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Welcome to episode 240 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set a Boundary (and Really Mean It!)

I really love this episode with my client, Laura, because she’s in a very specific situationship with her best friend, but we tie it back to some deeper, core issues.

Setting a boundary or asking for what you want or need is never the problem. I know it can feel scary to do it especially if you’ve done it before and it’s blown up in your face. But remember, if someone can’t handle your boundary, emotion, or opinion, the problem is who you attracted into your life, not you.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

5:27 - Laura wants to know what to do about her best friend who is not respecting her boundaries

14:25 - Laura’s version of success is different from her family’s, causing friction

18:48 - My advice to Laura on how to set a boundary with her brother

24:22 - Why setting a boundary with her best friend may be hard

27:20 - How connecting to her inner child every day has increased Laura’s confidence

31:30 - Is setting the boundary the problem? Or is it the person who was unable to accept the boundary the problem?

35:45 - Why setting boundaries is hard

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Welcome to episode 239 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Started With Inner Child Work (and Why You Must Do This to Find Love)

Inner Child work is the core of the work I do with my clients.  If you want to find love, doing this work is non-negotiable.

In fact, I’m very clear with all my potential clients that they need to be on board with doing this. Because talking about profiles, texting, what you’re wearing, or how you’re meeting people isn’t going to help you find love.

Find a date? Sure. But if you have patterns and blocks that are holding you back emotionally, it doesn’t matter how awesome your profile is or how many dates you go on. Nothing will change. Since I get so many questions about this, I created an episode where I break all this inner child work down.

So if you’re not sure what I mean by inner child work, or you’re not sure how it applies to you, or how to get started, you’ll love this episode.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

3:03 - What inner child work is and why it’s the core of the work I do with my clients

9:25 - An example of childhood trauma that could be affecting your adult life

17:40 - How I approach inner child work with my clients

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Welcome to episode 238 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Worthy of the Relationship You Want with Maya

The worthiness wound is the core wound of all core wounds.  I think all of our core wounds, one way or another, go back to worthiness.

My caller this week, Maya, is definitely not alone in asking how to feel worthy.  I could tell her over and over again that she’s worthy, but in order to fundamentally change how she feels about herself, she has to do the deep healing work, which is exactly what I coach her to do in today’s episode on the Love Life Connection.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

4:07 - Maya wants to know how to feel worthy in a relationship

11:24 - We dig in to Maya’s childhood

16:07 - It doesn’t matter if you remember everything from your childhood to do inner child work

23:04 - When we don’t want to deal with messy emotions, we typically don’t want to deal with messy things physically

27:37 - How to integrate curiosity and play to your life every day to help relieve the pressure of perfectionism

33:28 - Recap of why the worthiness wound is the core wound of all wounds

36:53 - Tips and actions steps to take if you feel blocked in doing the inner work

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Welcome to episode 237 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to know the difference between your intuition and fear with Katy.

You know by now that dating by your intuition is the name of the game here… but what if your intuition and fear kinda feel like… the same thing? The good news is they’re not. But it CAN be tricky to know if your gut is telling you to stay away. Or if fear is running the show, and ultimately holding you back.

In my coaching conversation with Katy today, we dive into some important questions and techniques to use that’ll help her know the difference in no time. Once you apply these to your own life, you’ll have the clarity you need too.

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2:35 - Fear is not BAD!

3:56 - Katie asks how she should know the difference between intuition and fear 

11:01 - I walk Katie through emptying the vessel to help figure out the answer to her question

16:00 - The difference between a real fear and an imagined fear

23:27 - Key takeaways from my call with Katy

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Welcome to episode 236 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Over Your Anxiety of Dating Again

Whether you’ve been in previous long term relationships, if you’ve haven’t been dating for a bit, and you’re ready to date again but have a paralyzing fear about it, you’ll love this episode. And I want you to take note of the coaching techniques I used with Natalie, because you’ll be able to do them yourself and hopefully get around your anxiety of dating again.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

8:24 - Natalie introduces herself and presents her question about having anxiety of dating again

14:30 - How to foster your relationship with your anxiety

16:10 - Natalie talks about the specific fears she has around dating

22:22 - I give Natalie a tool to use as her compass when she enters the dating world

30:17 - Natalie’s action steps

33:00 - The recap from my conversation with Natalie

45:11 - What to do if you’re feeling stuck in your dating life

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Welcome to episode 235 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like

If you’ve never been in a healthy relationship, it can be really easy to buy into the story that you don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like.

You don’t know what to do, how to be, or what to say.

For instance, for my caller, this created so much fear that a part of her just wanted to stay single. As a result, she didn’t have to deal with the constant fear and self-doubt that she’s screwing everything up.

As I coach Joanne, you’ll see that her question isn’t just about how to be in a healthy relationship.  More importantly, the question goes much deeper than that.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

6:40 - Joanne explains her dilemma of not knowing what a healthy relationship looks like

9:02 - Joanne describes what her core issues were

15:30 - The big secret everyone knows, but no one is talking about

22:00 - How Joanne can learn to trust in her new relationship

26:14 - My advice to Joanne to learn to forgive herself

32:36 - The big takeaways from my coaching session with Joanne

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Welcome to episode 234 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to do Inner Child Work When You Don't Remember Much of Your Childhood.

Today my caller, Lori, knows she wants to change her love life pattern, but is uncertain about how to do that because childhood was a long time ago, and she doesn’t remember much of it.

The nice thing about inner child work is that you don’t have to remember much, and  what you do remember doesn’t have to be what actually happened. What matters is how you FEEL about what happened, because that ultimately creates your view point, and that’s where your patterns come from.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

4:24 - Lori asks how she can heal something that she can’t remember

5:55 - Lori talks about patterns of alcoholism and narcissism in her relationships and  a deep longing to feel loved by a man

10:03 - I walk Lori through a visualization to dig in to why she doesn’t feel loved

14:00 - Lori talks about the connections she started to see as a result of her core wounds

22:49 - My advice to Lori on how to continue to do her inner child work to heal her core wounds

28:22 - A recap of my coaching session with Lori

• Episode mentioned in this show:
• • Episode 111 - Three Kinds of Relationships You’re Confusing With Love 

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Welcome to episode 233 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Do You Have To Wait On A Man To Have Children?

The society we live in tells us that our ability to have a family and kids is based on being able to find a man to procreate. And the truth is, that’s not the only way.  My guest, Dana, found herself at the age of 39 in a dead end relationship, with a strong desire to be a mom. So, she decided not to wait on a man to have children and went the donor route.

We talk about the logistics of going the donor baby route, plus the emotions that come with it. And at the end, Dana shares how she met her now partner on the day she conceived her second baby… at a fertility clinic!

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

3:03 - A little background on Dana

6:58 - Dana introduces herself

8:57 - The story of how Dana came to the decision that she could have a baby on her own

14:32 - The first step Dana took in the journey to get pregnant

20:29 - What the process of looking for a donor looks like

26:56 - How much it costs to go through the insemination process

31:50 - What Dana’s conception and pregnancy looked like 

35:50 - Dana describes what single motherhood was like

44:11 - How Dana met her current partner

50:49 - Dana’s advice for women considering becoming a single mother

Dana’s Bio:  Dana Freedman is a critical care nurse who spends several nights a week in a helicopter flying over the greater San Francisco Bay Area saving lives. By day, she keeps busy as a choice-mama to a 5-year-old boy, an infant girl, and a back talking Siberian Husky. In 2017, in the aftermath of the presidential election, multiple pregnancy losses and a generalized feeling of despair, she discovered the work of Dr. Peter and Briana Borten, and their Dragontree Illuminator Program. There she embarked on training as a holistic guide and life coach with a foundation in ancient Chinese and Ayurvedic practices. She now caters her own coaching practice toward empowering women, mothers, and women interested in pursuing choice motherhood. In all of her spare time she is writing a memoir. The Kind of Woman who Would is a story of love and relationship, death and dying, and what to do if you should find yourself single at 39 with a desperate longing for motherhood. With any luck, and a few stolen moments, it should be finished in 2021.

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Welcome to episode 232 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Confident in Your Body as You Date AND Get Older

In today’s episode, I’m talking with Beth who is worried about being rejected for her body.  She’s feeling self-conscious since she’s divorced, aged, fought breast cancer, including multiple surgeries leaving her body with scars.  No matter how old you are, if you struggle with your own body image or are worried about being rejected for the way you look, you’ll love this episode.  We’ll talk about exercises you can do to feel confident in your body.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

2:45 - The societal pressure on women to look a certain way

7:27 - Background on my caller, Beth, who is having a had time feeling confident in her body as she’s aged, divorced and fought  breast cancer

11:20 - How Beth’s relationship with her body transformed after her fight with breast cancer

13:44 - The first piece in putting yourself in the right mindset of NOT rejecting your body

15:13 - The second piece to learning how to feel confident in your body

23:21 - I walk Beth through exercises to appreciate the parts of her body that bring her stress

37:29 - How I have personally worked through my own body image issues 

42:03 - The one thing I want you to take away from this episode

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Welcome to episode 231 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Relationships You’re Confusing with Love

I’ve worked with enough women to know that sometimes when someone is describing a current or past relationship, I know when they are describing it through rose colored glasses.

Obviously things happen, but I’m very skeptical when I hear stories around being blindsided. Yes, that might have been your experience, but to the outside eye, there were probably a lot more signs.

Knowing what love is and what it isn’t will help you to protect yourself from being in a relationship you're confusing with love and from being blindsided in the future.

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

3:12 - Why I describe love and happiness as  states of being

4:52 - Why I’m skeptical about hearing stories about being blindsided by a breakup

6:38 - Why the scenario of filling a void can be confused with love

12:08 - The second type of relationship that can be confused with love is when two people’s issues dovetail each other.

19:39 - The third way you can get confused with love, idealizing your partner or the relationship

• Episodes mentioned in this show:
• • Episode 94 - Get Out of the People Pleaser/Narcissistic Relationship Trap 
  • Episode 104 - The Four Dating Energies Keeping you Out of Love - The Pleaser!
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