Secret Son

Who better to launch with than the woman who helped me track down my father? 

Adoptee rights advocate and search angel extraordinaire Annette O' Connell and I talk family searches, secondary rejection and the ecstasy of experiencing genetic mirroring. 

Somehow I called her by her maiden name of Daly. Apologies!

Music by the inimitable Cassis Birgit Staudt. 

 

Annette Daly-O’Connell (she/her) is a domestic adopted person born in NYC during the Baby Scoop Era. 

Having been born Pre-Roe; she feels it is vital that the US not go back to a forced birth society. 

She has been active in adoptee rights since 2014. 

Annette is the spokesperson for the New York Adoptee Rights Coalition and is on the boards of Adoptees United, Inc. and Bastard Nation. 

She works part-time for The Adoptive and Foster Family Coalition of New York on the Communications Team and volunteers as a search angel

NYAdopteeRights.org • AdopteesUnited.org • AFFCNY.org • Bastards.org
 

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. 

 

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Mike Personal Site: www.miketrupiano.com

Produced by: Trout Sound GbR Trupiano & Staudt copyright 2024 

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Parichard Holm – Healing Through Movement

Born in Thailand and raised in Germany, Parichard Holm struggled with identity and belonging. Feelings of disconnection, anxiety, and panic shaped her early years as she searched for a sense of home within herself.

At 18, on the search of her birth mother, a healing Tui Na massage in Thailand transformed her life. This powerful experience awakened her passion for Qigong, Tai Chi, and Qi Healing as a way to restore balance and reconnect with her true self.

Now, she helps others overcome emotional and energetic blockages, guiding them toward inner wholeness, vitality, and a deeper connection to their true self, the source of awarness and self-love.

Instagram: @parichard_holm

www.taichimatrix.com

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. 

 

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Mike Personal Site: www.miketrupiano.com

Produced by: Trout Sound GbR Trupiano & Staudt copyright 2024 

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Falsified birthdays, smuggled DNA tests, women’s prisons!  

George Barbakadze and I discuss that uneasy floating feeling of pre-search life, the joys of a successful DNA result and anticipating a future of wrestling with identity issues. 

I loved speaking with George. He story demonstrates persistence despite many obstacles. Somehow he has remained through it all a very nice guy. Inspiring! 

George was born in Saint Petersburg, Russia, in 1974.

In 1976, he was adopted from a Saint Petersburg orphanage by a Georgian family and raised in Georgia (the country) as the only child of his adoptive parents. When George was nine years old, his father passed away. Despite the secrecy and the “don’t ask, don’t tell” family policy surrounding his adoption, George’s relationship with his mother remains the most sacred to him.

In the 1990s, George earned his MFA from the Georgian State Academy of Arts and worked as a producer for state television. In 2000, George was forced to leave Georgia and immigrated to Australia, where he was granted gay refugee status. While in Australia, he studied filmmaking and wrote and directed his first short films. Since 2006, George’s films have been showcased at film festivals worldwide, earning numerous awards. Since 2015, George has lived and worked in Los Angeles, California.

While traveling the world and living in different countries, George hoped to find a place where he truly belonged. Yet, everywhere he went—including the country where he grew up - he was constantly asked, “Where is your accent from?”

A 25-year-long, frustrating search for his birth history and biological family eventually led him to confront two important questions: “What if this is it? What if this is as good as it gets?” Answering these questions helped George redefine his sense of identity and belonging, change the narrative and allowing him to move forward with acceptance.

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. 

 

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Mike Personal Site: www.miketrupiano.com

Produced by: Trout Sound GbR Trupiano & Staudt copyright 2024 

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When I asked New Hampshire-ite Greg Gentry how he was doing, he simply put down his musket, looked in the camera and said, "live free or die!"

Listen in on our conversation as we take a deep dive into that tenuous thing called identity and how searching for family impacts it. 

Along the way, we touch on Nietzsche, Alfred North Whitehead and taking long drives when discussions at home get a little too triggering. 

 

Greg Gentry is a US domestic baby scoop era adoptee, born in California in 1969.  

He has been in reunion with maternal family members since 2006, and in 2021 also connected with his paternal side.  

Greg is a facilitator and interviewer for Fireside Adoptees, a private Facebook group founded in 2021, which is committed to additional outreach through its public Facebook page and through the Fireside Adoptees Constellation private Facebook group.  

Greg is also co-host of Adoptees Connect out of Derry, New Hampshire. He enjoys connecting with others in the online and in-person adoptee communities, and has found these interactions to be richly rewarding and supportive.

 

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. 

 

To make a one-time donation or become an ongoing patron: 

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Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

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Mike Personal Site: www.miketrupiano.com

Produced by: Trout Sound GbR Trupiano & Staudt copyright 2024 

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Season 2 of Secret Son keeps rolling along and, based on last week's number, people like hearing about identity!

Secrecy is so last season. But not really. It's all a jumble, as we know. 

Join show patron and fellow Midwesterner Bruce Porth and I as we discuss our young selves discovering Ayn Rand, the challenge for adoptees of the edict "just be yourself" and how searching for family altered our sense of identity.

How to fuse the pre and post-search self? Tune in! 
 

Bruce Porth was born in Chicago in April of 1967 near the end of the baby scoop era and adopted at 10 days old into a family that was well-intentioned but lacked critical knowledge and insight in how to raise an adopted child. 

After many years of feeling lost and disoriented he started coming out of the fog in the late 90's and eventually reunited with his birth family in 1998 and maintains a relationship that continues to expand and grow.

 It was in 2020 when Bruce found the broader adoptee community and a deeper level of awareness and healing became available. He discovered how essential the support of the adoptee community is in moving through the stages of healing from adoption grief and loss. 

He is an avid student of trauma recovery and exploring creative approaches to deep healing such as expanded states work including holotropic breathwork and psychedelics. Bruce is passionate about promoting truth and transparency in adoption and raising awareness within the adoption constellation of the complex challenges that come with relinquishment. 

He works as an engineer in the semiconductor industry, is married with two daughters and lives in Vermont.

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. 

 

To make a one-time donation or become an ongoing patron: 

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Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

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Mike Personal Site: www.miketrupiano.com

Produced by: Trout Sound GbR Trupiano & Staudt copyright 2024 

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After a winter hiatus, lots of St. John's Wort and extensive retooling, Secret Son returns for Season 2. 

 

Join Ruth Monnig and I as we discuss growing up in the same Midwesterner town, searching for family and how searching altered our sense of identity.

 

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. 

 

To make a one-time donation or become an ongoing patron: 

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Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/secret_son

Mike Personal Site: www.miketrupiano.com

Produced by: Trout Sound GbR Trupiano & Staudt copyright 2024 

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Adoptees family searches, identity, women's rights, secrecy - Secret Son covers this and more. 

Every week a new interview, every week a new tale of searching, finding and secrecy. 

Secret Son launches on Friday,  December 16, 2022

www.secretsonpod.com

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. 

 

To make a one-time donation or become an ongoing patron: 

https://www.patreon.com/secret_son

 

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1659085017

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/secret_son

Mike Personal Site: www.miketrupiano.com

Produced by: Trout Sound GbR Trupiano & Staudt copyright 2024 

All rights reserved