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Welcome to episode 230 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Past a Big Breakup With Amber.

Amber joins me today with a question about why dating was so hard after her 13-year marriage came to an end.  Getting over a big breakup is not as straight forward as you may think.  As is common in my coaching sessions, I help Amber to see that moving on from the relationship isn’t just about getting over the person.  It’s also about looking at the reasons the relationship came into your life, understanding the dynamics of it, the break-up, and what that relationship gave her that she wasn’t able to give herself.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

1:00 - A personal update

12:00 - Amber presents her struggle getting over her big break up

15:15 - Amber describes her relationship with her recent relationship

17:56 - Where Amber’s self-confidence is rooted

20:44 - My recommendation to Amber to take a break from dating

25:10 - I address Amber’s fear of being too old and time is running out 

26:55 - I encourage Amber to move from edutaining to doing the work and healing

35:18 - A recap of my conversation with Amber

39:40 - What Amber and I talked about after we stopped recording about finding a therapist

42:20 - Why telling yourself time is running out is not helpful

43:44 - Action steps to help you get over a big breakup 

• Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
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Welcome to episode 229 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Rest of 2020 Astrology:  Your Love Life, Coronavirus, and the US Election with Veronica Perretti.

I’m super excited to welcome back to the show, my friend, Veronica Perretti.  Veronica is here to talk about the remainder of 2020 Astrology.  Specifically, how it might affect your love life, Coronavirus, and the US Election and the direction the world is going in general.  I think you’re really going to enjoy this one.  

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

5:27 - Venus is now out of retrograde, changing the game in our dating life

12:28 - Mars is in Aries for the rest of the year helping us find our motivation

18:30 - Saturn was in Capricorn and moved into Aquarius sparking humanitarian conversations

23:34 - The back and forth of Mars squaring Pluto three times before the end of the year is a war energy

30:55 - Jupiter comes into Aquarius and meets up with Saturn at the end of the year helping us focus on the future

41:58 - How the current astrology parallels the US Election

44:30 - Pluto is approaching its return to the very spot it was when our nation was founded - over 200 years later, making this election so important

50:41 - Joe Biden is a  Scorpio and what that tells us about him

1:00:26 - Veronica talks about why she loves Real Housewives

• Links to previous episodes with Veronica Perretti:
• • EP198: 2020 Astrology:  Politics, Doing the Work, and Transformation
  • EP213: Venus Retrograde and the Astrology of the Pandemic
• Check out Veronica Perretti’s  website to book a reading and connect with her  on Instagram
• Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
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Welcome to episode 228 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set Boundaries, manage anxiety, and not sabotage a finally healthy relationship

This episode starts off with a common fear I hear from many women in the community: I finally met someone great, how do I not mess it up?  I discuss this very issue today with my caller, Abby. But like usual on the show, there’s a hindrance to her feeling more secure in the relationship. In this case with Abby, it’s rooted in her relationship with her mom.  It’s not that she needs to heal her relationship with her mom, but she needs to set boundaries because it’s bringing out her core wounds.  This is the equivalent of picking off scabs when you’re trying to heal a physical wound.

Setting boundaries will give Abby the space she needs to have an even better relationship with her mom.  It will also help Abby do the inner child work she needs to do to feel less anxious in her romantic relationship.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

1:19 - An example of something I have been experiencing lately where I need to set a boundary

5:09 - An introduction to my caller today who’s in a healthy relationship, and is scared she’s sabotaging it

6:16 - Abby presents her fear

9:35 - Abby describes her childhood with her mother

16:30 - My advice to Abby on how to heal her core wound by setting some boundaries

21:05 - The one place Abby wants to set a boundary with her mother

26:18 - A tool Abby uses to help ease her anxiety 

27:23 - My suggestion to help Abby curb her anxiety

33:10 - A recap of my call with Abby

• Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
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Welcome to episode 227 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know If Your Expectations Are Too High

I’m really excited about today’s topic.  This question comes up a lot with my new clients who ask me, “Veronica, are my expectations too high?  If they are, just tell me.”  They think by lowering their expectations, that will get them into a relationship.  I think a lot of this comes from the patriarchy in place in our society. It’s a really good example of how the political landscape is personal and shows up in our relationships and in the bedroom. So, I’m going to go through five ways that your expectations may be too high and five ways your expectations are definitely NOT too high.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

6:56 - The first way your expectations might be too high - You believe they should know what you want

9:30 - Reason #2 your expectations may be too high - You aren’t okay with any degree of arguments or fights

12:07 - The third reason your expectations may be too high - Your partner feels like nothing they do can make you happy or they feel they’re on eggshells

14:30 - The fourth reason your expectations might be too high - You possibly have too many dealbreakers

19:42 - The fifth way your expectations may be too high - You believe in fairytale love/unconditional love

24:12 - The first example of when your expectations are not too high - Consistent communication/spending time together

26:13 - The next way your expectations are not too high - Your partner doesn’t take any responsibility for growing the relationship or working through issues, gaslights you and puts it all on you

28:29 - The third way your expectations are not too high - The idea that “Love is supposed to be hard” 

31:04 - The fourth example of when your expectations are not too high - You don’t feel excited by the relationship

34:04 - The last way your expectations are not too high - It’s wrong or mean or not nice to have boundaries or say no

• Previous Episodes mentioned in this podcast:
• • Dating as a Feminist and Healing From Sexual Trauma
  • Understand the Difference Between Being Triggered and Treated Poorly with Aila
  • Standing Up for Yourself Without Being a D*** with Amy Smith
• Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
• Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here!
• If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 226 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Why You Can’t Emotionally Connect With Anyone With Pam

I’m talking with Pam on the podcast today who has a question about why she can’t connect with anyone in the dating world and was wondering if she needs to put herself out there more.  As we began to dig into why she felt she couldn’t connect with anyone, it became clear that she has some core wounds around being a people pleaser as well as a generational pattern in her family around gender roles that she needs to break.  Once we identified these core wounds, I walk her through the best way to approach the healing process.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

6:31 - Pam asks why she doesn’t need to date more to meet the right person

9:16 - Why dating is not a numbers game

11:06 - Pam talks about why she has problems opening up during a date

16:58 - Pam describes the dynamic of her home growing up

18:55 - Pam expresses sadness around needing to reparent herself in spite of a beautiful childhood

23:19 - I explain what Pam’s parents missed that caused her core wound

27:50 - I explain how Pam can start to heal her core wound

30:42 - We talk about practicing discernment when being emotionally vulnerable

34:04 - A recap of  my call with Pam

• Check out the previous episode I did, “How to Let go of Fear That the Pickings are Slim and a New Look at the “Numbers Game”
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
• Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here!
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Welcome to the July Bonus Episode of the Love Live Connection podcast, Meditation for Less Anxiety and Better Sleep

For the bonus episode this month, I am offering a Yoga Nidra meditation. Yoga Nidra translates to yogic sleep.  It is a very relaxed state of consciousness.  It has been used across the United States, as well as in the US Military as a way of supporting soldiers and veterans suffering from anxiety and PTSD.  I thought given all of the anxiety and fear revolving around the pandemic right now, this meditation could be really helpful. Enjoy and be well.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

2:20 - What Yoga Nidra is and how it’s used.

5:15 - Start of Meditation

• If you would like a downloadable version of this meditation, you can find it here.
• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
• Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here!
• If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 225 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating as a Feminist and Healing from Sexual Trauma

In today’s episode, I’m joined by my new friend Kimberly Rose Pendleton.   In my conversation with Kim, we talk about how viewing your experience in dating and relationships as a feminist reveals patriarchal norms still around us.  We also discuss how to heal, especially sexual trauma, though pleasure. Kim has a Ph.D. in women’s studies AND, she coaches women around sexual trauma and empowerment.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

7:40 - Kim introduces herself

9:05 - How Kim’s Ph.D. intersects with the coaching she does

12:30 - Examples of patriarchal structures that exist and how one might experience them based on who they are

16:40 - How patriarchal norms show up in active and online dating 

27:09 - What encompasses sexual trauma in Kim’s work

32:54 - How pleasure is the key part of the medicine to heal sexual trauma

37:05 - How the brain will cut off the memory or the feeling when there is trauma to the body

40:25 - Steps Kim walks her clients through who are ready to be more comfortable with sex

• Check out Kim’s website here. 
• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
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Welcome to episode 224 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Rediscover Who You Really Are With Rachel

You know when you’re on a date, and you really want the other person to like you, but you can’t help but feel like that awkward teenage girl whose boobs were growing faster than the other girls and you just got a big zit on your nose?

 On the Love Life Connection this week, my caller Rachel is wondering why on earth she’s pushing away potential partners, even the seemingly nice ones. 

This actually is quite common among my clients and while there are quite a few reasons this can happen, in Rachel’s case, she still feels like that awkward teen with acne. 

Over the years, Rachel has completely forgotten who she is, and has found herself pleasing, conforming, and going through the motions. 

Per usual, I coach Rachel through some inner child work to heal this, but it’s with a bit of a twist. 

You’ll see what I mean when you listen. 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

6:36 - Rachel presents her question

8:40 - What Rachel’s real question is

10:52 - Rachel describes her childhood

14:22 - I do some inner child work with Rachel

19:29 - I help Rachel re-discover who she really is

25:14 - Rachel’s take-aways from our conversation

30:36 - A re-cap of my discussion with Rachel

34:08 - Your actions steps from today’s call

• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
• Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here!
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Welcome to episode 223 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Four Reasons Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work

In the personal development world,  the Law of Attraction has become quite popularized, and I see an alarming amount of coaches teach as if it were as real as the Law of Gravity.  But in my opinion, the Law of Attraction is crap.  At best, it’ll hold you back from what you want to achieve.  At worst, it can cause further damage to your healing, and therefore to your goals of shifting your patterns and attracting a healthy partnership.

So today, I’m going over four reasons why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work and why I want you to consider letting go of it or at least shifting your relationship with it.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

6:23 - The definition of The Law of Attraction

7:55 - What I believe about the Law of Attraction

8:44 - The first reason I want you to let go of the Law of Attraction

14:50 - The second reason I want you to reconsider this idea of the Law of Attraction

17:36 -  Reason #3 why I think you should let go of the idea of the Law of Attraction

21:41 - Finally, the last reason I want you to let go of this idea

• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
• Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here!
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Welcome to episode 222 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating an Addict

I am addressing a topic that is often not talked about enough: addiction.  My caller today is in a relationship with someone who has an addiction and is unsure about how to move forward.  We dig into her inner child wounds and the parallels between her relationship with her mom and her boyfriend.  We also talk about the re-mothering she needs to do so she can heal the heartbreak and avoid falling into the pattern of attracting someone else she can try to heal her mom void with. 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

2:05 - Confronting the stigma around addiction  

5:40 - Tiffani presents her question about her boyfriend’s addiction

7:50 - We dig into Tiffani’s family history of her mother’s addiction problem

13:07 - How Tiffani’s current relationship is like being in a relationship with her mom all over again

18:20 - Why Tiffani is holding on to the relationship

24:58 - My guidance and advice for Tiffani 

26:57 - Tiffani talks about what she’s learned from our conversation

29:47 - I wrap up my conversation with Tiffani

35:14 - Two key takeaways from my call with Tiffani

• Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
• If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here
• To learn more about quitting something and the sunken cost related to it, check out my episode Quit Happens
• To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here  
• If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website
• Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here.
• Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here.
• Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here!
• If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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