Say The Things

We are told 'do not be afraid'. We know most fear is negative and over exaggerated. What can we learn about fear to honor it, assess it to have a healthy understanding and relationship with it? Understanding how fear works in our mind and body and strategies to have a healthy relationship with fear. Use fear to propel us into living not postpone our life.

Quotes from this episode:

"Never trust your fears, they don't know your strength." ~Athena Singh

"The fears we don't face become our limits" ~unknown

"If you're not making someone else's life better, then you're wasting your time. Your life will become better by making other lives better." ~Will Smith

"I learned courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it." Nelson Mandela

"Fear: I recognize and respect that you are part of this family, and so I will never exclude you from our activities, but still - your suggestions will NEVER be followed. You're allowed to have a seat and you're allowed to have a voice but you are not allowed to have a vote. You're not allowed to touch the roadmaps; you're not allowed to suggest detours; you're not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. Dude, you're not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else my dear, old, familiar friend, you are absolutely forbidden to drive." ~Elizabeth Gilbert

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Anger is an emotion we have all sensed, our expression of it differs. Do you erupt or stuff? How can anger be an ally.

"I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name was grief." ~unknown

"You can't handle the truth! Son, we live in a world that has walls, and those walls have to be guarded by men with guns. Who's gonna do it? You?"

A Few Good Men

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/fact-or-fiction-nasa-spen/

Anger is your ally - Juna Mustad https://www.ted.com/talks/juna_mustad_anger_is_your_ally_a_mindful_approach_to_anger

The Upside of Anger - Ryan Martin

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kfcQaXG_Qhs

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Our face expresses emotions we are often reluctant to share. Scientific research is proving unprocessed emotions are the root of almost all physical illness. There are two type of thinking or processing; Internal or External. Determine your processing style, ways to communicate to loved ones your processing needs and ways to be proactive to process your emotions best way for you.

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"A face is more honest than the mouth will ever be." ~Daphne Orebaugh

6 Universal Emotions; Paul Ekman

"According to Prevention Magazine, It is estimated that 90% of all physical problems have psychological roots. That may sound like a gross exaggerations. In fact, it is probably a conservative estimate. A growing body of evidence indicates that virtually every ill that can befall the body — from acne to arthritis, headaches to heart disease, cold sores to cancer — is influenced, for better or worse, by our Emotions" ~Emrika Padus; Your Emotions and Your Health

"As I began to think over the years what life is, I don't believe life is about feeling good, life is about feeling everything."

Robert Leahy

"If you are resisting something you are feeding it. Any energy you are fighting, you are feeding. If you are pushing something away, you are inviting it to stay."

Michael A. Singer, The Untethered Soul

Resources:

Feelings Buried Alive Never Die… Karol K. Truman.

https://thepowerofwritingitdown.com

Allison Fallon - book about writing your story.

https://findyourvoice.com

Free writing prompts (again Ally Fallon)

https://news.berkeley.edu/2020/12/16/the-16-facial-expressions-most-common-to-emotional-situations-worldwide/

We communicate every day. Are we strengthening our relationships or hurting them? Learn:

4 Types of Communicators

Characteristics of Unhealthy Communication

Characteristics of Healthy Communication

We often don't know what healthy is until we know what it isn't.

Episode Quotes and Resources:

"A chain is as strong as the weakest link" ` unknown

"a thread usually breaks from where it is the thinnest" ~Basque Proverb

Nature is waking up, spring is here. What in your heart, mind, soul, spirit is awakening? Today I provide 9 ways to know you are waking up.

Episode quotes & resources:

'The daily practice of letting go of who we thing we are supposed to be and embracing who we are. Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect. ~Brené Brown

"Radical consistency comes from the focus on the process, not perfection." ~Robyn Downs

https://chopra.com/articles/10-signs-of-spiritual-enlightenment-awakening

https://chopra.com/articles/10-signs-of-spiritual-enlightenment-awakening

Spring is often 'everyone's favorite season'. What can we learn from transforming from rest to new growth? Today's episode we will discuss what spring offers and the stages of transformation.

Episode quotes and resources:

"If ever you were to admire the spring-blooming trees;

May you see much more than flowers and rustling green leaves.

May you start to see the history. Roots tied deep-in the dirt for trees do not blow from clouds, but from the ground, the root, the earth."

~Morgan Harper Nichols

"Describe your perfect date? I'd have to say April 25. It's not too hot, it's not too cold. All you need is a light jacket." Miss Congeniality Movie

University of Michigan Study:

https://news.umich.edu/feeling-stressed-take-a-nature-pill-says-u-m-researcher/

Stories exist in every culture through all of time. What is your story? What is your comfort level with sharing your story? Listen as we find out why our stories are important, why we should share ours, and what stops us from sharing. Your story matters, reach out to me on Instagram (link below) if you want help or want to share your story with me.

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What She Wishes You Knew Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-she-wishes-you-knew-podcast/id1478801899

Link to commercial:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-orjHsgxDQ

"Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen." Winston Churchill

"You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better." ~Anne Lamott

Episode Quotes:

"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." ~ Oscar Wilde

"There are two types of relationships, imperfect and toxic."

~my wise brother

"We are often told to love people unconditionally, but sometimes we need to get rid of people unconditionally." ~unknown

"You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, know when to run." The Gambler by Kenny Rogers

"Today I craved intimacy

So, I sat down with myself

And listened intently,

With fondness,

To my heart."

Paper Heart by Boomie Bol

"I fell in love

with the way

I was quiet

and how I was all alone

because during that time

my intuitions voice became louder

and I was able to call myself home.

Black Sheep by Wattney Lander

Episode Resources:

The Self-Love Experiment by Shannon Kaiser

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https://www.instagram.com/boomiebol/

https://www.instagram.com/wattneypoetry/

It's the time of year we make time to celebrate love. We freely speak of all the things we love, it is really love? Are we being clear with the people in our life what we mean when we say we "love" something or someone?

Random References:

https://www.fluentin3months.com/words-for-love/

"Looking for love in all the wrong places, no fine girls just ugly faces." Young MC

Night at the Roxbury, Saturday Night Live skit with Will Ferrell and Chris Kattan to the song "What is Love" by Haddaway

Song Titles about Love

Love Hurts

Love Bites

Love Lies

Love is a Battlefield

Cant Buy Me Love

Can't Help Falling In Love

Addicted to Love

You Give Love a Bad Name

Here are some minor contradictions between song titles:

Foreigner begging, "I Want To Know What Love Is"

The Partridge family boldly proclaimed "I Think I Love You"

And Roxette cleared it all up with "It Must Have Been Love"

Now That We Found Love

Where Is the Love

Lost in Love

Love will Lead You Back

If You Love Somebody Set Them Free

Hold Onto Love

Show Me Your Love

You've Got To Hide Your Love Away

All Out of Love

Making Love Out of Nothing At All

Will You Love Me Tomorrow

Friday I'm in Love

All You Need Is Love

Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough

I Just Called To Say I Love You

Bye Bye Love

No More I Love You's

Say You Love Me

I Love Loving You

I Hate that I Love You

I'd Do Anything for Love, but I won't Do That

Definitions for Love taken from Merriam-Webster Dictionary

We live in a culture of hustle and accomplish, the way we can do all the things is to multitask. What is multitasking? What is the harm in doing multiple things at once, and what is the alternative?

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Episode Resources:

"What looks like multitasking is really switching back and forth between multiple tasks, which reduces productivity and increases mistakes by up to 50%." – Susan Cain

Dr. Bryant Adibe, Chief Wellness Officer at Rush University System for Health. "mono tasking is a deep mindset and causes you to reexamine your relationship to time, your most precious and fundamental asset. At the end of our lives, no one will remember how quickly we responded to emails; and no one on their deathbed asks for more time to sit through another budget meeting. Instead, we look for more time to do and experience the things that give us meaning and a sense of purpose. That is at the core of mono-tasking, it is about rethinking the way we work so we can more meaningfully engage with our environment."

Neal Stephenson, an author, explains this concept by saying "If I organize my life in such a way that I get lots of long, consecutive, uninterrupted time-chunks, I can write novels. If I allow for interruptions, what replaces it? Instead of a novel that will be around for a long time,,, there is a bunch of email messages that I have sent out to individual persons."

"Think of many things; do one." – Portuguese Proverb