This episode is for you if your ADHDer is prone to conflict. If your child appears to seek out a sibling, escalates with you quickly after hearing an answer they don't like, has to do a non-preferred task that is SO BORING!! I break down a few bits of science that is really helpful to understand WHY their brain is doing what it's doing. And once we know this, what can WE do as the parent to stop feeding the conflict and start building louder more positive options in the desired behavior pattern we want to see. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist</a> I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href= "https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. <a href= "https://www.responseableparenting.com/join">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero</a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

This episode is for you if your ADHDer is prone to conflict. If your child appears to seek out a sibling, escalates with you quickly after hearing an answer they don't like, has to do a non-preferred task that is SO BORING!! I break down a few bits of science that is really helpful to understand WHY their brain is doing what it's doing. And once we know this, what can WE do as the parent to stop feeding the conflict and start building louder more positive options in the desired behavior pattern we want to see. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

This episode is for you if your ADHDer is prone to conflict. If your child appears to seek out a sibling, escalates with you quickly after hearing an answer they don't like, has to do a non-preferred task that is SO BORING!! I break down a few bits of science that is really helpful to understand WHY their brain is doing what it's doing. And once we know this, what can WE do as the parent to stop feeding the conflict and start building louder more positive options in the desired behavior pattern we want to see. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist</a> I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href="https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. <a href="https://www.responseableparenting.com/join" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero</a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

161: Why does my ADHD kid LOVE to fight with me?!

I'm no stranger to a lecture. In fact, that's all my body knows as a solution for high conflict. That's all my dad did and I'm drawn to that as the solution to the hard moments with my ADHD kid. In this episode I share some of the underlying reasons we reach for lectures and punishments in hard patterns. And how these choices fuel the conflict even more. I share a few steps you can take right now to start moving the needle in the direction of the desired behavior. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist</a> I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href= "https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. <a href= "https://www.responseableparenting.com/join">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero </a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

I'm no stranger to a lecture. In fact, that's all my body knows as a solution for high conflict. That's all my dad did and I'm drawn to that as the solution to the hard moments with my ADHD kid. In this episode I share some of the underlying reasons we reach for lectures and punishments in hard patterns. And how these choices fuel the conflict even more. I share a few steps you can take right now to start moving the needle in the direction of the desired behavior. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

I'm no stranger to a lecture. In fact, that's all my body knows as a solution for high conflict. That's all my dad did and I'm drawn to that as the solution to the hard moments with my ADHD kid. In this episode I share some of the underlying reasons we reach for lectures and punishments in hard patterns. And how these choices fuel the conflict even more. I share a few steps you can take right now to start moving the needle in the direction of the desired behavior. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist</a> I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href="https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. <a href="https://www.responseableparenting.com/join" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero </a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

162: The chronic hard moments that end in lectures or fights

In this episode I break down a very intense moment between my ADHD child, his grandparents, and us (his parents) when his idea didn't go exactly as he wanted. I share how the moment unfolded, what was going on for him and me during the argument, and how I supported us both through the fire. This episode is truly about frustration tolerance. How do we build it, how can we teach it, and that really pivotal moment where it feels like nothing is working. What do we do… Make sure you check the show notes for the ADHD Masterclass times and sign up! I know better and I still lose it on my ADHD kid You're not being a bad parent, your nervous system hits a tipping point and it launches into protection mode. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist</a> I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href= "https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. <a href= "https://www.responseableparenting.com/join">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero</a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

In this episode I break down a very intense moment between my ADHD child, his grandparents, and us (his parents) when his idea didn't go exactly as he wanted. I share how the moment unfolded, what was going on for him and me during the argument, and how I supported us both through the fire. This episode is truly about frustration tolerance. How do we build it, how can we teach it, and that really pivotal moment where it feels like nothing is working. What do we do… Make sure you check the show notes for the ADHD Masterclass times and sign up! I know better and I still lose it on my ADHD kid You're not being a bad parent, your nervous system hits a tipping point and it launches into protection mode. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

In this episode I break down a very intense moment between my ADHD child, his grandparents, and us (his parents) when his idea didn't go exactly as he wanted. I share how the moment unfolded, what was going on for him and me during the argument, and how I supported us both through the fire. This episode is truly about frustration tolerance. How do we build it, how can we teach it, and that really pivotal moment where it feels like nothing is working. What do we do… Make sure you check the show notes for the ADHD Masterclass times and sign up! I know better and I still lose it on my ADHD kid You're not being a bad parent, your nervous system hits a tipping point and it launches into protection mode. 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist</a> I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href="https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. <a href="https://www.responseableparenting.com/join" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero</a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

160: Frustration INTOLERANCE and how to not join your ADHD kid in their meltdown

This was a HUGE ah ha moment for me and my ADHD son this summer. We've been in this pattern for as long as he's been able to talk. I ask him to do something, he tells me what he's doing instead. This has led to us BOTH being very reactive and triggered and it's been one pattern I haven't been able to crack. UNTIL NOW! In this episode I break down the exact moment we figured it out, how things have changed since, and exactly how we are practicing it so we can lower the defensive walls and start communicating more respectfully! 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist</a> I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href= "https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. <a href= "https://www.responseableparenting.com/join">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero</a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

This was a HUGE ah ha moment for me and my ADHD son this summer. We've been in this pattern for as long as he's been able to talk. I ask him to do something, he tells me what he's doing instead. This has led to us BOTH being very reactive and triggered and it's been one pattern I haven't been able to crack. UNTIL NOW! In this episode I break down the exact moment we figured it out, how things have changed since, and exactly how we are practicing it so we can lower the defensive walls and start communicating more respectfully! 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. https://www.responseableparenting.com/join FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

This was a HUGE ah ha moment for me and my ADHD son this summer. We've been in this pattern for as long as he's been able to talk. I ask him to do something, he tells me what he's doing instead. This has led to us BOTH being very reactive and triggered and it's been one pattern I haven't been able to crack. UNTIL NOW! In this episode I break down the exact moment we figured it out, how things have changed since, and exactly how we are practicing it so we can lower the defensive walls and start communicating more respectfully! 🎉STOP YELLING! The ADHD Behavior Blueprint is HERE!🎉 If you are sick and tired of the same repetitive behaviors and want to see real and permanent changes with you and your ADHD child, make sure you attend my upcoming FREE masterclass. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> Please note: these masterclass dates fill up FAST. I am adding as many as I can. If nothing is available on the calendar register on this waitlist: <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/waitlist</a> I will blast out new times as often as I can! If the masterclass is too far away, and you want to take the first step. Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href="https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> And if you want to get started TODAY, jump right into the program. When you join you have MY EYES on your challenging patterns. Not just sometimes. But every single week, multiple times a week. You send me your situations, we work together on calls and inside the program until you have a solution that works for YOUR family. You will walk away with a repeatable system that you can use for any challenging pattern. No more strategy spaghetti, just real solutions that work WITH your ADHD child not against them. <a href="https://www.responseableparenting.com/join" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero</a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

159: Does your ADHD kid tell you what they're doing INSTEAD of doing what you just asked!?!?!

In this episode I break down the fears we all have about giving our ADHD kids REWARDS for their behavior. I share WHY rewards help to motivate your ADHD child, but HOW to use them more effectively and strategically. This will answer the bribery questions, the "will I reward my child forever" question, and will my child only do things if I give them stuff question. :) 🚨FIRST EVER ADHD BEHAVIOR BLUEPRINT 🚨LIVE EVENT IS HAPPENING!!🚨 You're having the same power struggle over the tasks that HAVE to get done. Homework, teeth brushing, putting ONE piece of clothing away, bedtime… heaven forbid you ALSO ask that they speak kindly during this process. 🤯 The level of overwhelm, dysregulation, and frustration you're living with day to day is real and it's unfair. 🙅🏼‍♀️This is NOT what you pictured parenting to look like, and this version of you as a parent, is not aligning with your values. You want to be a kind, accepting, patient person but you end up snapping or getting into your ADHD kid's feelings with them. 🎉But that all changes now! 🎉 You're going to be able to stop walking on eggshells, stop feeling utterly defeated and like you're making all the wrong choices, and ACTUALLY KNOW how you and your child can get through both transitions and all the everyday "must do tasks" without yet another fight! AND, you don't need to repeat yourself to the point of yelling! Imagine feeling grounded and proud of yourself for navigating the day with regulation instead of multiple yelling matches. There are many ADHD strategies out there, but after working exclusively with severe high conflict families, I've filtered out what doesn't work for ADHD kids (*cough gentle parenting) and combined my education, research & lived experience into the core A.B.L.E. Method. You do not need to have the same battle every day. It starts with regulation, a plan, some practice reps, and a lot of reinforcement. Not sure how that looks in real life? Don't worry! I've got your back in a 2 day live event (well on zoom but with me😂) where we go over YOUR repeated battle and we BUILD YOUR PLAN so all you have to do is execute it! January 9th & 10th, 2027 (9am-11am PST both days) *Recorded for those who can't attend live. No more second guessing, no more confusion, just a proven strategy to support your power struggle. This live event IS FREE to all existing ResponseABLE Community members! So come to a free masterclass or just JOIN THE PROGRAM, and get ready to have me walk side by side with you as we map out your 2027 behavior plan so you can actually start enjoying time with your ADHD child again! FREE masterclass: <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> JOIN here: <a href= "https://www.responseableparenting.com/join">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> Live event dates: Jan 9-10th. 2 hours on Saturday / 2 hours on Sunday morning (9-11am PST). We take your chronic fight and your goal and we break down every step that needs to happen to make that goal a reality! MINI COURSE: Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href= "https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href= "https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero</a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href= "https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

In this episode I break down the fears we all have about giving our ADHD kids REWARDS for their behavior. I share WHY rewards help to motivate your ADHD child, but HOW to use them more effectively and strategically. This will answer the bribery questions, the "will I reward my child forever" question, and will my child only do things if I give them stuff question. :) 🚨FIRST EVER ADHD BEHAVIOR BLUEPRINT 🚨LIVE EVENT IS HAPPENING!!🚨 You're having the same power struggle over the tasks that HAVE to get done. Homework, teeth brushing, putting ONE piece of clothing away, bedtime… heaven forbid you ALSO ask that they speak kindly during this process. 🤯 The level of overwhelm, dysregulation, and frustration you're living with day to day is real and it's unfair. 🙅🏼‍♀️This is NOT what you pictured parenting to look like, and this version of you as a parent, is not aligning with your values. You want to be a kind, accepting, patient person but you end up snapping or getting into your ADHD kid's feelings with them. 🎉But that all changes now! 🎉 You're going to be able to stop walking on eggshells, stop feeling utterly defeated and like you're making all the wrong choices, and ACTUALLY KNOW how you and your child can get through both transitions and all the everyday "must do tasks" without yet another fight! AND, you don't need to repeat yourself to the point of yelling! Imagine feeling grounded and proud of yourself for navigating the day with regulation instead of multiple yelling matches. There are many ADHD strategies out there, but after working exclusively with severe high conflict families, I've filtered out what doesn't work for ADHD kids (*cough gentle parenting) and combined my education, research & lived experience into the core A.B.L.E. Method. You do not need to have the same battle every day. It starts with regulation, a plan, some practice reps, and a lot of reinforcement. Not sure how that looks in real life? Don't worry! I've got your back in a 2 day live event (well on zoom but with me😂) where we go over YOUR repeated battle and we BUILD YOUR PLAN so all you have to do is execute it! January 9th & 10th, 2027 (9am-11am PST both days) *Recorded for those who can't attend live. No more second guessing, no more confusion, just a proven strategy to support your power struggle. This live event IS FREE to all existing ResponseABLE Community members! So come to a free masterclass or just JOIN THE PROGRAM, and get ready to have me walk side by side with you as we map out your 2027 behavior plan so you can actually start enjoying time with your ADHD child again! FREE masterclass: https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass JOIN here: https://www.responseableparenting.com/join Live event dates: Jan 9-10th. 2 hours on Saturday / 2 hours on Sunday morning (9-11am PST). We take your chronic fight and your goal and we break down every step that needs to happen to make that goal a reality! MINI COURSE: Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

In this episode I break down the fears we all have about giving our ADHD kids REWARDS for their behavior. I share WHY rewards help to motivate your ADHD child, but HOW to use them more effectively and strategically. This will answer the bribery questions, the "will I reward my child forever" question, and will my child only do things if I give them stuff question. :) 🚨FIRST EVER ADHD BEHAVIOR BLUEPRINT 🚨LIVE EVENT IS HAPPENING!!🚨 You're having the same power struggle over the tasks that HAVE to get done. Homework, teeth brushing, putting ONE piece of clothing away, bedtime… heaven forbid you ALSO ask that they speak kindly during this process. 🤯 The level of overwhelm, dysregulation, and frustration you're living with day to day is real and it's unfair. 🙅🏼‍♀️This is NOT what you pictured parenting to look like, and this version of you as a parent, is not aligning with your values. You want to be a kind, accepting, patient person but you end up snapping or getting into your ADHD kid's feelings with them. 🎉But that all changes now! 🎉 You're going to be able to stop walking on eggshells, stop feeling utterly defeated and like you're making all the wrong choices, and ACTUALLY KNOW how you and your child can get through both transitions and all the everyday "must do tasks" without yet another fight! AND, you don't need to repeat yourself to the point of yelling! Imagine feeling grounded and proud of yourself for navigating the day with regulation instead of multiple yelling matches. There are many ADHD strategies out there, but after working exclusively with severe high conflict families, I've filtered out what doesn't work for ADHD kids (*cough gentle parenting) and combined my education, research &amp; lived experience into the core A.B.L.E. Method. You do not need to have the same battle every day. It starts with regulation, a plan, some practice reps, and a lot of reinforcement. Not sure how that looks in real life? Don't worry! I've got your back in a 2 day live event (well on zoom but with me😂) where we go over YOUR repeated battle and we BUILD YOUR PLAN so all you have to do is execute it! January 9th &amp; 10th, 2027 (9am-11am PST both days) *Recorded for those who can't attend live. No more second guessing, no more confusion, just a proven strategy to support your power struggle. This live event IS FREE to all existing ResponseABLE Community members! So come to a free masterclass or just JOIN THE PROGRAM, and get ready to have me walk side by side with you as we map out your 2027 behavior plan so you can actually start enjoying time with your ADHD child again! FREE masterclass: <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/adhd-masterclass</a> JOIN here: <a href="https://www.responseableparenting.com/join" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.responseableparenting.com/join</a> Live event dates: Jan 9-10th. 2 hours on Saturday / 2 hours on Sunday morning (9-11am PST). We take your chronic fight and your goal and we break down every step that needs to happen to make that goal a reality! MINI COURSE: Grab my 39 minute video / workbook combo where you will learn exactly why you feel so awful in these moments with your ADHD kid AND you'll learn the steps necessary to get out of the heat of the moment and stop reacting so quickly to the same repetitive fight. You can grab Before You Lose It right here! <a href="https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseable-community.circle.so/checkout/gap</a> FREE RESOURCES! <ul> <li> Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards</a> </li> <li> Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! <a href="https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero</a> </li> </ul> Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. <a href="https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call</a>

171: To reward or not to reward your ADHD kid?

Trigger warning: I talk about my stillbirth in this episode. My oldest son was not even 3 when his preschool advised us that he had behavioral issues. This started us down a 2+ year path to "get him in line." I share what we did, what didn't work, and how it rocket-launched me into this journey of parent coaching.

1. How It All Began

We come to parenting with all the patterns we learned in our own childhood. Together in this podcast, we uncover the roots of our reactivity and grow in education, capacity, awareness, and skills so we will be able to respond vs. react to our strong-willed children. The beauty of this process is as you become a ResponseAble Parent, the "misbehavior" of your children will lessen, the yelling will fall away and a new level of companionship and cooperation will take its place. Welcome to the journey of ResponseAble Parenting. Take a deep breath in, slow exhale out, and let's get to work.

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