ResponseABLE Parenting

There is something about the word "no" that lights up our nervous system and sets us off! And when we are set off and operating from our reactive center, our emotional center, the part of ourselves that relies on learned coping behaviors, we are entering into a power struggle and we've lost the chance to teach a skill. I'm always looking for moments to be more efficient in my parenting. Places where I can heal a bit of myself and impart a skill. In this episode I break down ways to look at the word "no" differently. I offer you mindset shifts and ways to teach this very essential communication skill to your children.

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

COMMUNITY! And if you're ready for a little bit more than this podcast but not totally sure where to start, check out the ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group. You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month I will host LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today!

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe0vzGusmyvlTJA3hO5qqZqBifUen2GEtIym6cZTgMZeURzSA/viewform?usp=sf_link

One of the most amazing ways to teach our children respect is to own our part of the conflict. Owning it and leaving it. Without expectation of a specific response in return or our children coming around and owning their part as well. In this episode I talk about how frustrating moments with our children can make us want to prove our side, justify our reaction, etc. And how easy it is to blame our children for our reaction. "If you hadn't done this, I wouldn't do that…"

But at the heart of this, we need to model healthy conflict AND healthy conflict resolution. Owning our part is such a critical step in the repair process and will do so much to teach respect and healthy boundaries.

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

COMMUNITY! And if you're ready for a little bit more than this podcast but not totally sure where to start, check out the ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group. You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month I will host LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today!

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe0vzGusmyvlTJA3hO5qqZqBifUen2GEtIym6cZTgMZeURzSA/viewform?usp=sf_link

I am SO excited about this episode. Today we are diving into the topic of RESPECT! I get told a lot on social media that I'm not teaching my children respect. But when I dig further with these comments, they always boil down to compliance, obedience, and blind respect to authority.

This episode flips respect on its head. What is respect? How do we teach it? And do we actually deserve it from our kids?

FREE GUIDE!Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

COMMUNITY!And if you're ready for a little bit more than this podcast but not totally sure where to start, check out the ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group. You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month I will host LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today!

BE A GUEST!If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe0vzGusmyvlTJA3hO5qqZqBifUen2GEtIym6cZTgMZeURzSA/viewform?usp=sf_link

Empathy is SO hard and it's definitely not our go to parenting tool. But it is a critical step! When we lead with empathy our children begin to trust their sensations, the begin to understand their feelings and they begin to develop a secure sense of Self. Empathy is the pathway to self esteem. When we show our child that they are worthy enough to be listened to, seen, and that we want to understand them, there is no greater gift. We don't have to fix every problem. What will stick with them more, is that we were THERE for them in every problem. Leading with empathy is so uncomfortable and can seem exhausting sometimes. But it's deeply nourishing, soothing and creates a very connected sense of safety between the two of you.

And a big announcement! The ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group is now available! You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month you'll have direct access to me in our LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you. And if you aren't by your computer, don't worry! You can download my app and have all of my parenting advice on the go. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today.

In this episode I share my feelings around a quote that truly struck me. I cannot for the life of me remember which podcast I was listening to that shared it but I do remember stopping in my tracks, rewinding and typing it down!

Here is the quote: Everything we want in our homes and lives is on the other side of the feelings we think we can't feel. The actual line between where we are and where we want to go is entirely dependent on the feelings we are willing to feel or not in our nervous system.

This resonates with me so much and is truly one of the hardest and greatest gifts we can give ourselves. And when we do this for ourselves our children benefit from that growth.

And a big announcement! The ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group is now available! You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month you'll have direct access to me in our LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you. And if you aren't by your computer, don't worry! You can download my app and have all of my parenting advice on the go. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today.

When you are in the thick of a tantrum it can feel excruciating. And it can feel like it's never going to end. In this episode I share a story of losing my cool with my 3 year old. And how my response totally shifted his body - and not in a good way. I share openly and vulnerability about this moment in time and all of my takeaways from it. Tantrums and meltdowns are one of the hardest parts of parenting. My hope is that this episode and my community group will help support you and fill the reserves that are so depleted.

And a big announcement! The ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group is now available! You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month you'll have direct access to me in our LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you.

And if you aren't by your computer, don't worry! You can download my app and have all of my parenting advice on the go. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today

In this episode I share a story of trying to teach my son a lesson and how poorly it went! And the reason it went so poorly was because my timing was completely off. I was trying to teach the lesson while he was still dysregulated and so he truly wasn't grasping or hearing a word I was saying. He was internalizing it as shame, being bad and that he wasn't a good kid. I also talk about generational cycles of punishment and how this challenges the narrative to teach the lesson outside of the moment. It's a deeply ingrained parenting pattern that sometimes sends us down a very frustrating path. I also share an amazing technique to solidify these lessons in a connected way.

And a big announcement! The ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group is now available! You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month you'll have direct access to me in our LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you.

And if you aren't by your computer, don't worry! You can download my app and have all of my parenting advice on the go. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today

In this episode I share one of "ah-ha" moments with my son. Once I had this mental reframe I was able to look at him with so much more curiosity and wonder vs. frustration and confusion. It was truly a freeing moment and since then we've been able to enjoy these types of projects so much more together. There is less tension, he has so much more freedom to explore and it really has opened up a whole new way that we interact. I'm excited for you to listen and spend some time this week thinking about how you can look at the child in front of you a bit differently!

And a big announcement! The ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group is now available! You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month you'll have direct access to me in our LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you.

And if you aren't by your computer, don't worry! You can download my app and have all of my parenting advice on the go. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today

This one is kind of fun! If you follow me on Instagram you know I did a "live" while recording this podcast as well! So the flow is a bit different and a bit longer because I kept talking as people joined. I discuss what happened at our first parent teacher conference when my older son was only 3 and how that shaped our parenting practices. You'll also hear the stark contrast in teacher feedback from those authoritarian days to now when I am consciously parenting and choosing my responses to him. What a difference! I'm excited for you to have a listen!

And a big announcement! The ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group is now available! You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month you'll have direct access to me in our LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you.

And if you aren't by your computer, don't worry! You can download my app and have all of my parenting advice on the go. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today.

I live in a house with all dudes. And it can be very frustrating when my boys don't understand what's going on for me every month. Our moods, capacity, ability, energy, etc are very much dedicated by our hormones. As a result, sometimes I'm a LOT more fun and have a huge burst of energy to do all the creative projects. And others, I have zero battery, I'm easily triggered and have a much shorter fuse. I wanted my kids to understand at a young age what happens for mommy each month, why, and how to be more supportive around it so there is zero stigma, shame or embarrassment later in life. We are very open about what body parts are, what they do, etc. so teaching my boys about periods will be no different in this house!

And a big announcement! The ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group is now available! You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month you'll have direct access to me in our LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you.

And if you aren't by your computer, don't worry! You can download my app and have all of my parenting advice on the go. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today