Self Explained

When it comes to individuals feeling their full range of feelings - we must refuse to let others feel our feelings for us and refuse to let us feel others feelings for them too. We must stop being over-functioning and take responsibility for our own inner world and acknowledge that others have that same responsibility too without expecting someone to make us happy or blame them for making us sad in any given moment.

Society needs to stop expecting women to do all of the emotional labour too, there needs to be a balance between ALL humans when it comes to the management of emotions. Moreover, it’s time to stop labelling people as “sensitive”, “dramatic”, “crazy”, “bossy”, “moody” and so on for expressing an emotion that isn’t yet fully normalised in the eyes of society and regardless of one’s identity or sex - we are all human beings, living a human experience and our emotions are there to teach us and guide us along the way.

To read more about this topic, see the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/theself/feelyourfullrangeoffeelings

At one point in time there may have been a primary caregiver who reacted to you in ways that caused you to change, to minimise or even hide parts of yourself. The reaction causes you to develop certain survival strategies that ultimately meant in your mind that being yourself and expressing individuality was “dangerous" or "unsafe”. Your authentic self - your needs, values and desires - were perhaps, at times, seen as a threat and a form of betrayal in some ways. 

You may have carried this learnt behaviour and harmful beliefs that developed as a result into your adulthood life where you feel the need to change or hide who you are in order to survive - to receive love, to be accepted and to ensure that you would not be left on your own. 

To read more about the False Self, see the following link:

https://katieodonoghue.com/theself/thefalseself

On today's episode I have special guest Georgia Goodhew (@thepuss.ycoach) on to talk about everything from her personal journey to breath orgasms and reclaiming the lost parts of yourself to truly step into your power as a woman. Georgia has a fountain of knowledge and wisdom and I am so excited for you to listen today. 

Georgia formerly known as The Pussy Coach, helps women turn their lives the F*ck On! She is a deeply feminine creator who uses her Pussy Power to heal sexual trauma, integrate her shadow self and find deep connection to her body. 

If you like this episode, be sure to give Georgia a tag on Instagram! 

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As a young child, you depended on your caregivers to teach you about things like boundaries, love, and individuality. You were vulnerable, dependent, and open - always learning new ways to survive and to ensure that you would not be abandoned, or rejected. You would have learned certain survival mechanisms and to some degree, you would have experienced trauma.

Trauma being an emotional response to an event or person like an argument, a breakup, a form of abuse, or accident perhaps. And this is completely unavoidable - you are living a human experience where things won’t always run smoothly.

In this episode, I discuss how trauma can provide you with life lessons and the importance of exploring your trauma when it comes to unlearning survival mechanisms that are no longer serving you in your adulthood life as they would have in childhood. This is about getting back to the real you - beneath the trauma and roles that were so successfully forced upon you. 

To dive deeper, you can find a supporting blog post on the following link:

https://katieodonoghue.com/theself/healing-trauma

Did you ever feel like you were expected to be the adult in situations as a child? Did you feel like you absorbed a lot of responsibilities? Did you feel like you had to raise a younger sibling? Do you feel like you matured quite quickly and missed out on the childlike things through the years? 

If you’re similar to me in terms of background, you likely had to grow up fast and take on more responsibilities - you lost your chance to be a child and do the things that children do. Perhaps you were expected to be the emotional caretaker of your primary caregiver (mother or father) too? All of which sets you up for low self-worth, feeling like a failure, co-dependent relationships, little to no boundaries and a lost sense of self.

If you want to read a little more on this topic, you can find the blog post to support this episode on the following link:

https://katieodonoghue.com/theself/theparentifieddaughter

On today's episode I have special guest Fiona Lennon (Instagram @this_is_fi) who hails from Mullingar and commonly goes by Fí, her artist name and project she has been developing over the last few years.

Coming from a musical town, she began writing music at 18 and has since accumulated hundreds of songs and many great experiences (working with Grammy nominated songwriters, being played on national radio, and playing big stages like Electric Picnic, Whelans, and Cyprus Avenue)

As well as this, Fiona worked as a primary school teacher for four years. She went on a solo trip to Los Angeles which made her realise that she wanted to go into something different when she returned home and in this episode we discuss her journey - her experience with anorexia from a young age, pivoting in her career, dealing with friendship groups, trusting your gut feeling and so much more!

Her life has been coloured by many different experiences which have taught her to go with the ebbs and flow of life, to relax on expectations, and to trust her instinct to guide her on her own path of self-discovery.

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Do you remember being rewarded or praised for being a “good girl” when you were younger?

Our primary caregivers would not have been aware of the meaning that we would have added to this simple phrase but the covert message that is conveyed through it? You don’t deserve to be yourself, you are expected to be good all the time, to not express the full range of your emotions and to not do as you please but to be compliant, to give or help out when asked, and do not say no because that’s rude and impolite…Do as you’re told, fit into the mould of being a “good girl” and don’t cause any trouble. 

You'll carry this way of being into your adulthood life if you leave it unexplored and the knock-on effect? Catastrophic if you're anything like me...

If you want to learn more about this dilemma, you can check out the blog post to accompany this episode on the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/theself/thegoodgirldilemma

There is so much to say about having boundaries but are we ever really taught how to set them or what they truly mean in terms of protecting your sense of self? Who remembers having conversations about boundaries in detail? 

In this episode I explore boundaries but if you'd like to dive a little deeper you can check out the supporting blog post on the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/theself/setting-boundaries

On today's show I have special guest Sana Govender (Instagram: @sana_govender) on to discuss his personal journey and finding his inner peace. Sana is a Behavioural Psychologist and Performance Coach, who is obsessed with human potential and the capacity we have as human beings to achieve great things.

As far back as he can remember he has had a deep interest in understanding how people work and why they do what they do. Thus, leading him down the path of psychology. After years of studying and broadening his knowledge within the areas of Organisational Psychology, Coaching/Positive Psychology and Sports Psychology he realised that his core driver was 'Human Performance and Growth'. Whether that be at an individual, team or group level, he has an intricate way of understanding how to help guide others to achieve and grow in whatever area they need.

Done so through a mixed methodology of various psychological areas and experience using these skills in various life settings such as business, academics and currently in a sports setting. Helping individuals and teams develop by focusing on values, culture, goal attainment, self management, self regulation, mental skills, positive psychology and regulation strategies/interventions.

With a strong ethos centred around the growth mindset coupled with his experience, knowledge and abilities within the psychology codes, Sana will definitely be able to help you better understand yourself, the way you work, the way you think and how to improve the quality of your life in those areas.

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Let's face it we've all been there at some point in time...

Excluded from group chats?

Rejected from someone you were dating?

Missed out on a job promotion?

Didn't get accepted into a college course?

A friend didn't answer your call or reply to your text?

Rejection can hurt BUT how you choose to respond to rejection is key in any situation.