Remodeled Love

When we left off 6 months ago (holy shit), it was right before Jessica's birthday orgy and Joe was about to meet his long distance lover, Ash, for the first time. Well, now it's 6 months later and YOU get to meet her...cuz she lives here now. And she's the best thing to ever happen to our little family.

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In this episode, Jessica and Joe talk about how hard it was to get this episode made, the chaos created when you move two partners into your small home within a year, how hard it is to purge your home, and what the fuck is a Roth IRA. 

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You may know Emily, Dedeker, and Jase as the hosts of the world-renown podcast, Multiamory. And now you can officially add 'authors' to their bio lines! Dropping May 23rd, 2023 (though available for pre-order today), "Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships" is a curated collection of the most popular communication tools, advice, and wisdom from the Multiamory podcast that have helped thousands of listeners improve their communication and create healthy relationships. In this book, you’ll learn how to: Get what you need out of conversations with your partner with the Triforce of Communication, create Microscripts that will interrupt old patterns, diffuse tension, and form better communication habits, set up a regular RADAR check-in to support the long-term health of all of your relationships, determine your unique processing style, and how it may be clashing with your partner’s, process and reconnect after an argument with Repair SHOP, and more!

Learn more about their book at www.multiamory.com/book.

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Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions

Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier
Guests: Emily, Dedeker, and Jase of Multiamory

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Breaking up is hard to do. In this episode of Remodeled Love, Jessica talks with one of her favorite polyam podcasters, ashe danger phoenix of the Dear Jessamyn podcast. They discuss why lesbian breakups take so long, and is there a way to make them shorter; can we discuss breakups with someone before entering into a relationship with them, the difference between low stakes breakups, ghosting, and breakups that rip your heart out--how to see them coming, how to lean into it, and how to stay conscious during the death. 

Polyamory inherently forces the need to get good at breakups, simply by the nature of the fact that you end up dating so many more folks. Getting "good" at breakups is a powerful muscle to build on this path.

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Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions

Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier

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In this episode The Daylovers catch you up on all things Remodeled Love, including some yummy new support groups. changes in the structure of their personal+professional life intersections, and some exciting visions for the future. They also share some Hot Goss (the hottest goss they've ever had), aka: Jes's upcoming birthday orgy, and some delicious new elements to her relationship with her boyfriend...and quite possibly the most exciting development ever for Joe. The episode ends with Joe sharing his existential dread around the nature of higher ed, and Jes and Joe answer a lister question about seeking clarity in a relationship.

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Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions

Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier

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In the kickoff to Season 3 of the "Remodeled Love" podcast, Jes chats with the creator of and artist over at @Shrimpteeth, Sam. 

There are several arguments against the presence of the "peer support" model in the polyamorous digital sphere:the potential for the abuse of power, the fact that there's no board to report abuse to, no official training or accreditation for "coaches", the charging of money, etc. 

But how does peer support actually work? Jes and Sam break down their backgrounds, how they personally show up in the peer support space, the issues they come across, how peer support makes these essential services accessible and inclusive, and why it's essential for anyone offering peer support to know their scope and have a fall out plan. 

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Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions

Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier

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In this episode of Remodeled, Jes chats with a brilliant and diverse group of polyamorous men, some of whom you may recognize as popular content creators in the polyamorous digital sphere. Joining Mr. Daylover at the table is our good friend Wade (remember him from Season 1??), Albert of @Polymananswers & @Albah.Love (and Jes' comet partner in Sacramento), and Bear of @Bear.n.Fifi.

Jes asks the guys what they've noticed as polyamorous men, as well as polyam peer support specialists, around the struggles of polyamorous and poly-curious men to recognize, feel, process, and receive help around the emotions that dudes must confront on this path. The group dives deep into some vulnerable and powerful intersectionalities, and unpack some of their own, deepest emotional struggles. 

Topics covered include: toxic masculinity, race, sobriety, trans identities, demisexuality, bisexuality, power, control, fear, insecurity, and white supremacy, just to name a few. 

This episode is a must-listen for, well, everyone. But especially for Dudes and anyone who loves them.

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Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions

Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier

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In this episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers enjoy deliciously upscale recording accommodations and talk about their new book, "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children". They offer a brief overview of their new book, and share a little of the behind-the-scenes process.

Jes also shares some show feedback--mainly that folks really enjoy the episodes between the two of them, and Jes promises to return to more of a balance between those types of episodes and the interview style episodes featuring special guests (she still has 6 fantastic interviews on the back-burner she needs to get out, though...).

They also introduce their new format for episodes featuring just the two of them:

I. What's new with Remodeled Love (in this episode: their new e-book, and "Dudes with Feelings": a support group for polyamorous men)

II. The Hot Goss (reflections on their respective love lives)

III. ETIBHL ("Existential Thoughts I've Been Having Lately". In this episode: Jes talks about the housing crisis, and (CW) Joe talks briefly about gun violence). 

IV: Dear Flabby (the advice column portion of their show where they answer a listener question. In this episode they answer a question about how to handle "moodiness" from your partner when you're getting ready to go on a date.)

This episode is very funny, and informative, and they hope you enjoy it.

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Producers: Jessica Levity, Homeslice Productions

Intro song: Rachael McIlhiney covering Hozier

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In this episode Jes chats with @coach_shor on the intersections of compulsory monogamy, compulsory heterosexuality, compulsory cis-ness, and fatphobia. And, as always, they dive into the semiotics of it all.

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In this episode, Jes and Joe catch you the fuck up on their polyamorous lives. SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED SINCE THEY GOT BACK ON THE APPS! They share some exciting new connections, some tragic lessons, and a hilarious anecdote that only polyamorous parents can truly understand.

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