You don’t have examples of successful romantic relationships in your life or the lives of others around you. So how can you keep the faith?

When it comes to dating, others' beliefs and actions take up space in your head. So how can you get them out?

You only take action in your love life when you feel sure you won’t face rejection. So how can you get more comfortable going out on a limb and showing some vulnerability?

These are the kinds of issues that my caller Angelina faces. In this episode, I cover a lot of dating mindset practices to help her get out of her own head and discern what’s real. If her situation applies to you too, then keep the above questions in mind as you listen to today’s show.

8:07 - The two big things I see right away with Angelina’s situation

10:54 - One thing Angelina needs to re-frame about her past relationships

15:09 - Why your energy is so important when it comes to dating

19:49 - Why frustration isn’t really one of the issues for Angelina

24:53 - Truth versus stereotypes about older women dating

31:01 - What I mean by “healthy mindset” and the first piece of the puzzle needed for your love life

34:21 - The issue of trust, particularly self-trust

37:59 - The third healthy mindset piece you need when dating

43:03 - The fourth and final thing you need for a healthy dating mindset

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Believe It’ll Happen When You Have No Evidence or Good Examples of Successful Relationships with Angelina, here are your next steps:

• Listen to previous episodes expressing my views about the Law of Attraction: 290, 269, 223, and 199.
• Listen to episode 328: “Three Reasons You Don’t Trust Yourself More in Your Love Life.”
• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist ​here​.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Sherry Argov’s book Why Men Love Bitches has sold millions of copies since its debut and has tons of reviews, most of them positive. It even had a resurgence in interest recently, so I thought I’d read through it for myself. In this episode, I break down the introduction and first chapter and the author’s four attraction principles. As you listen, you’ll discover why I feel the way I do about Argov’s work regardless of the nuggets of truth within her book.

1:53 - Why I wanted to start this potential podcast series

6:37 - Something weird about the book’s author 

12:06 - Some of my initial reactions while reading through the book

15:45 - How I feel about Argov’s description and use of the word “bitch”

17:58 - Why I’ve started backing off of using the terms “feminine” and masculine” 

23:06 - The main message from the men interviewed for the book

26:17 - An example of how the author muddles her message

29:25 - Why I find the first chapter of the book objectifying and trope-y

36:22 - Attraction principle #2 and why it isn’t conducive to an equal partnership

40:14 - The #1 thing men said they needed from a woman and my perspective on it

42:13 - A bitch’s availability and the weird inclusion in section three of chapter one

47:22 - My feelings on the difference between the two types of bitches (according to Argov)

51:54 - The absurdity of attraction principle #4 and “Samantha’s” story

57:16 - Why I think this book has had a recent resurgence of interest 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to Do Men Really Love Bitches? (My Teardown of the NY Times Bestseller), here are your next steps:

 

• Get my book You Are Meant for Love.
• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. Sign up here.
• Check out parts 1, 2, 3, and 4 of the “Why You’re Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men” podcast series and past episodes 274, 184, 178, and 140 about emotional availability.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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You’re on a first date and want a second one, but the other person doesn’t. Or they want a second date, but you don’t. This pattern keeps repeating in your love life and no matter what, you can never seem to find someone with a mutual interest and attraction for a relationship.

That’s the predicament in which my caller today finds herself. Chrissie wants to know why this keeps happening to her and what she can do about it. If this describes you as well, then tune to discover what might be the issue and how to address it.

8:01​ - Chrissie’s dating pattern and what it reveals about who she’s attracted to

13:25 - A very common mistake people make when seeking out romantic relationships

18:03 - Where Chrissie’s fear of abandonment comes from

24:02 - The actions steps I recommend Chrissie take next

29:29 - Recapping the first round of this coaching call with Chrissie

32:58 - The first big piece that Chrissie needs to address

37:50 - The second big piece that Chrissie must address

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to “I’m Not Interested in Anyone, And the Ones I Am Aren’t Interested in Me.” WTF?, here are your next steps:

• Sign up for my 6-week Intuitive Dating Program. Registration closes on October 21, 2022!
• Listen to episode 111: “Three Kinds of Relationships You’re Confusing with Love.”
• If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Dating more intuitively isn’t just all about feelings over logic. There’s something else you need to date more intuitively without anxiety overtaking your relationships.

In this episode, I talk about the purpose of different energies in your body, the four goals of intuitive dating, and how it all helps you engage logic with intuition in your love life to create a healthy and firm dating foundation.

2:08 - How the energy of your head and body differ and are designed to work together

7:56 - Examples of disempowering relationship beliefs and the behaviors they can spawn

12:12 - The first goal of intuitive dating you should strive for

14:35 - The second goal of dating intuitively

16:32 - The third goal of intuitive dating and the difference between intuition and fear

20:35 - The fourth and final goal of dating intuitively

25:34 - My intuitive dating framework and why you need it to help you navigate any situation you’re in

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Date More Intuitively For More Ease and Less Anxiety In Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

• Sign up for my 6-week Intuitive Dating Program. Registration closes on October 21, 2022!
• Get my Conscious Online Dating Blueprint Workshop here.
• If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Your intuition is always there. It can be hard to hear or loud and clear, but it’s there all the same. It’s just a matter of accessing it and trusting it.

In my self-trust podcast series over the last three weeks, I’ve talked about self-trust and having a stronger relationship with your intuition. In this episode, I talk with Denise who has really begun using and embodying the skills I talked about in that series and in my Intuitive (formerly Embodied) Dating workshop.

This is a bit of an unusual episode in that it’s kind of a coaching episode but also just a back-and-forth conversation between Denise and I. In it, we discuss intuitive yes/no responses versus impulsive/fearful ones and how those responses feel different in the body.

7:54 - Denise reveals something that happened a few months ago

11:46 - Why seeing yourself as victim or victor with life challenges is a false dichotomy

17:05 - How Denise experiences her intuitive feeling and how it helped her respond to the ending of her relationship

19:09 - Examples of what an intuitive yes or no response vs. fear can feel like in the body

23:08 - The difference between making decisions from fear or impulsiveness vs. intuition

27:58 - What happened with Denise the day before this call that highlights the intuitive yes response

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How Making Intuitive Decisions in Dating Works in the Real World with Denise, here are your next steps:

• Sign up for my new 5-Day challenge Fix Your Picker Adventure.
• If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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A lot of the self-help available out there harms more than it helps. Too much of it encourages you to discount your negative feelings about why things happened to you. I started a conversation about this whole thing in last week’s episode. 

In this episode, I want to wrap up that conversation with how you can consume self-help in a healthy, helpful way and reveal three ways you can trust yourself more.

5:54 - How Harry Potter and the hero’s journey illustrate my preferred approach to self-help personally and professionally

9:36 - The three stages of alchemy and how the process also demonstrates true self-transformation

13:38 - One of my favorites ways to help clients build self-trust

16:55 - The second way you can build up trust in yourself (which can be fun or uncomfortable, depending on your point of view)

22:44 - A third way that helps when you don’t have lots of evidence to back up your decision-making

26:57 - Taking the next step into my brand new and totally free challenge

29:21 - Why I believe I avoided the on-again, off-again relationship rollercoaster 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to Three Ways to Build Self-Trust + Detox From Gaslighty Self-Help, here are your next steps: 

• Sign up for the free, 5-day Fix Your Picker Challenge. It starts on October 10th!
• Listen to some past episodes revolving around anger: 218, 219, and 221.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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I’m a big believer in understanding why you feel what you feel (or don’t feel). There are infinite reasons why you might find it difficult to trust yourself when making relationship decisions. But in talking and working with thousands of women over the years, I’ve noticed a couple of big ones.

In today’s episode, I reveal three of the most common reasons why it’s hard to trust yourself in your love life.

7:59 - Why your mind shouldn’t be the only thing you use to make decisions

10:46 - Example of how your mind can go into overdrive (and how society make things worse)

13:36 - How education or “edutainment” shows up as another culprit in your lack of self-trust in dating

18:04 - Why this third reason for your lack of self-trust lights such a fire under my ass

24:37 - What’s missing in a lot of mindset work and “new age” concepts like the Law of Attraction

28:00 - How all three reasons can compound on themselves and work in tandem

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to Three Reasons You Don’t Trust Yourself More in Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

• Enroll in the on-demand Embodied Dating mini-course to help you release fear and anxiety in the early stages of dating someone new.
• If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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If you can’t trust yourself, you’ll find it hard to trust others. Seems obvious, right? Self-trust is the foundation to everything else, including dating. In reality, though, it’s not always as black and white as it seems.

So today kicks off a three-part series all about how to trust yourself more when dating. And in this first episode, I cover three reasons why and provide examples to illustrate how not doing so can show up in and affect your love life.

4:27 - Not trusting yourself leaves you vulnerable to this

8:21 - How not trusting myself ultimately affected my love life in grad school

10:06 - Why this little phrase from well-meaning people makes me so mad

13:18 - How a lack of discernment with friends and family about your love life can sabotage you

18:08 - Why putting more trust in external resources (including me) instead of yourself can lead you astray

21:48 - One last, very important thing I have to say about trusting yourself more in your love

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to Why You Need to Trust Yourself More in Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
• Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here and get on my newsletter list.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Back when I originally recorded this episode in 2019, I felt some resistance to doing so. It’s a little bit of a tricky subject about coachability. I didn’t feel like the kind person to say who is or isn’t coachable, despite working one-on-one with lots of women. 

But there are key differences in those who got far with my coaching versus those who don’t. In this episode, I reveal the tell-tale signs of coachability and uncoachability so you can see where you land and if you’re ready to get farther in obtaining the relationship you desire.

7:00 - My definition of coachable and why it has nothing to do with worthiness

9:56 - One sign of uncoachability that I hear from a lot of potential clients

13:23 - An uncoachability sign that closes you off from possibility

14:55 - A telltale sign that, while usually fine, can mean you’re uncoachable if you approach it like this

17:08 - Something a lot of my audience hides behind that shows uncoachability

18:38 - The constant feeling about dating that also shows uncoachability and what you need to know if you think you’ve already healed

22:07 - How awareness, detachment, curiosity, and celebration demonstrate that you’re coachable

27:37 - Feeling coachable? How your life can look very different in a few months time with my help

 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to Are You Actually Ready for Deep Growth and Transformation?

• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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You hear a lot of talk about self-love. Particularly, you’re told that you need to love yourself before someone else can. My caller Leonnie certainly agrees, but she doesn’t know where to start. In fact, she struggles with the whole concept.

So today, we talk about what self love is, how you can increase it, and even go beyond that to the unexpected. If you’re not sure what self-love is, what it feels like, or how it applies to you, this episode could shift your relationship with yourself.

3:41 - Leonnie describes her struggle with the self-love concept

9:16 - Why Leonnie finds it difficult to pump up her self-love meter

17:57 - Something I think is more important than self-love

20:54 - How self-help books can create more harm than good

24:05 - Questions to ask yourself (and a tool to use) if you’re not feeling the self-love you think you should

27:47 - How the work I do with clients can change your relationship with yourself AND transform areas outside your relationship

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Love Yourself with Leonnie, here are your next steps:

• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist ​here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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