Sari Swears

Sari Swears

By Sari de la MotteBusinessEducationHow ToCareers
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Sari Swears episodes

  • Ep. 252 - The Power of Contrast

    Contrast is the fucking star of the show today ⭐

    Picture this: we're painting a badass masterpiece.

    Each stroke of contrast SHARPENS the narrative, adding depth and impact.

    Think about how you can leverage contrast to ELEVATE your narrative to motivate the jury to take ACTION.

    Trust me, it's a game-changer. Tune into the episode now to dive in deeper.

    Xo, Sari

    Quote:

    • "But the point is that the contrast is clarifying. It isn't messy. When you have contrast, it strengthens your argument. There's black and there's white, that's why the DVAQ, the Devil's Advocate. Don't do it in your regular voice, it has to be a contrast. There's another place, it has to be a contrast between your regular voice and your, "Yeah, but can you just say you're sorry" voice. It has to be different."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    32 min
  • Ep. 251 - Is it Ok to [GASP] CRY IN COURT?

    Let's talk about a courtroom taboo: crying.

    IS IT -REALLY- OK TO CRY IN COURT?

    Spoiler alert: Mama Sari is giving you the green light.

    Because here's the thing: showing emotion isn't a sign of weakness — it's a sign of authenticity, passion, and unwavering dedication to your client.

    So, next time you feel that lump in your throat, embrace that shit.

    Tune in now.

    Xo, Sari

    Quote:

    • "If emotions are contagious, my question to you is: why are you not using that opportunity to set the stage, and to set the tone of what happened? It's not facts that make people mad or sad or any of the other things. It's tone of voice, it's word choice, which is nonverbal. It's body language. We have to do these things so that the jury does feel an emotion, and that will then motivate them to act. Remember that your job is hard because you have to motivate the jury to do something when the easiest thing is to leave things as they are."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    26 min
  • Ep. 250 - Holy Shit! It's My 250th Episode!

    Holy fucking shit! IT'S MY 250TH EPISODE! 🥳

    It is because of YOU that we have made it this far.

    So, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU.

    Tune in to find out the 4 beliefs hindering your potential as a trial attorney.

    Xo, Sari

    Quote:

    • "That's what I mean, is that there's a belief that it has to be hard. You read and reread all of the documents, due to your fear of missing something and missing out on something. You're overprepping. You are doing things yourself that you can be delegating. That's what I mean by you are making it hard or you think it has to be hard. You don't trust it when it's easy. What I'm here to say is, using the podcast as an example, it doesn't have to be hard to get great results."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    24 min
  • Ep. 249 - Wish You Had More Time? Why Having Less is a Good Thing

    Forget burning the midnight oil to catch up on "unfinished" research, case preps, and admin tasks—Parkinson's Law says your work expands to fill the time you give it.

    Hold on…

    LET ME FINISH.

    80% of your results come from 20% of your effort, and despite the popular opinion of many, it is OKAY to embrace B minus work (Yep, I said it and I'm not taking it back).

    Because perfection is overrated and you are bending yourself backwards for it.

    Love,

    Sari

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    Quote:

    • "You knew you only had 40 hours. And by the way, you do have a side gig. It's called family, friends, taking care of yourself, resting. That's your side gig. But how would you spend those 40 hours? I think you would stop with all the bullshit and you'd get down to business. See, when we have all this space, we think that's a good thing and it's actually the opposite. It's not a good thing."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    22 min
  • Ep. 248 - Do We Learn More From Success or Failure? You Might Be Surprised By the Answer

    I always hear this from attorneys in and out of H2H –

    "I learned more from my failures than my successes."

    Well, throw that bullshit out the window because this week's episode is all about debunking the myth that failure is the ultimate teacher.

    Tune in to find out how to break the cycle of fixating on mistakes (because let's face it, that only leads to one thing: giving up 😤) and instead, champion a mindset fueled by success.

    Xo,

    Sari

    Mentions:

    • The Winner Effect by Ian H. Robertson

    Quote:

    • "We learn more from success than failure. Success is more motivating than failure. Success will have you work harder than failure. This is backwards from everything y'all believe. You believe it has to be hard. You believe you have to be hard on yourself. You believe that you can't decide you're amazing before you actually achieve something great. The research backs me up here. It's success that we want to emulate; it is success that we want to focus on."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    21 min
  • Ep. 247 - Which Method Really "Works"? Here's How to Tell

    Have you ever researched jury selection methods?

    Well I did. And it is slim fucking pickings. Turns out, predicting verdicts based on juror characteristics is about as reliable as a coin toss.

    What method really "WORKS"? Long story short.. YOU!

    This episode is for you if you want to learn the 7 crucial questions to ask yourself when choosing a method.

    If your method hits all these marks, you're golden. But if it's just smoke and mirrors, it's time to toss it.

    Bottom line: No matter the method, the real magic is YOU.

    So go on, be brilliant, and own that courtroom.

    Tune in on the episode to find out what I mean by that.

    Xo,

    Sari

    Quote:

    "Here's what I know for sure works, you. You work. No method will ever replace the brilliance that is you. That's what I know for sure works. I don't create magic in my studio by myself. The magic happens when I'm working with one of you or one of my crew members. They bring the brilliance. I just help them step into it. That's what I do."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    24 min
  • Ep.246 - The Problem with the Ideal Juror Profile

    It's time to forget everything you know on the "ideal juror profile" and ditch the outdated playbook. Capeesh?!

    Ok, now that's out the window…

    This episode is for you if you want to learn powerful ways of creating the ultimate "ideal juror profile".

    (Spoiler alert: it's not your typical demographic; a woman between the ages of 40-60, college graduate, blah, blah, blah. #Boring.)

    Tune in on the episode to find out what I mean by that.

    Xo, Sari

    Quote:

    "So, the problem with the ideal juror profile is you're using it for the wrong reasons. You're trying to find the fix to the defense point when it really is meant to show you that your ideal juror exists. And that once you build those beliefs, that there are principles in there that you can mind for, and then start building your funnels."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    21 min
  • Ep. 245 - A Verdict Already?! Top 5 Reasons Your Jury Isn't Deliberating Long Enough

    From misplaced focus, to survival-mode brains, we're dissecting the TOP FIVE reasons behind those lightning-fast ver-🍆-ts.

    If you want to communicate effectively with your jurors—and I know you do—then you have to get out of your head and into theirs.

    Join me as I delve into the H2H method: the purpose of my closing template, the psychology of decision-making, the art of compelling content, and why sequencing matters more than you think.

    Xo, Sari

    Quote:

    • "This is why exclusionary voir dire just gets under my skin because it does nothing to form groups. You go in there with your big swinging dick, and you come out, and you're like, 'I got eight people off for cause. What do you think about that?' You know what I think about that? You missed a fucking opportunity. That's what I think about that. What the fuck have you done? Nothing. Your group wasn't formed. Nothing."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    26 min
  • Ep. 244 - Do You Struggle with Feeling You're Not Good Enough? Here's How to Stop

    If you struggle with constantly feeling like you're not "good enough", this episode is for YOU, my friend.

    Today, we are talking about how ABSURD it really is for us humans to relentlessly keep striving to be "enough".

    So, if you're ready to embrace your imperfections, laugh in the face of doubt, and rewrite the rules on what it means to be "enough", tune in now.

    Xo, Sari

    Quote:

    • "It's like the concept of over-preparing. It's this thing where we're like, "I want to be 100% prepared." That's not a measurable thing. It's not something that we can say, "Okay, now you're enough." How do we decide what that is? Fuck enough. Here's what you're really saying, "I don't know what I'm doing." That's what you mean when you say, "I'm not enough." And here, my darling, is the answer to that, no one does. No one knows what the fuck they're doing. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. Literally, no one knows what the fuck they're doing."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    11 min
  • Ep. 243 - Curiosity: What Killed the Cat Will Save You

    Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it's about to resurrect your trial game.

    Curiosity isn't just about asking questions; it's about forging connections that transcend courtroom formalities.

    Curiosity isn't about having an end goal in mind. It's about embracing the unknown.

    I know you're DYING to revolutionize your approach to voir dire, so go ahead and tune in.

    Xo, Sari

    Mentions:

    • Ian Leslie - Curious: The Desire to Know and Why Your Future Depends On It

    Quote:

    • "What trial lawyers do is stand up for human values versus corporate values. And what curiosity does is say that this trial, this case, this voir dire, is a human endeavor. This is getting to know each other. This is connecting you with the themes, with me, with each other. The very work that y'all do is human work. It's about connection. And I honestly believe we cannot have connection when we don't have curiosity."

    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * *

    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

    Get the training here:

    sariswears.com/jury

    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

    Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    19 min

About Sari Swears

From the publisher's feed

Sari de la Motte is the host of "Sari Swears" and has been dubbed the "Attorney Whisperer" because of her unique ability to help attorneys communicate their real selves. Tune in every Friday for a new…

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