Summary

In this episode of the Right Side Up podcast, hosts Danielle Strickland and James Sholl engage in a profound conversation with Karissa Sovdi about the complexities of singleness within the church. They explore the societal and theological implications of viewing singleness as a problem to be solved rather than a valid and fulfilling life choice. The discussion touches on the idolatry of marriage and family, the importance of celebrating life milestones beyond traditional markers, and the need for genuine community and friendship. Karissa shares her personal journey of dismantling the ‘future wife’ identity and embracing the gift of singleness, while also addressing the burdens and misconceptions surrounding it. The episode concludes with practical advice for living a fulfilling single life and the importance of inclusivity in church communities.

Check out more from Karissa at Surviving Christianity Unmarried

‘I never really identified as a person; I identified as a future wife’

Takeaways

* Singleness is often viewed as a problem rather than a valid life choice.

* The nuclear family is idolized in North American Christianity.

* Celebrating milestones beyond marriage is essential for community.

* Eternal life and fulfilment can start now, not just in marriage.

* Celibacy and singleness can be gifts that allow for deeper connections with God.

* Friendship is crucial and often overlooked in discussions about singleness.

* Comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy and loneliness.

* The church needs to create inclusive spaces for singles.

* Marriage should not be seen as the ultimate goal or solution to loneliness.

* Practical steps can help individuals embrace and celebrate their singleness.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Karissa Sovdi

01:32 Exploring Singleness in the Church

03:50 Dismantling the Future Wife Identity

07:43 The Idolatry of Family and Marriage

11:02 Celebrating Life Beyond Marriage

14:41 The Gift of Singleness and Celibacy

18:50 Understanding Celibacy and Singleness

21:15 The Role of Friendship in Singleness

24:54 The Burden of Singleness in Church

29:37 Reimagining Community and Connection

32:11 Jesus’ Example of Singleness

35:17 The Crisis of Loneliness and Friendship

38:29 Practical Steps for Living Singleness Well

42:52 Conclusion and Resources

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