Relationship Dish

This week the therapists dish and dive about defensiveness. If things are escalating quickly, it's a sure sign that defensiveness is in da house!

Iona and Pam dish about accountability and how difficult it can be to own their pieces of the problem. But, they discover that ownership begets ownership and the more likely they are to own their stuff, the more likely their partners are to do the same.

Conversely, ownership can also feel like a hot potato, tossing blame back and forth between partners, no one wanting to hold it for very long. The therapists then dive into the literature and learn that the tossing of the hot potato can lead to major consequences- divorce being one of them.

Listen in as they learn more and more about accountability, blame and how to safely own your part of the issue so you can feel more like a team.

This week the therapists dish and dive about what the hell women really want. They ask themselves if they even know what they want?

And if they don't know, how do they expect their partners to know? It's a tough question and not a simple answer. However, the therapists dive into some pretty solid research about it and come up with some surprises thanks to Drs. Julie and John Gottman and their years of research into this issue.

Listen in as the therapists try to figure it out for themselves and talk about how their partners are doing trying to figure it out as well. The men in their lives are pretty much in the dark about it and liken it to a moving target. Listen in as they dispel the myths and highlight the research and discover that it's not as difficult as it seems.

This week on the podcast Pam and Iona dish about triggers -  those things that pull us into big emotional responses and experience emotions that we just can’t regulate.  

What triggers the therapists and how do they navigate these triggers so they don’t cause damage? Listen in and learn how to self regulate, self soothe and catch these triggers before the gun goes off! 

This week the therapists wrap up their first “side dish”- when the listeners get to eavesdrop on a conversation with three young, newly married 30 something women.  

What are their relationships like? What are their struggles? What do they wish they knew before they got married? Newly married Jill Lansky from The August Diaries and her pals give us a glimpse into their world.

This interview is part 3 of 3

This week the therapists continue to change things up with their first “side dish”- when the listeners get to eavesdrop on a conversation with three young, newly married 30 something women.  

What are their relationships like? What are their struggles? What do they wish they knew before they got married? Newly married Jill Lansky from The August Diaries and her pals give us a glimpse into their world.

This interview is part 2 of 3

This week the therapists change things up with their first “side dish”- when the listeners get to eavesdrop on a conversation with three young, newly married 30 something women.  

What are their relationships like? What are their struggles? What do they wish they knew before they got married? Newly married Jill Lansky from The August Diaries and her pals give us a glimpse into their world.

This interview is part 1 of 3. 

This week the therapists dish and dive about in laws. Cue scary music!

Pam and Iona dish about some of their more colourful issues with in laws (it isn’t always pretty) and dive into the literature that speaks to why the relationship can go sideways, how to get along better with your in laws and what the struggles really are about down deep in the heart. 

This week the therapists dish and dive about fairy tales- like the ones we all bought into about living happily ever after marrying a prince?

It doesn't exactly go that way without hard work, does it?

The therapists talk about the misconceptions and damage these fairy tales have created and dive into the literature about how they began, what the real message was and how we can break free of these notions to have healthy and sustainable relationships. 

This week the therapists dish about their negative thoughts and how these thoughts can create big feelings and reactions. But what if their thoughts aren’t totally rational or true?  The therapists then dive into the literature on CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and learn about all the different types of irrational thoughts we can have, how they can impact our feelings and behaviour and teach how you can recognize and debate them to avoid having painful and unnecessary emotional reactions.