Ruwando Podcast

Many of our patterns of behavior and feeling do not originate in us. They are passed down, through nature or nurture, from those before us.

However if you’ve “inherited” undesirable patterns, or see them spreading in your family, you can be the one to interrupt them.

Noelfry rejoins the podcast to share a recent experience of disrupting his familial patterns.

Btw, I’m back on Youtube:

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Atonement with the Father is a stage in Joseph Campbell's monomyth (Hero's Journey) where a man confronts 'The Godhead'. In doing so, he becomes complete-- unlocking the "god" within himself (Apotheosis).

Psychologically it represents healing of the Father Wound-- the gaps in one's masculinity due to the shortcomings of one's father figure.

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Atonement with the Father is a stage in Joseph Campbell's monomyth (Hero's Journey) where a man confronts 'The Godhead'. In doing so, he becomes complete-- unlocking the "god" within himself (Apotheosis).

Psychologically it represents healing of the Father Wound-- the gaps in one's masculinity due to the shortcomings of one's father figure.

Ruwando Substack is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

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(Apologies for the bad audio-- my main mic cut out.)

Havingness (a.k.a. self-concept) is how much you subconsciously believe your deserve when it comes to different areas of life— money, love, respect, attention, ease, etc.

We tend to revert to our this "Having Level" when we deviate too far away from it.

But you can increase your Having Level, and upgrade your sense of normal through certain practices.

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(Apologies for the bad audio-- my main mic cut out.)

Havingness (a.k.a. self-concept) is how much you subconsciously believe your deserve when it comes to different areas of life— money, love, respect, attention, ease, etc.

We tend to revert to our this "Having Level" when we deviate too far away from it.

But you can increase your Having Level, and upgrade your sense of normal through certain practices.

Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

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“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up”

Since appearing in episode 140 Slave to King: Nice Guy Transformation, I have received more listener questions about him than any other guest.

Patrick H. from Germany returns to the podcast to fill us in on his life since his return to dating post-celibacy, and now in a new kind of relationship.

If you’re a man with a history of unfulfilling relationships, choosing the wrong women, or general Nice Guy BS, listen to this one.

We cover his roadmap of transformation the last 18 months, changing of archetypes, how to use your body to recognize truth, narcissistic PD, and what it really means to be King.

Want to embark on a similar journey?

Check out the Masculine Archetype Challenge, the 21 day program to summon the dormant parts of your masculinity:

It still comes with a 1:1 coaching call with me.

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“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up”

Since appearing in episode 140 Slave to King: Nice Guy Transformation, I have received more listener questions about him than any other guest.

Patrick H. from Germany returns to the podcast to fill us in on his life since his return to dating post-celibacy, and now in a new kind of relationship.

If you’re a man with a history of unfulfilling relationships, choosing the wrong women, or general Nice Guy BS, listen to this one.

We cover his roadmap of transformation the last 18 months, changing of archetypes, how to use your body to recognize truth, narcissistic PD, and what it really means to be King.

Want to embark on a similar journey?

Check out the Masculine Archetype Challenge, the 21 day program to summon the dormant parts of your masculinity:

It still comes with a 1:1 coaching call with me.

Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

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Apparently last Friday was “Three King’s Day”— referring to the magi who visited baby J in the manger.

It happened to coincide with a summit planned with my new office mates. The three of us are young fathers and entrepreneurs.

We christened our new space, Studio 14, with a chat on the Father Wound, the greater demands on manhood in creating a Perimeter, and fatherhood philosophy.

Apologies to anyone who was expecting a livestream last Friday— I had some technical difficulties with the streaming.

This Friday (the 13th) we’ll livestream 166 On Havingness: How to Increase Your Self-Concept.

I’ll post the zoom link in substack shortly before.

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Apparently last Friday was “Three King’s Day”— referring to the magi who visited baby J in the manger.

It happened to coincide with a summit planned with my new office mates. The three of us are young fathers and entrepreneurs.

We christened our new space, Studio 14, with a chat on the Father Wound, the greater demands on manhood in creating a Perimeter, and fatherhood philosophy.

Apologies to anyone who was expecting a livestream last Friday— I had some technical difficulties with the streaming.

This Friday (the 13th) we’ll livestream 166 On Havingness: How to Increase Your Self-Concept.

I’ll post the zoom link in substack shortly before.

ruwando.substack.com

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The last few weeks I’ve had a few discussions with guys about “being a rock”.

In theory, it’s a nice manly image… but what does it actually mean?

In practice, being “a rock” can seem like being “passive” at times, but it’s not the same thing.

This episode covers HOW to be a grounded “rock” (as opposed to a fiery hothead, watery fish, or airy space cadet).

NOTE: I’m going start livestreaming some episodes again as I was pre-pandemic. If you’d like to hop on the next episode and ask questions live, just subscribe (free) on ruwando.substack.com. I’ll post the livestream schedule/links + polls where you can vote on the next episode topics.

ANOTHER NOTE: All other episodes will have video again too. I recorded this in video but something was SNAFUed. But from now on there will be video for substack subscribers.

If you’re listening to this podcast on Apple or Spotify, and you’re enjoying it, please leave a review :)

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