Do you sometimes use doing "the right" or "good' things as an excuse to then turn around and do "bad" or "selfish" things? There's a name for this - it's called moral licensing, and it may not just be messing up your goals, but possibly your relationships.

The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonagal: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9781583335086

Article on Moral Licensing: https://www.businessinsider.com/what-moral-licensing-means-2017-11