Self-Coaching

It just seems that no matter how much you try to anticipate, control, or manipulate life…there’s always something! Whether it’s a cracked pipe in the basement, inflation woes, or an infestation of ants crawling in your kitchen—it’s always something…always one more thing to worry about.

If you worry all the time or too much of the time, don’t think you’re going to find solace or serenity by worrying or “what-iffing.” That’s not the answer, in fact, it’s the problem. We get duped into thinking that we “have to” worry in order to be safe from life’s challenges--it’s as if worrying has a mind of its own. Truth is, worry does have a mind of its own and you are its passive victim. Join me in this Self-Coaching episode, as I expose worrying for what it is and, more importantly, how to decondition the habit of worrying, liberating yourself from the neurotic stranglehold it has on your life.

There are many reasons why someone suffering doesn’t choose psychotherapy. It could be fear of the unknown, the stigma of being “in therapy,” the cost, or simply confusion over the many types of therapies and therapists. In this Self-Coaching episode, you'll learn that whatever the reason for not pursuing therapy, that doesn’t mean that you need to concede to a life of struggle—not when you understand that self-help (a.k.a., Self-Coaching) can provide the simple tools necessary for you to achieve a happier, more successful life.

For some, having a structured therapy each week is a lot easier than taking personal responsibility to do the work necessary to succeed. This is where Self-Coaching has an advantage—once you have the tools, you can learn to coach and motivate yourself to reclaim your life.  

NOTE: You can reach me directly through my website: www.selfcoaching.net, or my email: [email protected]. Let me know if you have any questions or podcast suggestions. I’d love to hear from you.

One of the most annoying personality traits has to do with people who are full of themselves. For them it’s all about self-promotion, blowing their own horn and never realizing that the rest of the world isn’t that interested.

In this Self-Coaching episode, I talk about the need for emotional relativity—seeing yourself and your behavior in a more objective fashion. Unfortunately, the egocentric, insensitive nature of a braggart prevents them from the simple truth of how they come across. Instead, they genuinely believe that others simply can’t wait to hear all about their wonderful life.

I offer two Self-Coaching techniques for dealing with—and surviving—those who annoy us.

I would say that most people like to be liked. And if you’re like most people, whether it’s socially, professionally, or in your intimate relationships, it’s never a bad idea to brush up on your people skills. Research shows that people are biologically predisposed to be attracted to confident people and—no surprise—confident people tend to be socially more adept. In this Self-Coaching episode, I offer specific, simple techniques and strategies for enhancing your ‘likeability’ and self-confidence.

The benefits of becoming a more effective communicator are numerous. And it’s all doable with a bit of consciousness and practice. It’s really not that complicated.

No one likes to struggle and no one intentionally decides to generate stress and emotional friction in our lives. And yet, the truth is that most of our struggles aren’t created by legitimate life challenges, they’re caused by longstanding habits of self-doubt, fear and negativity. In this Self-Coaching episode, you can find out not only ‘why’ you struggle, but what you can do to recognize and release yourself from needless, knee-jerk suffering.

In this Self-Coaching episode, I discuss the improbable truth that lucky charms, rituals and various superstitions can actually have a beneficial effect on our behavior, health, and attitude. But how can this be? We know that superstitions or the belief that an object or behavior has the power to influence an outcome is, well, not logical. Yet, researchers have found that people who have luck on their side feel greater self-efficacy (i.e., the ability to believe and trust ourselves to handle life)—and this belief actually enhances both mental and physical performance.

Seriously, maybe you should hold on to that rabbit’s foot, a horse shoe, or a four-leaf clover.

It’s a fact that no one is lucky all the time. No one! We all have setbacks, disappointments, flat tires and rained out picnics. And yet, there are some people who, in general, just seem to have better…luck. Things seem so go well for them, they’re happier, more productive, and seemingly more blessed by life’s bounty. Are these people more lucky? And if so, are there certain characteristics of lucky people that enhance the possibility of encouraging good fortune?  

In this Self-Coaching episode, I’ll let you answer the question as to whether or not we can actually improve our luck.

It’s understandable that we try desperately to cling to our youth, but in this Self-Coaching episode I explore the fact that unless you change your youth-oriented perspective on ageing, you will be doomed to fight your natural, psychological propensity to awaken to a much deeper, more fulfilling reality.

Clinging to youth keeps us frozen, preventing us to evolve. We know intellectually that we can’t turn back the hands of time, but on many levels, we refuse to accept this inevitable reality. This hesitation about growing older can not only be challenged, but it can be replaced by an awakening of the psyche to a more substantial understanding of the true purpose of life. As you’ll learn In this episode—it’s all about learning to live your “dash” years.

In this Self-Coaching episode, I explore the concept of low self-esteem--the negative opinions and feelings we have of ourselves. Join me as I trace the origins of low self-esteem as well as what we do to perpetuate these insecure feelings in our lives today. As natural as it is to compare ourselves to others, this is the root of low self-esteem, especially if our comparisons are contaminated by perceptions instigated by insecurity.

I discuss various strategies for improving self-esteem and confidence, such as challenging negativity, establishing a more objective self-perception, fostering more healthy relationships, learning to say no, and more.

In this Self-Coaching podcast, I respond to an email from a listener outlining her long-standing emotional struggles with explosive anger, low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression.

I'm introducing a new format of responding to specific questions sent to me in order to provide you with a real-life application of Self-Coaching. I hope to give you a more direct glimpse as to how Self-Coaching can be applied directly to everyday struggles. Whether it’s anger, depression, anxiety, or hopelessness, the path to liberation isn’t as complicated as you may think.

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If you would like me to respond to your specific struggle in an upcoming podcast, you can email me at, [email protected], or through the ‘contact’ section of my website: www.selfcoaching.net. Of course, your identifying information will be kept anonymous. Please note that my podcasts are not meant to be a substitute for clinical intervention; they are meant to be educational and informative.