Rising After Divorce | Emotional Healing, Reclaiming, Starting Over, Trusting God

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Rising After Divorce | Emotional Healing, Reclaiming, Starting Over, Trusting God episodes

November 18, 2025 25 | Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men: And How to Finally Break the Pattern
Does This Sound Like You?
You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems
You feel incapable of choosing the right man
You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return
You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before
You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing
You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past
You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know
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15 min
November 11, 2025 24| You Have It All But Still Feel Empty - From Loneliness to the Companionship You Deserve
You're successful. You've built an incredible career, achieved financial stability, and created a life most people dream of. But when you come home after a long day, there's an emptiness. The one thing missing? A loving, caring husband to share your life with.
In this episode, I'm opening up about my own journey—how I had everything at 49 except the right person. I'll share how shifting to a God-led approach to relationships transformed everything and how you can create the same breakthrough, no matter your age.
This conversation is for the woman who has worked hard, achieved her goals, and is ready for the next chapter—a God-centered marriage with a partner who truly sees and values her. If you're frustrated, tired of the dating scene, or wondering if it's even possible for you, this episode is your permission slip to believe again.
If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself years of disappointments doubting yourself and settling for less than what you deserve, schedule a FREE 30-minute session with me. .
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9 min
November 04, 2025 23| What Single Moms Should Know When Dating
Dating after divorce is complicated. Dating as a Christian single mom requires additional wisdom, clear boundaries, and a lot of faith. In this episode, we explore five essential steps that every single mom should know before opening her heart again.

Scriptures Mentioned:
2 Corinthians 5:17
Proverbs 4:23
Isaiah 40:31
Psalm 139
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10 min
October 28, 2025 22| Stop Comparing Yourself
Key Topics Covered:
Why comparison steals your God-given identity
How comparison blocks your blessings and future opportunities
Why comparison dishonors God's timing and sovereignty
5 transformative questions for breaking free from the comparison trap
Key Bible Verses Referenced:
Galatians 2:20
Psalm 139:14
Hebrews 12:2
Ephesians 3:20
Ecclesiastes 3:1
Romans 8:28
Resources :
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12 min
October 21, 2025 21| This Kills The Attraction When Starting to Date
Why being too available kills attraction (and it's not about playing games) The unconscious message you send when you're always accessible How to build a life that naturally creates healthy boundaries 5 practical strategies to shift from "too available" to "appropriately interested" The mindset shift that changes everything in your dating life Why the right men will step up when you step back Mentioned in This Episode: The importance of maintaining your own identity after divorce Why humans value what they invest in How to watch effort vs. words in dating Resources: www.pattymartinlifecoach.com  
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9 min
October 14, 2025 20| How To Overcome Fear & Anxiety
Today we're going to talk about that invisible companion that controls your life without anyone else noticing: anxiety
If you wake up with a weight on your chest and don't know why, this is for you
Key Points:
Anxiety isn't "just stress"
It's not cured by positive thinking or "getting over it"
It's a prison you build yourself, brick by brick
Phrase to repeat: "Anxiety convinces you that if you worry enough, you can prevent bad things"
Description of how it feels:
The constant knot in your stomach
The voice saying "something terrible is going to happen"
Permanent hypervigilance
The exhaustion of always being on guard
Concrete examples:
"You stop accepting invitations because 'what if...?'"
"You avoid difficult conversations because conflict terrifies you"
"You stay in relationships that don't nourish you because change scares you"
"You postpone your dreams because you never feel 'ready'"
Transition:
"And so, without realizing it, your life becomes smaller and smaller. You live in your comfort zone, but the truth is there's nothing comfortable about it."
THE REAL COST OF ANXIETY
Four areas anxiety destroys:
1. It steals your present
2. It sabotages your relationships
3. It paralyzes your potential
4. It exhausts your body

If you're seeing yourself reflected in this, I want you to know it's not your fault. But it is your responsibility to do something about it.

In my personalized sessions, we identify exactly how anxiety is manifesting in YOUR specific life. We don't talk in generalities.
We go straight to YOUR triggers, YOUR patterns, YOUR solutions. And this month I only have space for 5 new women because each session requires my complete attention.
WHY YOU HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO OVERCOME IT
What you've tried (and why it didn't work):
Meditation apps
Give temporary relief
Don't work on the root of the problem
Anxiety comes back stronger
Motivational phrases
"Positive thinking"
"Just breathe deeply"
Don't work because anxiety isn't logical
Keeping it secret
"I don't want to bother anyone"
"Others have worse problems"
Isolation makes anxiety worse
Waiting for it to pass on its own
"Someday I'll feel better"
Anxiety doesn't disappear without intervention
It becomes your new "normal"
The hard truth:
If you could get out of anxiety alone, you would have already done it. It's not lack of willpower. It's that anxiety creates deep neurological patterns that require specific intervention and expert guidance.
Transformation story:
Client who couldn't sleep without checking doors 10 times
Or woman with panic attacks in public places
Or the one who avoided everything out of fear
How they broke free with specific work
I don't do generic therapy. I don't give you a list of exercises and 'good luck.' I create a specific plan for you. For your type of anxiety. For your circumstances. And I can only do this with a limited number of women because it requires real depth.

WHAT FREEDOM LOOKS LIKE

Close their eyes and imagine:
"Waking up without that immediate weight on your chest"
"Making decisions based on what you want, not what you fear"
"Having a difficult conversation without your heart jumping out of your chest"
"Sleeping deeply, without 'what if...' scenarios"
"Being present with people you love, truly present"
"Pursuing your dreams without fear paralyzing you"
YOUR MOMENT TO DECIDE
Two paths:
Path 1: Stay the same
Wait for anxiety to disappear on its own someday
Another month, another year with the same weight
Watching your life become smaller
Losing opportunities, relationships, peace
Path 2: Commit to your freedom
Make the bravest decision of your life
Do the deep work
Regain control
Live without that constant weight
Don't wait for anxiety to get worse. Don't wait to hit rock bottom. Don't wait to 'be ready.' The perfect moment doesn't exist. The moment is now.

If the idea of contacting me gives you anxiety, that's exactly the sign you need to do it. Anxiety doesn't want you to change. I do.

Contact me today for your personalized session. Not tomorrow. Not next week. Today.
Because every day that passes with anxiety is one less day of peace you could be living.
Because you deserve to wake up without that weight.
Because you deserve to live without constant fear.
Because you deserve your freedom.

Anxiety isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility
I've seen hundreds of women break free. You're next.

Your freedom is waiting for you. You just have to take the first step. I'll see you on the other side.
Save Your Spot Here

18 min
October 07, 2025 19| Discover How Your Past Traumas Affect Your Love Life, and Heal Them
Your Past Traumas Are Sabotaging Your Love Life (And How to Heal Them)"
In this episode we explore:
Why you repeat the same patterns in relationships
Signs you need to heal these wounds
The first step to transforming your love life

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9 min
September 30, 2025 18| My Ex Has Not Apologize For What He Did...
If you've ever stayed awake waiting for an apology that never comes, this episode is going to free you
Stop being a prisoner of external validation
Learn self-forgiveness as a radical act
Learn the freedom that comes with self-acceptance

Learn how to start building your new life without their blessing

If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself years of disappointments doubting yourself and settling for less than what you deserve, schedule a FREE 30-minute session with me. . .

"Discover Your Dating Mirror" 1-on-1 FREE Session (regular price of $197usd)

Free relationship patterns assessment
SAVE YOUR SPOT HERE

13 min
September 23, 2025 17| Unashaming Divorce - Regaining Your Worth
Divorce doesn't define you, disqualify you, or diminish your worth in God's eyes. If you've been carrying shame about your past marriage, this episode will help you break free and step into the love and life God has planned for you.

Why God sees your heart, not your marital status
How divorce doesn't disqualify you from God's best
Breaking free from shame vs. conviction - knowing your true identity in Christ
Practical steps to release shame and embrace who God says you are
Key Scripture:
"Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." - Romans 8:1
Resources Mentioned:
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13 min
September 16, 2025 16| The Mirror Effect In Christian Dating
The Mirror Effect: Why You Keep Attracting the Same Type of Man"

Are you tired of the same relationship patterns repeating in your life?
In this powerful episode, we explore the Mirror Effect - how our past relationships reflect our internal beliefs about love, worth, and God's design for us.

Discover the three types of mirrors revealing your heart and learn how to break the cycle once and for all.
What You'll Learn:
The biblical foundation of the Mirror Effect in relationships
How to identify the three mirrors: Wound, Worth, and Wall
God's three-step healing process: Recognition, Repentance, Renewal
Practical steps to prepare your heart for your God-given partner

"Discover Your Dating Mirror" 1-on-1 FREE Session (regular price of $197usd)
Free relationship patterns assessment
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9 min

About Rising After Divorce | Emotional Healing, Reclaiming, Starting Over, Trusting God

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Did your divorce feel like it didn't just break your marriage — it broke you?

Like somewhere between the pain, the paperwork, and the nights you couldn't sleep... the woman you used to be quietly disappeared.

Your confidence walked out the door. Your sense of value went with it.

And deep down, you started wondering if real love was simply no longer meant for you.

If that's where you are — you are exactly where you need to be.

I'm Patty Martin-Guerra, and I'm not speaking from the outside looking in. I'm speaking as someone who sat in that same darkness.

I know what it's like to carry the quiet shame of a failed marriage.

To feel paralyzed by the thought of starting over.

To lie awake asking God whether you were too old, too wounded, too far gone for Him to write anything beautiful with what was left of your story.

But here's what I found on the other side of all of that:

Wholeness was always waiting for you. It still is.

Dating After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is where the real, unglamorous, necessary work actually happens.

We go deep on healing the invisible scars your marriage left behind.

We name the cycles that kept pulling you backward.

We rebuild, piece by piece, your identity, your worth, and your trust in God's plan for your love life — so that when the right person arrives, you're not just available.

You're whole. You're grounded. You're ready.

Each week I'll bring you the honest conversations nobody else is brave enough to have — the truths your closest friends can't quite articulate, your pastor tends to sidestep, and no search engine will ever hand you.

Because you weren't meant to simply outlast your divorce.

You were meant to flourish after it.

🗓️ New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe now and let's take this journey together.

Your story isn't over, sweet friend. The next chapter? It's only just beginning.

Ready to stop guessing and start dating with confidence?

You deserve a love that honors you — and it's time to believe that's possible.

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