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August 25, 2025 A Widow’s Financial Roadmap

Welcome to a new week here on the Retirement Quick Tips Podcast! I’m your host, Ashley Micciche.

This past weekend, I was camping in 100-degree heat with my kids, while my husband had the wisdom to stay home in the air conditioning with our youngest. I was busy packing and stuffing four bikes, three camping totes, two propane tanks, and—yes—basically a partridge in a pear tree into our minivan. So instead of the usual short daily episodes, I’m mixing things up this week and bringing you one longer episode.

One of the realities of being a financial advisor is death. Clients die, and it usually happens at least a couple of times a year. When it does, and there’s a surviving spouse, part of my job is to make the financial transition as seamless and stress-free as possible. Because when you’re grieving the death of a spouse, the last thing you want to worry about is money—or worse, the power being shut off because you couldn’t log in to pay the electric bill.

Over the years, I’ve helped many widows and widowers through this transition, and I’ve developed a Widow’s Financial Roadmap. The key is to have this roadmap in place before something happens—before you get sick, become incapacitated, or pass away. If you don’t, your spouse may be left without the information they need to keep the household running smoothly, and the stress of grief will be compounded by financial confusion.

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Now, let’s talk about the roadmap. I’m going to lay this out in order—what to do first, and what comes next. Hopefully, you’ve already checked some of these items off, but there may be a few you haven’t thought about.

Step 1: Create a Financial Inventory

I’ve talked about this on the podcast before, but it’s worth repeating. A financial inventory is essentially a table of contents for your finances.

It should include:

Bank and investment accounts (with balances, account types, and where they’re held).
Insurance and annuity policies.
Will or trust.
Social Security information.
Tax returns.
Marriage certificate.
And eventually, your death certificate.

Without this inventory, assets can be forgotten or lost. For example, maybe you still have a 401(k) at a former employer that your spouse doesn’t know about. Without documentation, that money could remain unclaimed.

This inventory should also include a list of your key advisors and their contact information—your financial advisor, CPA, attorney, insurance agents, and even the phone number for the bank where your checking account is held.

One mistake I often see, especially later in life, is not consolidating accounts. People keep money scattered across five different institutions, a handful of bank accounts, and maybe an online savings account. That’s a recipe for disaster. The more accounts you have, the greater the chance your spouse won’t be able to find or access them.

Once you’ve created your financial inventory, maintaining it is easy. Just update it once a year—adjust balances, note any new or consolidated accounts, and make sure contact information is current. It usually takes less than an hour. This is the single most important step for the long-term financial health of your surviving spouse.

Step 2: Ensure Cash Flow Needs Are Met

The next step is making sure bills continue to get paid. Your spouse needs a list of all recurring bills with:

The name of the bill (mortgage, utilities, insurance, etc.).
The approximate amount.
How it’s paid (auto-draft, ACH, check).
The due date and frequency.

This isn’t just a budget—it’s a cash flow map for your surviving spouse. When paired with the financial inventory, it allows them to step in immediately and manage the household without the lights getting shut off or the mortgage falling behind.

On the flip side, you’ll also want to document income sources—Social Security, pension payments, portfolio withdrawals, or other income. That way, your spouse knows not just what bills are due, but also what money is coming in, from where, and when.

Step 3: Set Up a Password Manager

If you remember nothing else from this episode, remember this: set up a password manager.

A password manager securely stores all of your logins, and you only need to remember one master password. Some of the top options include 1Password, NordPass, and Dashlane.

This tool is invaluable while you’re alive because it improves security and eliminates the need to remember dozens of passwords. But it’s especially critical when someone dies. Nearly everything is digital now—bank accounts, investments, utilities, email, social media, even photo storage.

Without access, your spouse may spend hours digging through old notebooks or trying to reset passwords—sometimes unsuccessfully. With a password manager, all of that information is organized and accessible. You and your spouse can share logins through the manager, making it easy to cancel subscriptions, manage accounts, or simply retrieve family photos stored in the cloud.

It takes a little time to set up, but once it’s running, the manager prompts you to save new logins automatically. Over time, it builds a complete record of your digital life—one that your spouse can access when needed most.

Step 4: Write a Letter

The final step is to write a personal letter to your spouse.

This letter isn’t legally binding, like a will or trust, but it can provide enormous comfort. Think of it as a cover letter to the roadmap. It should include:

A reminder of where the financial documents are located.
Words of love and reassurance.
Encouragement not to make big financial or lifestyle changes right away.

Grief clouds judgment. Many surviving spouses are tempted to sell the house, change investments, or make other major decisions in the first few months. In most cases, those decisions can wait. Your letter can serve as a gentle reminder to pause and breathe before making big changes.

Keep copies of this letter with your roadmap—at home in a safe, in a safe deposit box, and with your trusted advisors. That way, it can be easily found when it’s needed most.

In the First Few Months After a Death

So what happens immediately after a spouse passes away?

Order multiple copies of the death certificate. You’ll need these to handle accounts and claims.
Notify key professionals—your financial advisor, attorney, CPA, and insurance companies.
Start claims and transitions—life insurance, Social Security survivor benefits, and retitling accounts.
Keep bills paid. If your spouse didn’t handle finances before, enlist the help of a trusted child, friend, or advisor to make sure nothing slips through the cracks.
Meet with a tax advisor. Your filing status will change, and that can have a big impact on your taxes.

Longer-term changes—like adjusting investment withdrawals, selling the house, or revising estate plans—can wait until the fog of grief begins to lift, often 6–12 months down the road. At that point, you’ll be in a clearer frame of mind to make big decisions.

To recap, the Widow’s Financial Roadmap includes four steps: