
Why pornography use often escalates over time.
The hidden impact pornography can have on relationship.
The role of accountability and support in recovery.
Renewing the mind and rebuilding trust after addiction.
Why recovery is not a quick fix—but a lifelong journey toward healing
Resources Mentioned
Renew Program – https://northpoint.org/renew
Neuroplasticity Explained – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/neuroplasticity
Jeff Herring – https://creatorrescue.com
Connect with Jeff Herring
Website: https://creatorrescue.com
Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jeffherring
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If this episode encouraged you, be sure to follow, rate, and review the podcast. Your review helps other people navigating life after divorce find hope and healing.
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana

WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com

LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/

An encouraging word article: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/

Embracing Christ's Design: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/

SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/#

Free ebook: Who Am I After Divorce? Contact [email protected].
Are you a divorced Christian needing encouragement? Do you struggle with how to see yourself since your divorce? This free ebook will encourage you and remind you who and WHOSE you are!

Amazon:

Healing After Divorce Paperback:
https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp

Healing After Divorce ebook
https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:

PODCAST:

APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447

YOUTUBE:
https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce

Guest Scheduling
https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/

FOR MUSIC "SMILE":
Music I use: Bensound.com
Funny Song
License code: DM5CQOZKF0EUTN1L

For country music:
Music by: https://www.bensound.com
License code: B11SABINWV4BESSF

Hashtags:
#divorcedlife, #christiandivorce, #divorce, #divorcedchristian
44 min
March 10Ep 88 – Redeemed After Divorce: The Road to Redemption After Pornography & Betrayal
Listener Discretion Advised
This episode discusses pornography, sexual immorality, betrayal trauma, addiction, and divorce from a biblical perspective. While no explicit content is shared, the topic may be emotionally sensitive for some listeners. Please listen with care and seek support if needed.
Pornography isn’t just a private issue—it quietly damages marriages, fuels divorce, and erodes intimacy. In this episode of Rise and Reclaim After Divorce, we break the silence on the hidden effects of porn, explore the emotional and spiritual fallout, and discuss practical ways to heal and restore relationships. Whether you’re navigating post-divorce healing or trying to save your marriage, this episode offers clarity, hope, and actionable guidance grounded in faith.
Keywords / SEO: porn, pornography, marriage, divorce, Christian marriage counseling, sexual immorality, healing after divorce, intimacy issues, marital restoration
In This Episode, We Discuss:
The history of porneia and sexual immorality in Scripture
How pornography changes brain chemistry and fuels addiction
Why pornography is linked to 56–60% of divorces
The difference between lust, adultery of the heart, and covenant faithfulness
Matthew 5 and Matthew 19: what Jesus actually taught
Two major Christian perspectives on pornography and divorce
Betrayal trauma and its impact on spouses
Healing for both the betrayed and the addicted
Repentance, accountability, and the role of community
Why secrecy keeps people stuck—and truth brings freedom
Resources Mentioned
Books
The Porn Trap – Wendy & Larry Maltz
https://www.christianbook.com/the-porn-trap-wendy-maltz/9780061231872/pd/231872
Intimate Deception – Sherri Keffer
https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Deception-Healing-Wounds-Betrayal/dp/0800729129
Articles & Research
Verily Magazine – Pornography & Divorce Statistics
American Sociological Association – Porn Use & Divorce Risk
Manhood Journey – Porn and Marriage
https://manhoodjourney.org/porn-and-marriage/
Recovery & Education
Covenant Eyes – Pornography, Recovery, and Theology
https://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/books-on-porn-addiction/

We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com
LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/
An encouraging word article: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/

Embracing Christ's Design: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/

SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/#
Free ebook: Who Am I After Divorce? Contact [email protected].
Are you a divorced Christian needing encouragement? Do you struggle with how to see yourself since your divorce? This free ebook will encourage you and remind you who and WHOSE you are!

Amazon:
Healing After Divorce Paperback:
https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp

Healing After Divorce ebook
https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:
PODCAST:

APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447

YOUTUBE:
https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce
Guest Scheduling
https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/

FOR MUSIC "SMILE":
Music I use: Bensound.com
Funny Song
License code: DM5CQOZKF0EUTN1L

For country music:
Music by: https://www.bensound.com
License code: B11SABINWV4BESSF

Hashtags:
#porn, #pornaddiction, #sexaddiction, #divorcedlife, #christiandivorce, #divorce, #divorcedchristian
23 min
March 03 Ep 87, When Divorce Changes Everything, with Nefertiti Wade,
“There’s a moment after divorce when the title is gone, the future feels blurry, and you’re left asking, Who am I now?—and today, we’re talking about that moment.”
In this episode, Dana sits down with Nefertiti Wade, author, speaker, and founder of Crowned with Purpose, to explore the journey of reclaiming identity, healing emotional wounds, and rebuilding life after loss.
Drawing from her book Reclaiming Your Crown, Nefertiti shares how unaddressed emotional baggage can hold us back, how pain can become purpose, and why learning to love yourself again is a crucial part of healing. We also talk about setting healthy standards and boundaries while stepping into a new season with clarity and confidence.
This conversation is honest, encouraging, and for anyone navigating life after divorce and learning how to rise—stronger, wiser, and more grounded than before.

To contact Nefertiti:
Instagram:@nefwade
Facebook: Nefertiti Wade
LinkedIn: Nefertiti Wade
YouTube: Reclaiming Your Crown

You can also purchase an autographed copy of Reclaiming Your Crown: Getting Your Identity Back After Divorce along with other empowering items directly from my personal website. The book is also available on Amazon for those who prefer that option: https://a.co/d/0c4AmWKX
Autograph Copy Website: https://reclaimingyourcrownbook.com/

To watch the YouTuber version, go to:
https://youtu.be/48fl7wfAIko
38 min
February 24Ep 86, Stuck in Betrayal Trauma After Divorce? Part 2, with guest Denise Stiffler
In part 2 of this emotional conversation, we’re finish our talk about betrayal trauma—what it really is, how it impacts your nervous system, your faith, and your ability to trust yourself again, and why healing often takes longer than we expect. More importantly, we explore what actually helps when fear, grief, and overwhelm feel paralyzing.
This isn’t about rushing your healing or slapping spiritual clichés on deep wounds. It’s about understanding what’s happening beneath the surface and taking grounded, compassionate steps forward.
In this episode, we discuss:
What betrayal trauma is and why it’s different from ordinary heartbreak
Common emotional and physical signs you may still be living with trauma after divorce
Why restoring a sense of safety is the foundation of healing
Questions you can ask yourself to help break out of the “stuck” cycle
How to move through paralyzing fear during major life transitions
Rebuilding trust with yourself after betrayal
Navigating faith and spiritual confusion after relational trauma
Practical tools and rhythms that support real, lasting healing
If you’re navigating life after betrayal and wondering whether healing is even possible, this conversation will remind you: you’re not broken—you’re healing.
💛 Encouragement
Healing from betrayal trauma doesn’t mean going backward or failing to “move on.” It means learning how to feel safe again, trust yourself again, and take the next right step—at your pace.

YouTube for Part 2: https://youtu.be/C1e1ZWziB7E

TO CONTACT DENISE STIFFLER:
See her Link Tree here:
https://linktr.ee/denise.lifecoach7
For her weary heart prayer guide, go to her website: https://www.fromrundowntorenewed.com/d5be2d9c

DANA’S CONTACT INFORMATION:
WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com

LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/

SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/#

To receive the free ebook, email me at [email protected] and I will send you a PDF.

Amazon:

Healing After Divorce Paperback:
https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp

Healing After Divorce ebook
https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:

PODCAST:

APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447

YOUTUBE:
https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce
23 min
February 17Ep 85, Stuck in Betrayal Trauma After Divorce? You’re Not Broken, You’re Healing with guest Denise Stiffler
Betrayal doesn’t just break a relationship—it can leave you feeling frozen long after the divorce papers are signed.
If you’ve ever wondered Why am I still stuck? Why does this still hurt? Why can’t I just move on?—this episode is for you.
In this deep conversation, we’re talking about betrayal trauma—what it really is, how it impacts your nervous system, your faith, and your ability to trust yourself again, and why healing often takes longer than we expect. More importantly, we explore what actually helps when fear, grief, and overwhelm feel paralyzing.
This isn’t about rushing your healing or slapping spiritual clichés on deep wounds. It’s about understanding what’s happening beneath the surface and taking grounded, compassionate steps forward.
In this episode, we discuss:
What betrayal trauma is and why it’s different from ordinary heartbreak
Common emotional and physical signs you may still be living with trauma after divorce
Why restoring a sense of safety is the foundation of healing
Questions you can ask yourself to help break out of the “stuck” cycle
How to move through paralyzing fear during major life transitions
Rebuilding trust with yourself after betrayal
Navigating faith and spiritual confusion after relational trauma
Practical tools and rhythms that support real, lasting healing
If you’re navigating life after betrayal and wondering whether healing is even possible, this conversation will remind you: you’re not broken—you’re healing.

💛 Encouragement
Healing from betrayal trauma doesn’t mean going backward or failing to “move on.” It means learning how to feel safe again, trust yourself again, and take the next right step—at your pace.

To watch this episode on Youtube, go to: https://youtu.be/VxuUdQJNBjQ

TO CONTACT DENISE STIFFLER:
See her Link Tree here:
https://linktr.ee/denise.lifecoach7
For her weary heart prayer guide, go to her website: https://www.fromrundowntorenewed.com/d5be2d9c

DANA’S CONTACT INFORMATION:
WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com

LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/

SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/#

To receive the free ebook, email me at [email protected] and I will send you a PDF.

Amazon:

Healing After Divorce Paperback:
https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp
Healing After Divorce ebook
https://a.co/d/etcpVyR

WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:

PODCAST:
APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447
YOUTUBE:
https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce
23 min
February 10Ep 84, Healing After Divorce, Guest Appearance on From Run Down to Renewed
Guest Appearance Spotlight: From Run Down to Renewed
This past week, I had the honor of joining Mackenzi and Denise on their podcast, From Run Down to Renewed. With their permission, I’m sharing this conversation with the Redeemed Identity After Divorce community.
This episode originally aired on Wednesday, February 4, 2026, and it’s one of those conversations that feels more like an exhale than a teaching.
This Episode Is for You If:
You feel tired, worn down, or emotionally drained
You’ve walked through loss, divorce, trauma, or a painful life transition
You’re longing for healing but don’t know where to begin
You desire to live abundantly—but not the world’s definition of abundance
This conversation is an invitation to pause, breathe, and remember a powerful truth:
God is your source—not your circumstances.
We talk about how abundance isn’t about having more—it’s about living from fullness instead of emptiness. Together, we explore how healing begins when you:
Shift from striving to trusting God
Allow Him to fill what life has drained
Root your identity in Christ—not outcomes, roles, or relationship status
👉 WATCH the full conversation on YouTube here:
https://www.youtube.com/post/UgkxCdy9WggE-Q5g9-t6UVx6MTXu9i9hE6L_
Stay Connected with From Run Down to Renewed
Website & Socials:
👉 www.fromrundowntorenewed.com
🎓 Upcoming Webinar – February 28
👉 https://www.fromrundowntorenewed.com/…
Stay Connected with Dana
Website: www.redeemed-identity.com
YouTube: @redeemedidentityafterdivorce
Apple Podcasts: Redeemed Identity After Divorce
1 min
February 03Ep 83, Exhausted After Divorce? The Missing Key to Healing, Pt 2
Divorce is exhausting—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. And yet, rest is often the first thing we sacrifice while trying to “hold it all together.”

In this episode, Dana sits down with life and leadership coach Misty Hughes to talk about why rest isn’t optional during or after divorce—it’s essential for healing. Misty shares her personal journey through divorce, motherhood, and rebuilding her life, along with practical wisdom for women who feel overwhelmed, depleted, or stuck in survival mode.
Together, they unpack what real rest looks like (hint: it’s more than sleep), why grief requires personalized rhythms, and how trust, community, and reflection play a vital role in emotional recovery. This conversation is honest, grounding, and permission-giving—especially if you’ve been pushing yourself to “be strong” while quietly running on empty.
If you’re exhausted after divorce and wondering why healing feels so hard, this episode may help you exhale and reset.

In This Episode, We Finish with Misty and discuss:
Why rest is critical during and after divorce
The difference between collapsing and intentional rest
How grief and healing look different for everyone
Creating life rhythms that support peace and stability
The role of trust in emotional recovery
Why community support accelerates healing
Journaling and reflection as tools for processing pain
Making space for joy and fun for yourself and your family
How coaching can provide clarity and support during hard seasons.

Misty's Contact Information:

Misty Hughes, Transformational Speaker, Podcast Host, Gratitude Guide, Celebration Coach
P: 816-297-9919
E: [email protected]
lead-herministries.com
mom2mommentoring.com
22 min

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