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Is it normal to be confused or hesitant about whether to see someone again after the first date? I get this question often from clients, and unfortunately, there’s no formula that’ll work perfectly to answer this for everyone. But you can still look at certain things to gain some perspective or ask yourself some questions. 

In this episode, I cover a few things to think about after the first date to help you determine whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing.

7:48 - The two ends of the dating or relationship spectrum you don’t want to be in

11:40 - Where you want to be when you’re dating someone new

14:41 - Why I like to give people two or three dates (with one exception)

17:01 - Rule of three: what that means, what mine is, and why I encourage you to have it

19:58 - Why you should consider dating someone you normally wouldn’t

24:58 - The tricky thing about feeling bored in a relationship

26:22 - Ask yourself this when in doubt about your feelings

28:48 - One last thing you need to know about this topic

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here.
• Get my book You Are Meant for Love or listen to my six-part “How I Found Love” series: Part 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6.
• Listen to past episodes about liking bad guys vs. good guys: 99, 127, and 135. 
• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Long-time listeners might get a sense of déjà vu with today’s show. This is a coaching call from 2019 but a very popular, timely, and super relatable one. That’s because what my guest Andree-Anne and I discuss is something a lot of women, including myself, have experienced.

If you tend to get wrapped up emotionally (and physically) with new partners long before any real connection gets made, you’re not alone. Listen in as I help Andree-Anne discover the truth behind her relationship attachment tendencies and offer strategies for breaking the pattern.

5:56 - Questions to keep in mind as you listen to this coaching call

10:07 - Why Andree-Anne feels she gets attached to guys too fast

13:24 - The pattern she has seen since the age of four that she fears is playing out in her own love life

18:43 - A short, complete-the-sentence exercise to get to the uncomfortable truth behind her issue

21:45 - What she believes a relationship will provide her that she can’t provide for herself now

23:00 - How she can connect with herself and find her identity, regardless of what’s happening romantically

28:17 - Andree-Anne put on the spot with a hard question to answer

30:13 - Tangible ideas to put into practice to help release relationship attachment

32:45 - Andree-Anne’s biggest takeaway from our coaching call

40:08 - Why you do know the answer to this question I asked Andree-Anne, even if you think you don’t

43:00 - Something that needs to be said before I wrap up the episode

46:00 - Recapping a couple of questions to answer in your journal

48:00 - Answering a question that comes up a lot with potential clients

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• If you’re interested in being coached on the Love Life Connection, sign up for my waitlist ​here​.

• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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You’ve consumed all the information you can find on dating and relationships. Yet, you’re either not attracting the kind of person you want or are still in a relationship you want out of.

Does that sound like you? You’re stuck in a pattern, and to get out of it involves unlearning what got you there and then re-learning new skills.

In this episode, I talk about the four stages of learning any new skill to help you shift patterns that keep cropping up in your love life. But to start the show, I discuss a little about dating someone with different political beliefs, as that’s been an increasingly hot topic among my clients lately.

2:40 - Why dating someone of a different political persuasion isn’t about 100% agreement (and what you SHOULD look for instead)

9:34 - The situation women should avoid getting themselves into when it comes to interpolitical relationships

12:22 - One thing I have clients do when they’re beginning to date again

17:23 - Signs of being in the first stage of learning any new skill: unconscious incompetence

24:15 - How to know that you’re in the second stage: conscious incompetence

28:50 - The third phase of shifting your relationship patterns: conscious competence

33:59 - Briefly discussing the final phase: unconscious competence

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Do you remember the episode with Sophie? She felt frustrated about an ex moving on so quickly after the end of their 12-year relationship. That call, and the fact that we’re in the season of engagement which often induces comparison and feelings of jealousy, have inspired me to expand on this discussion.

Today, I talk about getting out of the comparison trap and jealousy traps and how to get overthinking about your ex all the time.

6:55​ - How we’ve been trained to compare ourselves to others

9:51 - What happens when you beat yourself up for comparing yourself to others

13:04 - The simple phrase to train your brain when you realize you’ve fallen into the comparison trap

16:33 - One of my favorite tricks to handle jealousy

21:16 - A comforting perspective if you had an unhealthy relationship with an ex who’s in a new relationship

26:52 - The two phases of getting over an ex (most women get stuck in the second one)

34:36 - What might happen if you continue ruminating over your ex

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• Listen to episode 337 with Sophie.
• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. 
• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Jenn has a bit of an unusual situation going on. She’s in a relationship with someone she dated, but it’s not really a romantic relationship anymore. Instead, she has a situationship going on, and she wants to know how to get back to the way things were before they broke up.

What starts out as a conversation about boundaries moves beyond that and takes a different turn. In this coaching episode, I help Jenn discover the real reason behind her struggle to decide what to do about her situation and ways to work through it.

2:30 - Jenn explains her confusing situationship and what she needs out of it

9:15 - Why rebuilding trust after it’s been broken is really hard

12:38 - Getting to the heart of why Jenn is struggling to let go of this relationship

20:46 - Something pretty traumatic that sticks out in Jenn’s mind during this inner child exercise

26:25 - Why I want Jenn to focus on leaning into the anger she feels

33:19 - Working on your anger and why you need to get that emotion out of your head

38:33 - Breaking down the layers of Jenn’s real question

42:04 - My goal whenever someone tells me they’ve lost trust in their relationship

46:56 - What else suppressing the “bad” emotions can lead you to do 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• Listen to previous episodes focusing on anger: 218, 219, and 221.
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist ​here​.
• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Frustrated in your love life and looking for help? You have many tools and resources available to you, but you need to make sure you understand the specific purpose of each one. I’ve had clients frustrated with therapy because they thought or wanted it to be more like coaching when they’re not the same thing. So to help you figure out what’s best for you, in this episode I break down the three main services that can support you in your love life.

3:11​ - Quick definitions for each type of main service you can use

5:45 - Reasons why someone might want to hire a matchmaker

8:35 - Four reasons why I’m hesitant on suggesting you work with a matchmaker

19:08 - How long to work with a coach and when you should work with a therapist instead

22:45 - How to know it’s time to work with a coach and the differences between coaching and therapy

26:17 - My sweet spot as a coach when working with clients 

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. 
• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Imagine being with someone for years. Then one day it ends, and your ex has moved on rather quickly... a little too quickly for you, in fact. 

My caller Sophie knows exactly how that feels, and to say the least, she’s hurt and confused by it. In this episode, I walk her through what she needs to do to work through her current lack of trust and belief in love and the sad, angry feelings that come along for the ride.

4:58 - Why I think the topic of getting over an ex is such a misunderstood subject

6:52 - What happened with Sophie and her ex and what’s behind the fear she can’t overcome

11:20 - Signs that Sophie’s relationship was over and what they have to do with her past prior

16:24 - Something I want to highlight about inner child work (especially if you had a good childhood)

18:35 - What needs to happen for Sophie and why she seems more emotionally affected by the breakup than her ex

24:42 - An exercise to send forgiveness to a previous (adult) version of Sophie

29:38 - Why some people don’t get past the sadness over an ended relationship

32:33 - How anger is not a negative emotion and can actually be fuel for something better

38:52 - Helpful (and less helpful) ways to engage with your emotions of sadness and anger

44:42 - How to get to the second phase of getting over an ex

51:13 - A suggestion if you relate to Sophie and need to work on getting past your ex

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist ​here​.
• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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The holidays can be difficult for many reasons, but it can be especially difficult for single people looking for a relationship or those who feel stuck in a relationship they don’t want. You have to not only deal with feelings of loneliness or not feeling good enough in your relationship, but you have relatives who want to pry into your personal life when you’re just not up for it. 

In this episode, I want to talk about how to handle the holiday blues, the nosiness that often comes with family gatherings this time of year, and reveal a different way to think about gratitude this Thanksgiving.

2:39 - One thing that doesn’t get mentioned enough about gratitude

5:01 - How to handle nosy relatives during the holidays

12:25 - Dealing with the holiday blues when you’re single (and don’t want to be) or not in the relationship you want

14:33 - The first thing to do when feeling the holiday blues

17:34 - The second thing you can do to deal with the seasonal blues

20:03 - The third step and why I encourage some new clients to do this

26:21 - Two ways I can assist you with step #3

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• Listen to Episode 306, “How to Have Rock-Solid Boundaries in Dating: A Masterclass.”
• Listen to Episode 286, “How to Let Go of Anxiety Around Dating and Your Biological Clock.”
• Sign up for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. 
• Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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My client Crystal feels pretty annoyed by who she’s attracting into her love life. All she seems to get are a bunch of immature men! But is it really about the men? Or is something else going on here? In this episode, I help Crystal reveal some things about her boundaries. I also discuss dealing with anger and frustration and the effect of how society teaches men and women to behave in certain ways.

3:04 - One thing I see right off the bat with Crystal

9:11 - How sometimes your greatest gift can be your greatest shadow

14:50 - Where Crystal’s tendency to be overly generous comes from

19:03 - Why I recommend Crystal take a break from dating even though she’s been single for a long time

25:48 - How to tell when your boundaries are being crossed over and over

27:31 - Setting boundaries for relationships goes beyond your words

29:04 - Why doing inner child work can help you with setting relationship boundaries

31:09 - Stereotypes we’ve all heard about men and women (and how to temper their effect on your love life)

34:52 - If you want more help working on having (better) boundaries

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• Listen to Episode 306, “How to Have Rock-Solid Boundaries in Dating: A Masterclass.”
• If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist ​here​.
• With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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How you do one thing is how you do everything. While this podcast focuses on romantic relationships, I find that a lot of my clients have similar patterns and issues that show up in their platonic relationships too, especially friendships.

In this episode, I talk about how to make more friends, how to form better friendships with new and older friends alike, and how to deal with conflict within your friendships (including ending them).

4:41 - The myth about making more friends (and where it comes from)

7:04 - A favorite way to grow your friendship circle (and two assumptions that’ll help make it easier)

16:46 - How making better friends is similar to making new ones

19:59 - Building up your rejection resilience muscle and learning to stay unattached to the outcome

23:02 - Keys to setting boundaries within better friendships

27:03 - Common patterns I notice with clients who have conflicts with friends

29:13 - When it’s time to have a conversation with a friend and how to navigate conflict within friendships

34:03 - Why breaking up with a friend can be harder than breaking it off with a romantic partner

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

• Listen to episodes 271 and 272 in the Dating Without Swiping series.
• Listen to Episode 306, “How to Have Rock-Solid Boundaries in Dating: A Masterclass.”
• Join me for the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life. If you have it all but love, you can attract a fulfilling partnership and live a life of purpose. Sign up here.
• Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
• Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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