Relationship Dish

This week the therapists dish and dive about grief. Not the grief we feel from the death of a person, but rather the death of a fantasy. When we realize that our partner is not exactly what we want or cannot meet certain expectations or longings, we go through a similar process to the grief process. We feel angry, we bargain, we deny and ultimately if we can accept what is, then we can fully grieve what we don't have. On the other side of grief is openness and a renewed sense of what is possible. The therapists learn that if they can get out of their own way, they actually have partners who can and do exceed their expectations and longings in many areas.

If you can start grieving the fantasy, then you can open yourself up to the real and wonderful person who is right in front of you.

Happy Valentine's Day! This week listen in as the therapists dish and dive about what it truly means to love your partner.

Sometimes we have to do away with the image we create of our partner, so we can meet and fall in love with who this person really is. They learn that this is not a selfish thing, that another person is not out on this earth to fill all of our fantasies, but rather to be loved for who they truly are.

Listen in and decide if you're willing to fall in love with the actual person you're with, instead of the fantasy of what this person can offer you.

This week the therapists work hard to figure out what's yours, mine and ours regarding feelings and responsibility for action in relationships.

It can be really tricky to pull that knot apart and really understand what we ourselves are responsible for in our relationships. Typically we are responsible for our own feelings, and for communicating those feelings to our partners, but faulty messages from family of origin can create enmeshment, confusion, guilt and resentment around responsibility for our own feelings and needs.

Listen in as the therapists learn to de-tangle their own confusion and help listeners do the same for their own lives.

Hey dishers, we're back with Season 3! We have some exciting new episodes for you, so please listen in on Jan 16 for our season 3 debut! and as always Happy coupling!

Iona & Pam

Here is a quick little 1 minute Relationship Dish Appetizer for you on how to regain your composure and focus when things are getting a little out of hand.

Insert Deep breath here. See you soon with a new full episode next week!

Here is a quick little 1 minute Relationship Dish Appetizer for you about what couples who are having great sex are doing. Listen to this and then share with your partner, lover, and friends. Happy 2019!

Happy holidays! This week the therapists dish and dive about New Years resolutions.

What makes them stick? What makes them slide? Listen in as Pam and Iona share some of their relationship resolutions for 2019 and learn what to do to make 'em stick.