Remodeled Love

In this episode of Remodeled, Mr. Daylover recounts his mostly solo journey growing up on the East coast, moving to Vegas, and then finding his tribe in Reno. So far in this podcast we’ve focused on the relationships that shifted us into polyamory, but this 3-part memoir looks at the backstory, and unearths the seeds of a weird existence that would oddly match with a polyamory lifestyle later. Joe explores his middle class Catholic upbringing, his angsty teenage years, being a late bloomer, the world of Theatre, and other influences casting him as a weird person in an even stranger world.  

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In this episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers take you inside their hearts, to the depths of their total mystical weirdness, to answer a listener's email asking them to describe the role their spirituality plays in their polyamory. The episode starts with a chronological telling of how each of them came to have the beliefs they currently have -- a unique synthesis of their mutual passion for world religions, philosophies, and mystic traditions. Jes completely nerds out on her profound love of Spinozian metaphysics, shadow work, psychedelic drugs, The 12 Step Program, witchy folklore, and even Christ. Joe recounts his journey beginning as an east coast Catholic boy, to a bitter skeptic, to a lover of The Tao, to now a gooey place that sees God as All. In Part 2 of the episode, The Daylovers tie it all together by describing the exact nature their personal faith plays in their pursuit of many loves.

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>> Intro music by @Rachbot6000 (cover of Hozier's "Someone New")

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Homeslice Productions & Aimee Stashak-Moore

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In this episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers have the honor to chat with one of their favorite polyam content creators, all the way in the UK, Poly Philia. @polyphiliablog, whose sole creator is a brilliant human called Leanne, is a 22-year-old bisexual, autistic, polyamorous Asian cis-woman, who's also a part-time swinger and meme maker. The trio discuss Leanne's identity, the role she feels her autism has played in her logical view of relationships, her journey into polyamory, and her current adventures in non-hierarchical polyamory, and stress-relieving sex parties. In the second part of the interview, Leanne discusses her venture into content-creation, how her content took off, the effect it's having, and the importance of honest and accurate polyamorous content for the community. The links to all of Leanne's media are below: 

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>> Intro music by @Rachbot6000 (cover of Hozier's "Someone New")

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In this saucy, sexy, and absolutely hilarious episode of Remodeled, The Daylovers sit down with one of the finest humans on this entire fucking planet, Wade Gainer. Wade identifies as a Black, Pansexual, Cisgendered Male, with Narcolepsy, who's been sober now for 4.5 years. The trio explores Wade's history with polyamory, as well as his journey into pansexual exploration. They also have a vulnerable and encouraging discussion on topics such as worrying about the penis-size of your partner's other partners, and discuss how to work through ego-based insecurities while exploring polyamory. Lastly, Wade and The Daylovers get political, and Wade shares his thoughts on complacency, while bringing listeners into a new project he's working on with Jes and Joe. You can learn more about this project at www.alchemistmovement.org.

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>> Intro music by @Rachbot6000 (cover of Hozier's "Someone New")

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In this episode, The Daylovers have a zoom date with Joe's Side-Witch, Lore (aka: The Patron Saint of Compersion). Lore, a professional Death Doula, identifies as a queer, non-binary, latinx, polyamorous, demisexual, hyper-romantic, pansexual. Lore has known The Daylovers since before they got together, and the 3 recount the ways each person has been a part of each other's journey into polyamory. In the first half, Lore discusses the nuances of their identity, their journey into polyamory, their elaborate setup of their current polycule (see episode graphic & find us on Instagram for the full thing), and the ways in which it is possible to practice multiple "styles" of polyamory at once. In the second half of the episode, Lore shares a sweet story of The Daylovers from their earliest coupling -- highlighting the ways in which their polyamorous nature had been there all along. Also, Lore talks about their work as a Death Doula, and draws a connection between Death Work and Polyamory that leaves the Daylovers forever changed.  

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In this episode of Remodeled, Jes shares her glee at the fact that, after 8 years, Joe *FINALLY* let her make him an online dating profile. Joe vulnerably recounts his insecurities and fears he's had around being "proactive" in the dating world, and the both of them revel inside how much his recent opening up has brought so much wonderful new confidence and amorousness into his life.  Jes also tells their love story, which is a hilarious narrative involving a psychic vision and hallucinogenic mushrooms. Finally, The Daylovers divulge the details of Joe's OKCupid profile, talk about his struggles with maintaining conversations, and respond to a listener email questioning whether or not "now" was the right time for Joe to be exploring dating.

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>> Intro music by @Rachbot6000 (cover of Hozier's "Someone New")

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In this episode of Remodeled, first recorded a year ago, The Daylovers talk to one of their oldest friends and comedic cohorts, Shane Tolomeo. Shane was one of the very first people Jes and Joe “came out" to, back in their early days of polyamorous exploration. Now, 7 years later, Shane is living as a happy, healthy, polyamorous gay man. The trio discuss Shane’s polyam origins, his relationship to jealousy, his thoughts on polyam’s connection to Burning Man, and why non-monogamy may be more common in the gay world. This interview will be the first in an on-going series throughout the seasons of this podcast which seek to capture the spirit of different kinds of relationships, especially those of us practicing various forms of non-monogamy. Representation is important. And on the matter of identity, Shane identifies as a white, cisgendered gay male, able-bodied, extroverted, and naturally polyamorous.  The first half of this episode features the in-studio recording from last March while Shane was in Reno. The second half of the episode features a followup interview with Shane, recorded just a few nights ago, via zoom, where Shane and The Daylovers catch up a bit, and then Shane dives into his total nerdom and discusses some very exciting polyamorous things beginning to unfold in the Marvel Universe right now -- which represents a huge shift toward the expansion of our cultural semiology.  

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>> Intro music by @Rachbot6000 (cover of Hozier's "Someone New")

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In this episode, featuring guest host JD Montelongo, and alternatively titled "Pregnancy WAP" (or "Echo Chamber Ego Boost"), the trio answers several listener emails asking: How do you tell your partner you're interested in exploring polyamory? What would you do if they weren't interested? Does your partner's bond with someone else ever make you feel disconnected? The crew also discusses ideas around "compatibility", and address some fuckery found inside a few emails. Most enjoyably, Jes and JD tease Joe about being high as fuck on NRE, and Joe gives us an update on his recent journey of being more proactive in opening up to new loves.

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In this raw, vulnerable, and passionate episode, Jes and Joe answer one listener’s email with several questions around Polyamory and Parenting. They dive into the philosophy of semiology, and how your personal semiotics affects how you see the world, and how you understand what’s possible. Not only do they invite you into an expansion of your personal semiology, but they challenge you to examine which cultural narratives you may have bought into without even realizing it. Additionally, Jes, while honestly navigating the unconscious hypocrisy she finds inside these common questions, also calls herself out on her own fuckery -- reminding listeners (multiple times) that they are not responsible for the triggers that come up for her when reading their emails.

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In this episode of Remodeled, Jessica & Joe pick up right from where they left off in Episode 1 -- answering all of the questions that guest host JD Montelongo wants to know: How do you create rules and boundaries for yourselves when exploring polyamory? What happens if one partner is more eager to experiment with polyamory than the other? What's the difference between "open relationships" and "polyamory"? Did any of your "rules" evolve over time? What rules do you have around sex itself? Are you allowed to deny your partner's choice of partner? Do you have to meet your partner's new lover? What if one partner is "more successful" in the dating world than the other?

Plus, Jes talks about the importance of immersing yourself in polyam culture when attempting to navigate it for the first time. She also gives advice on how to be "set free from the torture of jealousy".

NOTE: EPISODE 3 IS AN "ASK US ANYTHING EPISODE". Feel free to submit any questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing [email protected], or submit the anonymous form at www.homesliceproductions.com/remodeled.

>> Featuring Guest Host Jo Daniel Montelongo of Ur Fave Bad Movie

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