Remodeled Love

Remodeled Love

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  • 21: Our Evolution into a Beautiful, Non-Sexual, Polyamorous Marriage

    In this extremely vulnerable episode, The Daylovers "come out", and share with you the raw details of their evolution into a beautiful, asexual, polyamorous marriage.

    They lay out every piece of their journey:
    Jes's fearful confession of her asexual feelings toward Joe a few months ago, 
    how that landed in Joe's world, 
    Joe's processing of those emotions, 
    why they think of it as an "evolution", and
    Jes's very detailed theory as to the factors behind this evolution-- including pieces of their past, Jes's demisexuality, life as a postpartum mother, the nature of long term relationships, and Joe's exploration of his own sexuality.
    They sternly offer several disclaimers, including that just because they are polyam, does NOT mean all polyam married folks are asexual, nor does it mean they're polyamorous "because" of their asexual vibe; and most importantly, they did not "become asexual" as a consequence of exploring polyamory.
    The episode ends with their mutual unpacking of their extremely passionate, and also thorough, answer to the question: "Then why stay married?"
    If you are exploring similar dynamics in your relationship, you are not alone. Head to www.remodeledlove.com and click on "peer support" to learn more about how The Daylovers can hold space for you, and guide you through this shift into a beautiful expansion.
    #RedefineMarriage
    ***
    >> www.remodeledlove.com
    >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove
    >> Instagram: @remodeledlove
    >> Twitter: @remodeledLove
    >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions

    🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

    • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
    • Venmo: Jessica-levity
    • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
    • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
    • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
    • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com
    • EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions


      1 hr
    • 20: Let Grown Folks Do What They Want (with Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers)

      In this interview we chat with @lavitaloca34 — she shares her backstory, the character arc of her life so far, her polyamory origin story, how she became a content creator, her critiques of the polyamorous community, and some deep wisdom that everyone needs to hear.

      TIP US! 👇🏼
      CashApp: $lavitaloca35
      Venmo: Evita-Sawyers

      CashApp: $jessicalevity
      Venmo: @jessica-levity

      ***

      >> www.remodeledlove.com

      >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove

      >> Instagram: @remodeledlove

      >> Twitter: @remodeledLove

      >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions

      🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

      • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
      • Venmo: Jessica-levity
      • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
      • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
      • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
      • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com
      • EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

        1 hr 2 min
      • 19: Survivorship Industrial Complex, & More, with Sydney Rae Chin

        [CW: Brief mentions of trauma, intimate partner violence, and sexual violence]

        In this episode, Jes chats with fellow Instagram content creator, Sydney Rae Chin. Sydney (they/she) identifies as a queer, non-binary, East Asian, anti-capitalist femme. They talk Sydney's critique of the social media space: the entrepreneurial culture, the problematic nature with some of the Polyam content creators, the lack of consent found in the space, and also what Sydney calls the "Survivorship Industrial Complex". 

        Sydney is stepping away from IG for a while, but you should follow them anyway @SydneyRaeChin. Additionally, you can tip them for their brilliance on Venmo @Sydney_Rae, and make sure to read their blog at sydneyraechin.com/blog.

        ***

        >> www.remodeledlove.com

        >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove

        >> Instagram: @remodeledlove

        >> Twitter: @remodeledLove

        >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions

        🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

        • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
        • Venmo: Jessica-levity
        • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
        • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
        • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
        • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com
        • EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions



          43 min
        • Episode 18: Polyamory and ADHD, with Dr. Antonia

          In this highly anticipated episode of "Remodeled", Jes chats with clinical psychologist Dr. Antonia Jurkovic about her perceived and experienced correlations between ADHD and Polyamory.

          They dive into: how much Dr. Antonia thinks Polyamory and ADHD are related to one another, how the identities are inherently intertwined, and the growing observation that so many non-monogamous folks have ADHD.

          They also talk about how ADHD might impact what draws someone to polyamory (a need for excitement, spontaneity, change, novelty...), and how it could possibly explain some of the difficulties people find themselves having within polyamory (like: time management, polysaturation, “Moving fast”/push-pull dynamic within relationships, NRE addiction, having a hard time saying no to something you really want, and texting partners/having a hard time getting off your phone).

          Dr. Antonia also shares why is it helpful to have this knowledge. (So, spread this episode far and wide!)

          This is going to be the first of a series about Neurodivergence and Polyamory, so please email any followup questions you may have for Dr. Antonia to [email protected]

          Also, join our new Discord server! We will be launching a channel specifically for discussions around ADHD and Polyamory this week.

          ***

          >> www.remodeledlove.com

          >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove

          >> Instagram: @remodeledlove

          >> Twitter: @remodeledLove

          >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions

          🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

          • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
          • Venmo: Jessica-levity
          • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
          • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
          • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
          • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com
          • EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

            1 hr 18 min
          • Episode 17: Polyamorous Men, with @Polyamfam

            We continue our Polyamorous Men series with this live interview with The Good Chad of @Polyamfam. In this episode we discuss Chad's polyamory origin story. Chad shares the struggles he had early on-- his insecurities and jealousies, and how polyamory actually helped him work through them to become a better version of himself. Chad talks about the role toxic masculinity played in his polyamorous journey, and he gives us his number one tip in helping other men overcome toxicity: Listen. To. Women.   

            You can support Chad by buying his art, attending his events, and following his page. 

            You can support me in various ways, all found at www.remodeledlove.com

            >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove

            >> Instagram: @remodeledlove

            >> Twitter: @remodeledLove

            >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions

            🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

            • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
            • Venmo: Jessica-levity
            • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
            • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
            • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
            • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com
            • EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

              59 min
            • Episode 16: Purity to Polyamory

              ~ From Purity Rings to Non-Monogamous Things ~

              In this episode, The Daylovers chat with a special guest, Instagram's @PurityToPolyamory (now @puritytopercolating). In part 1, she shares what lead her to starting her Instagram account, and her reaction to its quick success. She mentions that "exvangelical" and "deconstruction" circles are on the rise right now, and delves into the parallels within her journey between the deconstruction of her faith and her realization that she is polyamorous. @PurityToPolyamory also gets into the toxic elements of purity culture, the damage it does on young individuals, and how she's having to unpack all of those pieces now as an adult stepping into the fullness of her sexuality.

              In part 2 she shares the twisty-turny story of how she discovered her own polyamorous nature with her husband, whom she's been with since she was 16, as well as the unexpected-but-profound shift that's occurred in the last few weeks.

              *** 

              You can submit questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing [email protected], or submit the anonymous form at www.remodeledlove.com.

              >> www.remodeledlove.com

              >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove

              >> Instagram: @remodeledlove

              >> Twitter: @remodeledLove

              >> TikTok: @RemodeledLove


              🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

              • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
              • Venmo: Jessica-levity
              • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
              • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
              • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
              • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

              • EXECUTIVE PRODUCER: Homeslice Productions

                Sponsorships: on for this episode

                1 hr 1 min
              • Episode 15: Embrace Your Inner Cuck

                In this live and (mostly) unedited episode, The Daylovers share some exciting news regarding their recent rise to UK trash mag fame, update everyone on their dating life, and talk about some fun new merch they just launched. Plus, Jes goes off about how capitalism has ruined dating apps, does a deep dive into how her demisexuality affects her online dating life, and announces her newly discovered identity as a "Demisexual Slut". 

                *** You can submit questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing [email protected], or submit the anonymous form at www.remodeledlove.com. 

                >> www.remodeledlove.com 

                >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove 

                >> Instagram: @remodeledlove 

                >> Twitter: @remodeledLove 

                >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions 

                🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

                • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
                • Venmo: Jessica-levity
                • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
                • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
                • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
                • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com
                • EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

                  42 min
                • Episode 14: UNEDITED

                  In this kick off to the long-awaited Season 2, Jes pitches her mushroom-inspired idea to Joe that if she can let go of editing each episode as intensely as she did in Season 1, then they can get a lot more episodes out quicker. Joe doubts Jes is capable of that.

                  In Part 1, The Daylovers then catch you up on their lives: how it's been going with the new baby, navigating breakups, and just getting their reality tossed around by the general upheaval that comes with a newborn, plus also the plot twists of polyamory. Plus Joe urges all men to embrace their inner cuck.
                  In Part 2, The Daylovers share a story of how they were able to walk the breakup of their shortly-lived throuple situation, while two of them still remained together and in love. They share from a place of inspiration of what's possible when everyone is willing to do their inner work.
                  ***
                  You can submit questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing [email protected], or submit the anonymous form at www.remodeledlove.com.
                  >> www.remodeledlove.com
                  >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove
                  >> Instagram: @remodeledlove
                  >> Twitter: @remodeledLove
                  >> TikTok: @HomesliceProductions

                  🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

                  • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
                  • Venmo: Jessica-levity
                  • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
                  • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
                  • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
                  • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com
                  • EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions


                    45 min
                  • Episode 13: Venus in Scorpio (mini episode)

                    In this special "Mini Episode", Jes shares a coming out story with you all. Just because you're 35 doesn't mean there aren't parts of your sexuality that you're still discovering. This story is dedicated to anyone with whom it resonates. 

                    ***

                    You can submit questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing [email protected], or submit the anonymous form at www.remodeledlove.com.

                    >> www.remodeledlove.com

                    >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove

                    >> www.instagram.com/remodeledlove

                    🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

                    • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
                    • Venmo: Jessica-levity
                    • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
                    • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
                    • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
                    • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com
                    • Associate Producers: Jeannie B.

                      EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

                      4 min
                    • Episode 12: The Sacred Home Birth of Lucius Sol Daylover

                      In the Season 1 Finale of “Remodeled”, The Daylovers sit down with the Godfather of their children, Christopher Daniels (aka “Titi”), to share the sacred birth story of Lucius Sol Daylover. The mission of Remodeled is to Redefine Family and Redefine Love, and the reverent home birth of their sweet LSD did just that. Can you imagine a more perfect way to end our first season?

                      The telling of birth stories, if you’ve never read or heard one, is an extremely powerful genre of storytelling. Not only does it capture forever the details for the family, but it can open up something for the listener, too. From a semiological standpoint, expanding your consciousness around the truth and power of home birth is as important as expanding your consciousness around the truth and power of polyamory, and other lesser known relationship models . Sure, neither are designed for everyone, but it’s important that everyone have the wisdom so that the script exists for the culture at large. This is how we build an inclusive world that works for every body.

                      The system has taken and hidden so many things from us, the power of birth being one of them. Hearing stories of successful, healthy polyamorous relationships, as well as successful, healthy home births, gives all of us permission to take our power back. We all have a right to live and birth the way WE are called to, whether that breaks tradition, sticks with tradition, or redefines tradition all together.

                      [Trigger Warning for this episode: mentions of birth trauma & obstetric violence. If you or someone you know had a traumatic birth experience, please consider a Birth Processing session. Jessica recommends www.sacredbirthspace.com/birth-processing and www.threefeathersholistic.com.]

                      ***

                      You can submit questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing [email protected], or submit the anonymous form at www.remodeledlove.com.

                      >> www.remodeledlove.com

                      >> www.facebook.com/RemodeledLove

                      >> www.instagram.com/remodeledlove

                      🎙If you love our content and want to support us:

                      • Buy our book "Polyamory & Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children", available at ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com⁠⁠ and in print/Kindle on ⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠!
                      • Venmo: Jessica-levity
                      • CASHAPP: $jessicalevity
                      • Patreon: ⁠⁠Patreon.com/remodeledlove⁠⁠
                      • …➡️Join our “Close Friends” list on IG for BTS access to our life, and ability to message us, by becoming a patron at the $5 or more level.
                      • Book a peer-to-peer polyam coaching session with The Daylovers through ⁠⁠www.remodeledlove.com

                      • Associate Producers: Jeannie B.

                        EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Homeslice Productions

                        1 hr 31 min

                      About Remodeled Love

                      From the publisher's feed

                      Remodeled Love is a podcast whose mission is to help expand the cultural narrative on healthy relationships, polyamory, parenthood, and love. It is produced and hosted by polyamorous mama, Jessica Daylover, and most often co-hosted with her husband and babydaddy, Joseph Daylover (and beginning in 2024, her whole polycule!)

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