In this episode Jessica, Joe, and Dr. M discuss all the big and new changes in the polycule, regrets they have as content creators, and the fuckery of ignorant ass people.

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I've been waiting so freakin' long to tell y'all that, after 43 years of monogamous marriage, my in-laws (Dr. M's parents), have discovered the joys of swinging...and now they're both big ol' bisexual sluts having the time of their lives—in their 70s!

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Alternative episode title: Famous Last Words

In this episode, The Daylovers (Jes, Joe, and Ash) talk about: 

*what Datty is learning in polyamory (fear of trying and failing at finding compatible partners),

*what Ash is learning about parenthood and co-parenting (letting go of attachment, not trying to immediately nip things in the bud or cast judgment, learning to pause...),

*what Jes is learning in polyamory, which she breaks down to what she is learning through each of her partners:

    >>with Joe: are we "just" gay best friends? 

    >>with Dr. M: learning to lean into my fear of my partner's expansion, which is really just fear of my own,

    >>with Loverboy: (GASP. WHO IS LOVERBOY?? Find out inside this episode!)

Most heatedly, they talk about the dreadful art of "Downplaying" after Joe accuses Jes of downplaying her connection with Loverboy. Downplaying in polyamory can be a really contentious topic. Downplaying can be: pretending that new connections don’t have a sexual or romantic vibe when they actually do, dampening one's excitement or hope about a new connection, dampening how you actually feel about a new connection, downplaying the possibilities of what may come, etc...

This convo gets real and honest as fuck, and we're excited to bring y'all into the room with us and how we work through conflict/call each other out on our bullshit.

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In this episode: Joe finds out Ash is having an affair with Dr. M('s pores), we talk about our journey to get Ash qualified for FMLA as a polyamorous family, and we discuss, in depth, our favorite punctuation.

We also talk about what Jes and Joe are individually learning in the world of parenthood right now, and Ash shares what they are learning in the world of polyamory.

There's also some other stuff about sex parties, autistic embarrassment around being "too eager", and village growing pains.

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This is by far the best and most unhinged episode we've ever recorded and we're worried we may never top it. (We will.)

It's honestly all over the place and we're not sure how to summarize it, but we talk about: age gap relationships, sleeping arrangements, Jes's new orgasm discovery she calls "bass orgasms", how Ash loves to listen through the vent to Jes and Dr. M boning, why Ash's pants were at half mast in the preview photo, what it's like living with partners who have boundaries around how they help with the parenting, and what you do with the thumb you just pulled out of your lover's booty...

There's also lots and lots of roasting of each other and this episode ended with everyone in tears from laughing so hard.

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In this episode The Daylovers (all 4 of them!) try to catch you up on everything that happened in 2023, which was both the best and worst year of their lives. This is the first episode recorded as a nested polycule, including the notorious Dr. M!

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When we left off 6 months ago (holy shit), it was right before Jessica's birthday orgy and Joe was about to meet his long distance lover, Ash, for the first time. Well, now it's 6 months later and YOU get to meet her...cuz she lives here now. And she's the best thing to ever happen to our little family.

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In this episode, Jessica and Joe talk about how hard it was to get this episode made, the chaos created when you move two partners into your small home within a year, how hard it is to purge your home, and what the fuck is a Roth IRA. 

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You may know Emily, Dedeker, and Jase as the hosts of the world-renown podcast, Multiamory. And now you can officially add 'authors' to their bio lines! Dropping May 23rd, 2023 (though available for pre-order today), "Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships" is a curated collection of the most popular communication tools, advice, and wisdom from the Multiamory podcast that have helped thousands of listeners improve their communication and create healthy relationships. In this book, you’ll learn how to: Get what you need out of conversations with your partner with the Triforce of Communication, create Microscripts that will interrupt old patterns, diffuse tension, and form better communication habits, set up a regular RADAR check-in to support the long-term health of all of your relationships, determine your unique processing style, and how it may be clashing with your partner’s, process and reconnect after an argument with Repair SHOP, and more!

Learn more about their book at www.multiamory.com/book.

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Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier
Guests: Emily, Dedeker, and Jase of Multiamory

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Breaking up is hard to do. In this episode of Remodeled Love, Jessica talks with one of her favorite polyam podcasters, ashe danger phoenix of the Dear Jessamyn podcast. They discuss why lesbian breakups take so long, and is there a way to make them shorter; can we discuss breakups with someone before entering into a relationship with them, the difference between low stakes breakups, ghosting, and breakups that rip your heart out--how to see them coming, how to lean into it, and how to stay conscious during the death. 

Polyamory inherently forces the need to get good at breakups, simply by the nature of the fact that you end up dating so many more folks. Getting "good" at breakups is a powerful muscle to build on this path.

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