In this episode, The Daylovers have a zoom date with Joe's Side-Witch, Lore (aka: The Patron Saint of Compersion). Lore, a professional Death Doula, identifies as a queer, non-binary, latinx, polyamorous, demisexual, hyper-romantic, pansexual. Lore has known The Daylovers since before they got together, and the 3 recount the ways each person has been a part of each other's journey into polyamory. In the first half, Lore discusses the nuances of their identity, their journey into polyamory, their elaborate setup of their current polycule (see episode graphic & find us on Instagram for the full thing), and the ways in which it is possible to practice multiple "styles" of polyamory at once. In the second half of the episode, Lore shares a sweet story of The Daylovers from their earliest coupling -- highlighting the ways in which their polyamorous nature had been there all along. Also, Lore talks about their work as a Death Doula, and draws a connection between Death Work and Polyamory that leaves the Daylovers forever changed.  

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In this episode of Remodeled, Jes shares her glee at the fact that, after 8 years, Joe *FINALLY* let her make him an online dating profile. Joe vulnerably recounts his insecurities and fears he's had around being "proactive" in the dating world, and the both of them revel inside how much his recent opening up has brought so much wonderful new confidence and amorousness into his life.  Jes also tells their love story, which is a hilarious narrative involving a psychic vision and hallucinogenic mushrooms. Finally, The Daylovers divulge the details of Joe's OKCupid profile, talk about his struggles with maintaining conversations, and respond to a listener email questioning whether or not "now" was the right time for Joe to be exploring dating.

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In this episode of Remodeled, first recorded a year ago, The Daylovers talk to one of their oldest friends and comedic cohorts, Shane Tolomeo. Shane was one of the very first people Jes and Joe “came out" to, back in their early days of polyamorous exploration. Now, 7 years later, Shane is living as a happy, healthy, polyamorous gay man. The trio discuss Shane’s polyam origins, his relationship to jealousy, his thoughts on polyam’s connection to Burning Man, and why non-monogamy may be more common in the gay world. This interview will be the first in an on-going series throughout the seasons of this podcast which seek to capture the spirit of different kinds of relationships, especially those of us practicing various forms of non-monogamy. Representation is important. And on the matter of identity, Shane identifies as a white, cisgendered gay male, able-bodied, extroverted, and naturally polyamorous.  The first half of this episode features the in-studio recording from last March while Shane was in Reno. The second half of the episode features a followup interview with Shane, recorded just a few nights ago, via zoom, where Shane and The Daylovers catch up a bit, and then Shane dives into his total nerdom and discusses some very exciting polyamorous things beginning to unfold in the Marvel Universe right now -- which represents a huge shift toward the expansion of our cultural semiology.  

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In this episode, featuring guest host JD Montelongo, and alternatively titled "Pregnancy WAP" (or "Echo Chamber Ego Boost"), the trio answers several listener emails asking: How do you tell your partner you're interested in exploring polyamory? What would you do if they weren't interested? Does your partner's bond with someone else ever make you feel disconnected? The crew also discusses ideas around "compatibility", and address some fuckery found inside a few emails. Most enjoyably, Jes and JD tease Joe about being high as fuck on NRE, and Joe gives us an update on his recent journey of being more proactive in opening up to new loves.

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In this raw, vulnerable, and passionate episode, Jes and Joe answer one listener’s email with several questions around Polyamory and Parenting. They dive into the philosophy of semiology, and how your personal semiotics affects how you see the world, and how you understand what’s possible. Not only do they invite you into an expansion of your personal semiology, but they challenge you to examine which cultural narratives you may have bought into without even realizing it. Additionally, Jes, while honestly navigating the unconscious hypocrisy she finds inside these common questions, also calls herself out on her own fuckery -- reminding listeners (multiple times) that they are not responsible for the triggers that come up for her when reading their emails.

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In this episode of Remodeled, Jessica & Joe pick up right from where they left off in Episode 1 -- answering all of the questions that guest host JD Montelongo wants to know: How do you create rules and boundaries for yourselves when exploring polyamory? What happens if one partner is more eager to experiment with polyamory than the other? What's the difference between "open relationships" and "polyamory"? Did any of your "rules" evolve over time? What rules do you have around sex itself? Are you allowed to deny your partner's choice of partner? Do you have to meet your partner's new lover? What if one partner is "more successful" in the dating world than the other?

Plus, Jes talks about the importance of immersing yourself in polyam culture when attempting to navigate it for the first time. She also gives advice on how to be "set free from the torture of jealousy".

NOTE: EPISODE 3 IS AN "ASK US ANYTHING EPISODE". Feel free to submit any questions you may have about Jes and Joe, polyamory in general, or a specific situation you're navigating by emailing [email protected], or submit the anonymous form at www.homesliceproductions.com/remodeled.

>> Featuring Guest Host Jo Daniel Montelongo of Ur Fave Bad Movie

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In this episode, Jessica and Joe (The Daylovers) leave no stone left unturned in this honest and raw re-telling of the question they are most often asked: "How did ya'll 'get into' polyamory?" With literally no role models to look up to, they had to navigate the world of polyamory on their own. Now, 7 years later, they share their story as a beacon of light for others, as well as to alter the cultural narrative of what's possible. You may find their journey triggering, painful, surreal, and confusing...but if you stay with them (like they did with each other) you will find hope -- especially for all you frightened polyam newbies out there. It is possible to #RedefineLove.

>> Featuring Guest Host Jo Daniel Montelongo of Ur Fave Bad Movie

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