ResponseABLE Parenting

In this episode I share why I dislike the umbrella term "connection over correction" and why I think it's doing parents who are really trying a disservice.

I share what it looks like to use connection as a tool and how to connect to yourself so that you can connect to your children.

I hope you can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that you are trying and not failing after listening to this episode.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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"When I'm in a relationship with his behaviors there is less for me to see and love and adore and protect. But when I put that down, it opens my eyes to all the things that make him special, unique that I love and want to protect in him!" - Amanda Doyle, We Can Do Hard Things

This quote hit me hard. It reminded me of the years I had invested into removing unwanted behavior and how I was exclusively focused on the behavior, not the child in front of me. In this episode I talk about how we can begin to separate the behavior from our child. And steps we can take as their safe caregiver to understand their behavior more clearly and how we can get curious and connect with them in order to fall back in love and connection with our child vs. focus only on their behavior.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.

https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

I made a post a few weeks ago about my son negotiating with me in the pool for more pool time. I walked through the scenario and shared THE WIN of how he held his end of the agreement EVEN THOUGH he had an impulse to jump back in.

Since that post I've received 100s of messages from mostly men talking about how I should have solved that problem with physical violence against my son. They got dark. Very dark. And in this episode I address that.

The comments show a society of adult men who were not taught how to deal with frustration. Men who were not taught how to deal with the discomfort from another person's perspective. And a generation of men who were taught that if they don't get their way, if someone pushes back even slightly, that the way to maintain your position of power is violence.

In this episode I share why it is so important to teach all children how to deal with frustration but specifically our sons. Who are being raised with the same outdated tropes that it's not manly to cry, to feel, to have emotions.

This has to end.

If you would like to work with me and join me in my mission to support the next generation in a better way, please reach out to me.

Either connect on Instagram @ ResponseABLEparenting

Or email me: [email protected]

I look forward to supporting you and your family in a healthier way.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.

https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

Teaching our kids the ways of the world from value based boundaries vs. consequences and yelling is NOT easy. In fact, it's way harder. But it is worth every bit of effort.

In this episode I share a personal story of watching my son understand the boundaries and how he put it into practice while playing a game with his brother.

My hope in sharing this is to give you a beacon of hope. This is a moment I will hold onto forever as I remember that this part of him is alive and well inside, I just need to nurture it more and continue giving him the opportunity to practice.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again.

https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

Hey mama, do you have a strong willed kid? Are you curious if they're defiant, have a behavioral disorder, or are just here on this planet to make your life miserable?! I get it, I've been parenting a strong willed child for 7+ years now and I know the roller coaster that it is.

In this episode I break down the 5 key markers I've noticed with strong-willed kids. I have a feeling you'll recognize several of these with your own kiddo.

I also invite you to take a look at The Strong-Willed Language inside of The ResponseABLE Parenting Community. In this ongoing series I will break down the ways to connect, communicate and support yourself and your strong-willed child so that we can stop the screaming matches, reduce the power struggles and actually enjoy having the time with these amazing kids!

I cannot wait to see you there and support you further! You can join the community below and head right to the Strong-Willed Language section! Don't forget to use your code PODCAST for $10 off your first month.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! And now the STRONG-WILLED LANGUAGE series is up and running! Every week get your hands on a skill that works specifically for our strong-willed kids.

Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

I am so excited to share this interview with you. Rachel Marie Martin is an author, entrepreneur, speaker and mom to SEVEN yes you heard me SEVEN children!! She shares her story of how she felt lost in motherhood, a pivotal moment in her life where she chose to prioritize herself and how she's been able to move through life even when people questioned her because she trusted that spark.

I invite you to listen and see yourself in her story.

You can find Rachel at FindingJoy.net

On Instagram @finding_Joy

And Facebook https://www.facebook.com/findingjoyblog

Rachel's Book GET YOUR SPARK BACK comes out 8/27/24 everywhere books are sold!

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations!

And now the STRONG-WILLED LANGUAGE series is up and running! Every week get your hands on a skill that works specifically for our strong-willed kids.

Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

Back to school is upon us! If you have a stage 5 clinger like I do, this can be a hard moment for both them and you. This morning I had to fight back some tears as well and put on a sturdy face so I could support my son on his first day in a new school and new grade.

In this episode I share how to help your children feel more safety inside during this transition. I also share a few rituals that have helped me in the past and ways to stay grounded as the parent.

I wish you all the best of luck as we all head back to school!

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! And now the STRONG-WILLED LANGUAGE series is up and running! Every week get your hands on a skill that works specifically for our strong-willed kids.

Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

In this episode I piggyback off of Episode 47 which talks about our low self worth loops as parents. This episode talks about that inner feeling, that inner knowing that you have to shed an old belief system in order to truly step into the parent that you want to be.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month!

https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

I am so excited to share this episode with you! I do a deep dive into what my community looks like! I share the 5 stages inside the community and what you could expect from each stage. I share that no matter where you start, there is no shame, no expectations of how fast you grow or how you "perform" inside this community.

The community group is my baby :) I have designed this space to give you endless opportunities for growth and support. A place where you can feel seen, feel heard and understood maybe for the first time in your parenting journey. So that you can shed the parts of parenthood that do not serve you and truly step into your path. A path that feels joyful, simple, less triggering, less chaotic, less guilt ridden.

The beauty of this community is right now - it's in its infancy. YOU get to shape the content and the direction! YOU share with me what's going on, what you need, where you're frustrated or struggling and I will build the path for you to follow so that you can move through this without as much struggle, pain and confusion.

I truly cannot wait to connect with you and take your parenting journey even deeper!

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month!

https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5

I have said many times that threats, bribes, consequences and punishments don't work very well. And I get A LOT of feedback (nice way to say nasty comments 😉) in my feed about how these are necessary to teach our kids how to be "real world ready." And how else are they going to learn how to act appropriately if they don't have punishments when they act out of turn?

This episode addresses just that!

I share in this episode how I've been able to remove threats, bribes, punishments and imposed consequences AND how I've been able to teach the lessons, instill the values and teach my kids how to act appropriately without all of that!

I share my system of value based boundaries and how our "bubble" gets bigger and smaller based on their abilities to live inside these values.

It's a shame-free framework that works so well and I'm excited to share this with you!

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is OPEN! Join The ResponseABLE Parenting Community so you have access to a parent coach (me :)) to answer every pressing and challenging question you have as well as build your skills, grow your capacity to regulate your emotions and feel better as a parent in everyday hard situations! Join Today! Enter the code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/community

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5