ResponseABLE Parenting

I share a vulnerable moment in time for me in this episode. My oldest son and I are not jiving and the frustration is level 10 what seems like most of the day…and most days. I can do all the work in the world and sometimes it's a simple visual that helps me in moments of conflict, chaos and challenge.

We often find ourselves facing two paths in parenting. One is so incredibly easy to take because we've been there so so so many times. It's easy because our neural pathways are strong and deep and the pattern has been repeated so many times. But it doesn't feel right and many times we are simply at a crossroads, unsure of how to handle the situation.

This episode is about that crossroads.

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Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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I love this episode not just for the really simple visual to help calm us down in a moment of mom rage but because the visual was brought to me by my late son Jackson. In this episode I walk you through a grounding visual that will help settle you in the heat of the moment and remind you of what your goal is on this responsive parenting journey.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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In this episode you get to hear from Play Therapist Kimberly Bartlett. We talk about effective play strategies to really engage your kids in a different way. She shares simple and actionable tips that will help you in the most challenging moments with your kids.

Kimberly Bartlett is a dedicated professional in the field of play therapy, holding the titles of Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor™ and Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker. As the owner of Evergreen Play Therapy in Seattle, she channels her passion into utilizing Integrative Play Therapy techniques to facilitate transformative change and growth in children and families. Through this approach, she creates a nurturing space where healing, self-expression, and skill development thrive.

I'm excited for you to take a listen and get to know Kimberly!

If this podcast speaks to you, please email me [email protected] , share with me what's going on for you and we can get on a call together to see what coaching could look like for you.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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I am so excited for you to hear from Katelynn. Katelynn is a mom to a very strong-willed 3.5 year old. When she and I first started coaching her daughter was having several meltdowns a day that lasted for a minimum of an hour and sometimes stretched closer to 2. Katelynn felt like she was failing, she was overwhelmed with all the advice she was seeing on her feed and just needed relief.

She looked at coaching with me as a one stop shop to get all of the support, tools and resources she needed to succeed in parenting. What she got was a total transformation of not only her parenting but of her belief in self, communication style and so much more.

You'll hear from Katelynn about what our time together coaching looked like and her ah-ha moments. I am excited for you to listen! If this podcast speaks to you, please email me [email protected] , share with me what's going on for you and we can get on a call together to see what coaching could look like for you.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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In this episode, I break down my progression of low self-worth loops that began in childhood and share how that has affected my parenting. This is not a bashing session on my parents, rather it's a deeper understanding of how we, as kids, can start to internally code these really repetitive interactions with our parents. When there is shame, constant correction, lectures, etc. it's very easy to internalize these moments as "bad" or "wrong" and therefore we begin to view ourselves as "bad" or "wrong."

When our kid's way of expressing themselves doesn't match our expectations we have to be very careful with how we step in to correct. Our child might morph into the "behaved" child we want to see, but what is going on for them internally? What stories are they telling themselves about their character, their abilities, their level of self-worth? One of the greatest lessons I'm learning as a parent is that even if we are coming to parenting with the best of intentions, we need to make sure we attune to and match our child's way of expressing thoughts and feelings. We need to meet them where THEY are at, verses expect them to rise to our level.

Additionally I share a tool that I use myself and that my clients use in order to get more clarity and context around why we are so incredibly triggered at certain times.

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FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling

This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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In this episode, I give you a framework to follow when you find yourself stuck in a power struggle with your kids. This isn't a rigid script to follow, rather a framework to assist you in some of the most frustrating moments in parenting.

When our wants collide with our child's wants - we end up feeling resistance. WE understand that feeling and we might have some coping strategies, but more often than not we feel like we have to justify, explain or force our way to end it.

I think what often happens is we go to extremes. We either give into their resistance or we go hard and power over to get what needs to get done, done.

One of the smartest things we can do as parents is just to drop our side of the power struggle. That means we just don't take the bait and jump into the boxing ring with our kids.

1: Drop our side of the power struggle

2: Focus on our nervous system: https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-44-what-are-grounding-techniques&sa=D&source=docs&ust=1718637147858375&usg=AOvVaw21L8fsF9X2VC2lUAQi9rqF

3: Make a statement

4: Give them a choice

When we follow this framework everyone wins. We hold our boundary, what needs to happen gets done, our child feels validated and seen and they have a bit of control of how it looks (even if it's not their ideal version).

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling. This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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I'm the assistant coach on my son's little league team this season. And I'm noticing the proclivity of parents (myself included at times) to demand excellence. I link this back to when I was young and noticed that my brother's naturally high achieving abilities never got lectured. But I was lectured ALLLL the time. So I started achieving more, and more, and more and yet the lectures never stopped. I was chronically stressed out about my performance. I linked achievement to connection and hoped that with enough I'd be free of the lectures.

I ultimately transferred this chaotic energy into eating disorders, workaholism, perfectionism and a lot of self criticism.

This baseball season has been a great learning moment for me because it's allowed me to remember this pressure and reframe what I'm encouraging and what I'm letting go of.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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I am really excited about this episode! I share a brief overview of the nervous system and why we feel the way we feel in triggering moments. I also break down how to start reading your body's cues so you can utilize grounding tools to regulate your nervous system and show up the way you want vs. reacting from a dysregulated state.

You'll get several practical in the moment strategies to use to calm down, even just a tiny bit. Regulation doesn't equal calm, regulation is being able to access these tools and choose your response even when you're flooded with emotions.

For this week I'm opening up my community group! You can tap into even more nervous system regulation techniques and take the workshop co-hosted by Nervous System Expert Tanicia Baynes!

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My son's new favorite phrase "You're mean!!" Part of me wants to prove that they are right! But deep down I know that is not a connective response. In this episode I'm talking about the reactions that happen from our kids after we set a boundary. More often than not, they are going to negotiate to get that boundary to change - and when it doesn't they're going to react from a defensive state. I offer a perspective shift for those moments when our kid's words cut a bit and press on old wounds. I offer a perspective that you can hold onto so that you can stay grounded and on the path of responsive parenting.

In this episode I break down holding a boundary and being able to manage the waves of emotions from your children that are bound to happen as a result. I share how you can hold a boundary AND hold their feelings at the same time.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

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Glennon Doyle: "We are not being taught how to human, we are being taught how to adult."

In this episode I unpack a passing quote that I heard on the podcast We Can Do Hard Things. It was said in a flash and they moved on but it stuck with me on my whole walk so I wanted to dive further into this concept of learning how to be human vs. learning how to be an adult.

I explore how feeling is an essential part of the human experience. And how we as conscious, emotionally mature, responsive parents are trying to open ourselves up to embrace this and encourage this growth and development within our children. And at the same time come up against our own programming, expectations and fears that limit our scope of what should be allowed.

FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments.

COMMUNITY! The community is currently closed. Subscribe to the podcast and stay tuned for the next time the doors open :)

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you!