Rethink Your Rules

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It's got kids, dogs, and it's my shortest episode yet! What more can I say?

I’ve learned so much from parenting my children. Sometimes, the same skills I use to help them can be applied to managing myself, or in interactions with other adults. At other times, it’s more explicit: one of my kids says something that surprises me and gives me an entirely new perspective.

I’m going to be sharing more of these life lessons from parenting here as standalone episodes on the podcast. And I'm starting this week with a conversation about dogs with my 9 year old son. You might not expect to find wisdom there. But his belief that being unique is more valuable than conforming to an “ideal’ standard was thought-provoking. It led me to reconsider why I (and we as a society) try so hard not to seem different.

What if we truly believed that being different and unique was more valuable than being "normal" and fitting in with the group?

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This week, I’m sharing a great strategy for when you feel stuck in frustration because someone keeps acting in a way you don’t like.

Next time you notice yourself feeling resentful or angry, complaining about it, spending time trying to think of ways to make them change…Take a quick break and ask yourself these Power Questions:

If I assume they will never change…
✨What are my options?
✨How can I take care of myself?
✨What do I want most? 

Take a listen to hear more about why this works so well, and what to do with the answers you find!

(Don’t worry, the point here isn’t that you can never be annoyed again, or that you “should” stop wishing for them to change. The point is just to spend some of that energy on taking care of YOU instead of focused on them.)

And if you want some help thinking through how this applies to your situation, I’m here. Set up your free consult at the link below and let’s talk about it. ❤️

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This week, I'm sharing everything you need to know about my coaching program & the unique process I've developed for my clients.

I'll cover:

• Who (what it means to be a Too Much Mom)
• What (Common coaching topics)
• How (My Rethink your Rules Process & what's included when you sign up)
• Why (Results: including short-term wins + long-term lasting changes)

As you listen, ask yourself if this program is the right fit for you- or perhaps for someone you know. 

If so... now is the best time to sign up because... bonuses!

• Everyone who registers for VIP coaching by Friday April 21, 2023 at 11:59pm will be invited to a retreat Oct 6-8, 2023
• This is INCLUDED at no additional cost when you register here: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/vip-coaching
• use code BREAKTHERULES2023 for another $500 off as well

But remember the Retreat offer expires Friday!

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Narcissism is a hot topic lately. Everyone seems to be wondering if that difficult person we know may be a narcissist, and if so, what to do. We find ourselves asking: How should I interact with them? Do I need to cut them out of my life completely? Is there any hope for them to grow and change? How do I set boundaries?

And if you're like me, there may even be moments when you ask yourself "Wait, could I be a narcissist?" Because we notice ourselves doing things that seem narcissistic at times.

In this episode, I'll share my perspective on narcissism, which is a bit different than what you'll hear from most people. I'll talk about: 
✨ Narcissistic personality disorder vs narcissistic traits 
✨ The link between emotional immaturity and narcissism 
✨ How all humans are emotionally immature at times, so we have to de-shame it 
✨ Why focusing on whether THEY are a narcissist is not very useful (even if true) 
✨ What I recommend you focus on instead.

Once you understand these concepts, it becomes so much easier to interact with the (potential) narcissists in your life.

You'll waste less energy on being annoyed or trying to get them to change. 

This will free up more energy to understand YOURSELF better. 

To choose if you want to stay in a relationship with them.

To stick to your boundaries calmly. From a place of love rather than shame & judgment.

And when you're in a place of love, you will always end up feeling better.

Whether they're a narcissist or not.

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Many women- especially smart women - don’t find out they have ADHD until their 40’s, if ever. 

Today I’m sharing the reasons we miss ADHD in women and girls, and in the process you’ll learn:

• Common misconceptions about ADHD in general
• How adhd presents in females vs males
• How girls “mask” their ADHD
• The effect of hormones on ADHD

And more!

If you’ve been curious why so many people seem to be getting diagnosed with ADHD lately, or wondered whether you might have it yourself, this episode is a great place to start. 

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"I have needs too!" my 5 year old daughter yelled one day. It stopped me in my tracks. She was right. I wanted her to push aside her needs in order to make my life easier. And that wasn't the mom I wanted to be.

As I continued to reflect on that experience, I gained a new perspective on my daughter, myself, and about all women. How many of us are socialized from a very young age to ignore our own needs, whether physical or emotional? And what are the consequences of this? 

Ultimately, this journey has given me more compassion and deep, unconditional love for my daughter... and myself. 

I hope hearing this story does the same for you. 

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The way you speak to yourself is incredibly powerful. It  determines your relationship with yourself, how you feel and the results you get (or don’t) in your life. Yet if you’re like most people, you are focusing more energy on communicating with others while not paying much attention to your self talk. 

But here’s the great news: the same skills you use for talking to others can be used when you talk to yourself! It really works. 

In this episode: 

• 4 questions to help you discover the words your unique brain needs to hear most.
• Strategies to get better at believing your own self-talk
• Suggested self-talk phrases to get you started

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Let's talk about self-confidence. Most of my friends and clients have wished for more self-confidence at one point or another. But often, it feels elusive, something others are just have and we don't. We don't know how we can change the way we look at ourselves. Or we worry that if we are more self-confident, we will become arrogant.

In this episode, learn a simple and powerful definition of self-confidence that clears all of this up. It is different from the way we usually think about confidence, and it is nothing like arrogance. Once you look at self-confidence in this light, it becomes easy to see how you can grow more self-confident. It is a skill you can master. We will break it down into 4 practical strategies you can start using today.

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It's hard enough to have your own back when you're proud of yourself and others don't get it. But what about when you're NOT proud of how you showed up? How can you love yourself when you get it wrong? When your inner critic just keeps finding more flaws to  point out? 

It is not easy, especially for those of us who have perfectionist tendencies. We often struggle to believe "it's ok for me to get it wrong" or "it's ok for me to be human" unless we have a good justification as to why things didn't go well. 

But the fact is we can choose at anytime to believe these thoughts, even if there's no logical explanation and we just messed up. In making this mindset shift, we give ourselves an amazing gift: unconditional love. As we practice loving our own brand of humanity, with its unique flaws, we begin to truly know, like, and trust ourselves.

Other highlights:

• It's OK for me to get it wrong
• How this shows up specifically for physicians
• Physician suicide risks, National Physician Suicide Awareness Day, Sept 17
• "I am human." 
• "I will never intentionally mistreat myself."

In this episode:
Heidari, Shireen. "Finding a New Mantra" NEJM Perspective September 10, 2022:
https://www.nejm.org/doi/pdf/10.1056/NEJMp2206851?articleTools=true

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Criticism and negative feedback are unavoidable, especially for high achieving women. While we can’t stop others from offering us their opinions, we do always have a choice how we respond. We don’t have to get defensive or engage in people-pleasing. There are other options.

In this episode, Jenny teaches a simple strategy to manage your mind when you are criticized. By checking in and asking “Am I happy with how I showed up?” you’ll be able to have your own back and respond more effectively. 
 
Episode highlights:
✨It’s ok for them to be wrong about you
✨It’s ok for you to get it wrong
✨Everyone has something to work on.
✨“It’s not your job to like me, it’s mine.” -Byron Katie

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