Welcome to episode 258 of the Love Live Connection podcast! Did you lose a parent or other close relative early in life? Is it hard for you to trust both yourself and God/Universe and other things outside of you? Perhaps you’re always waiting for something bad to happen or have unhealthy habits like drinking or eating too much, binge-watching lots of TV, using drugs, or doing anything that suppresses your emotions. Keep these things in mind during this episode with my guest Becca where I help her come to terms with her self-abandonment issues.

7:11 - Where Becca’s abandonment fears come from

13:00 - What Becca experienced as a child when she wasn’t “perfect”

17:31 - Feeling stuck in the sadness and grief of her 12-year old self

21:26 - Self-abandonment as the culprit behind some self-destructive patterns

27:04 - Something my first coach said that can take the edge off negative self-talk

33:50 - A quick review and some tips from this coaching call 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Episode 110: The 5 Phases of Personal Growth (and Why You Get Stuck Even When You’re Doing the Work)
• Work closely with me this year to transform your love life. My Love Incubator coaching program is an affordable way to get 1-on-1 coaching calls with me and go deep where you need to. Plus, you’ll be part of a small community of 10 women or less doing the same work and willing to support you. Join us here!

• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.

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Welcome to episode 257 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 5. Last time we left off, I discussed how dating went completely on the back burner while working on the Obama campaign. During that year, I worked like crazy and wasn’t really taking care of myself. When the campaign concluded, I didn’t really regain my energy, so I changed my approach to food and exercise. I reinvented myself, became a vegan for a time and soon afterwards, I got a job in Washington D.C. and was ready to meet my future nice Jewish boy. Now, let’s move full steam ahead to part 5!

6:34 - My six-week romance with a banker in Washington D.C.

9:42 - What my best guy friend told me that changed everything

14:37 - The fateful chat invitation I received to a Happy Hour

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Listen to the previous episodes in the series:

• • How I Found Love, Part 1
  • How I Found Love, Part 2
  • How I Found Love, Part 3
  • How I Found Love, Part 4

• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose.  Sign up here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 256 of the Love Live Connection podcast! I’m always talking about, thinking about, doing, and coaching my clients on inner child work. But I know it can feel a little awkward. So if you like the idea of doing inner child work but have misgivings for whatever reason, then this coaching conversation with Debra will be helpful for you to listen to. I walk her through how she can get over that barrier so that she’s able to connect deeply with herself without cringing, and it’ll help her attract a more emotionally available partner as a bonus.

7:10 - A wish to re-ignite the desire to date

13:25 - How 5-year old Debra coped when trying to be accepted for who she is

20:25 - This decision serving as a turning point for her

26:27 - Using photos to connect with her inner child

31:25 - What she can commit to right now

38:17 - Wrapping up the coaching call with a review and some takeaways

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Download the free how-to guide: Finding Love in a Pandemic
• Join the Date Yourself Challenge 2021--starts March 22nd!
• Work closely with me this year to transform your love life. My Love Incubator coaching program is an affordable way to get 1-on-1 coaching calls with me and go deep where you need to. Plus, you’ll be part of a small community of 10 women or less doing the same work and willing to support you. Join us here!

• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 255 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 4. Previously in part 3, after hitting a low point, things in Charleston were beginning to look up. I loved my new city, had a great job, and quickly developed a great group of friends. I also dated someone for the first time who was respectful and actually wanted to be with me, and I found new confidence that allowed me to dodge a bullet with another guy. Then Obama’s people called me, and that’s where I continue my story now.

4:23 - A missed call and grueling days on the Obama campaign

7:23 - Why I was obsessed with my weight, despite being physically fit

11:59 - How ditching dieting and becoming a vegan helped me practice self-love

 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Listen to the previous episodes in the series:

• • How I Found Love, Part 1
  • How I Found Love, Part 2
  • How I Found Love, Part 3

• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose.  Sign up here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 254 of the Love Live Connection podcast! This is the second coaching episode I have around pandemic dating. As you’ll learn in this call with Angela, the pandemic isn’t really the problem. She’s had quite a few relationships that started off well but ended shortly thereafter and can’t seem to get past the first date. During our call, we delve into her love life before the pandemic, the kind of people she’s attracting now, her parents’ relationship with each other and with her, feeling the need to walk on eggshells growing up, and navigating how to connect with potential partners and bring more feminine energy to the process while still in the middle of a pandemic.

4:07​ - What Angela’s love life was like prior to the pandemic

8:47 - Comparisons to her parents’ relationship affecting Angela’s dating approach

12:42 - A little experiment with 10-year old Angela

17:53 - What Angela tells herself when she goes online

23:59 - Making our online connections more like our offline connections

27:57 - The need for both masculine and feminine energy in relationships

32:35 - Angela’s big takeaway from this coaching call

36:15 - Wrapping it up with a quick review

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Links to some previous episodes:

• • EP252: Why None of Your Dates Turn Into Something Serious with Mariela
  • Ep244: How to Use Fem/Masc Energy to Stop Procrastinating and Get Back On Track With Your Goals With Maureen

• Get the five-step guide to thrive at dating right now. Get it free here.
• Are you done with where you are right now?  With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love.  Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
• Feel at ease meeting people online, write a profile you’re proud of, and have a proven strategy to attract great potential partners online. If you want to make it work online, get my Conscious Online Dating Blueprint Workshop here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 253 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 3. You might remember that after breaking up with my college sweetheart, I moved to Jerusalem for grad school and had two back-to-back relationships with people who didn’t want to be with me. Despite my love for travel and living abroad, it was one of the darkest times in my life and look back on it now with mixed emotions. It got to the point where I couldn’t handle my emotions anymore, so I reached out to a therapist. That brings us to part 3, which I like to call “learning how to adult.”

4:54​ - Moving back to South Carolina and feeling like a complete person for the first time

10:25 - My relationship with a nice Jewish boy just a few months later

13:08 - Why that relationship was so significant to me

15:09 - A situation that showed me how far I had come

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Listen to the previous episodes in the series:

• • How I Found Love, Part 1
  • How I Found Love, Part 2

• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose.  Sign up here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 252 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This episode really highlights why inner child work is so incredibly important. So much of our romantic life has to do with us replaying out old wounds and issues from mom and dad (or lack thereof) and childhood. My caller today Mariela is doing all the things--swiping, going on dates, trying to be open and vulnerable, trusting other people--and it keeps blowing up in her face. As you’ll quickly realize, it’s not surprising that she’s facing this given her backstory. Even if you  can’t really relate to her experiences, I still encourage you to be curious about connecting some of the dots.

5:00​ – Mariela describes the pattern her dating life has taken

9:53 - 12-year old Mariela not getting love, support, or understanding from her parents

15:58 - When conditional love or unconditional love is appropriate

22:25 - Doing some inner child work on the call with Mariela

29:47 - A sign to know when you’re in a good place with the healing process

33:34 - Summarizing the coaching call with Mariela and some action steps

 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Link to the previous episode on unconditional love:

• EP220: Should Love Be Unconditional in Romantic Relationships? With Carrie

• Are you done with where you are right now?  With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love.  Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
• If you’re interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to a special Valentine’s Day episode of the Love Live Connection podcast! A lot of times I hear women say that they’re deserving of love and love themselves, they know that they’re a great catch, they give themselves bubble baths, and so on. All of these things are great. Yet, when they’re in a relationship the love isn’t there; there’s murky boundaries, they’re not feeling very supported or seen by their partner, they’re attracting partners who exhibit toxic behavior, etc.

I know for some of you this day is no big deal. Others, however, find it difficult because it reminds you of what you want but don’t have. Maybe you switch from camp to camp or are somewhere between the two. But wherever you are, I want to help you take your self-love practices and apply them to your dating life and relationship.

6:00 - Boundaries are the application of self-love

8:38 - Relationships not being about compromise

11:19 - How to shift your perspective when paying for therapy

 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Links to previous episodes on boundaries:
• • EP240: How to Set a Boundary (and Really Mean It!)
  • EP228: How to set boundaries, manage anxiety, and not sabotage a finally healthy relationship
  • EP128: The Three D’s of Strong Boundaries in Relationships
• Download the free how-to guide: Finding Love in a Pandemic
• Are you done with where you are right now?  With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love.  Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 251 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 2. I’m excited to be chatting with you all again! In this episode, I give a quick recap of what I discussed in the first episode of this series. Then, I talk about my romantic adventures living abroad as a grad student, including facing denial and desperation regarding a guy I was crushing on hard, and seeking help through therapy for the first time.

11:52​ - The major problem in my romantic relationship with a guy in Ramallah

17:24​ - Totally crushing on someone at the organization where I interned as a graduate

19:59​ - My obsession to keep the relationship going

24:02 - Feeling like I wasted almost two years of my 20s while living abroad

 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

• Join me for the on-demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here.
• Are you done with where you are right now?  Do you want to get serious about finding love in the next 12 months and are you ready to invest the time and money into radically changing your life?  Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Welcome to episode 250 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This is going to be a really good episode to share with a friend. If there’s anything that’s a catalyst for late-night Googling or reaching out to me, it’s a breakup, especially one they can’t get over and feel they should because it happened a long time ago or the relationship wasn’t super serious or long-lasting anyway.

Getting over a breakup is really two-fold: it’s getting over both the person and the relationship. The former is usually easier than the latter, but a lot of times we conflate the two. We can even know that the person wasn’t right for us or didn't treat us well. Yet, we’re still hung up on them and the relationship which can further contribute to inner turmoil. So if you can relate to that, you’ll love this conversation with Rachel.

6:52​ – Making a relationship mean something or it giving us something we can’t give ourselves

12:30​ - How it’s really about Rachel’s relationship with her dad and filling the masculine void

17:47​ - Rachel getting things off her chest and talking to me as if I’m her dad

25:16 - Recapping the coaching call and 5 steps to help if you’re struggling to get over an ex

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

 

• Are you done with where you are right now?  Do you want to get serious about finding love in the next 12 months and are you ready to invest the time and money into radically changing your life?  Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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