In this episode, Roane and Ben sit down for an honest update on Ben’s recent health challenges. Ben shares the journey from his 1997 cancer diagnosis to the long-term effects he’s facing today, including the discovery that most of his pancreas has shut down and the upcoming surgery to address it. They discuss how faith, community, and emotional awareness are shaping the way he navigates this season, and why honesty in the midst of hardship matters. It’s a candid conversation about fear, trust, control, and living with purpose when the future is uncertain. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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Ben and Roane discuss the concept of "spiritual bypass," a phenomenon where individuals use religious or spiritual language to avoid dealing with their emotional pain. They highlight how this practice is prevalent in faith communities and can be harmful, leading to a lack of accountability and genuine growth. Examples include phrases like "God's gonna use this" and "When God closes a door, he opens a window." They emphasize the importance of addressing trauma, emotional sobriety, and the need for empathy and real love. The conversation aims to challenge the spiritual bypass culture and promote genuine spiritual growth and transformation. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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Roane discusses the pervasive issue of pornography addiction with Ted Shimer, founder of the Freedom Fight. Ted highlights the significant impact of high-speed internet and smartphones on adolescent brains, leading to deeper and broader addictions. A Barna study reveals that 78% of practicing Christians aged 18-70 watch porn, with 90% of younger Christians affected. Ted emphasizes the need for discipleship and equipping rather than just recovery, using biblical principles and brain science to address the roots of addiction. They discuss the importance of emotional awareness, identity in Christ, and community support for lasting freedom. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter host the "Sex God and Chaos" podcast, discussing addiction and recovery. They are joined by Troy Haas, a guest speaker at a men's coaching weekend at Ebenezer Place. Troy shares his journey with addiction to sex, food, and substances, and how his life transformed after meeting Jesus in prison. He emphasizes the importance of community and vulnerability in overcoming addiction, using the story of Jesus and Lazarus to illustrate how relationships can help remove "grave clothes" and achieve true freedom. Troy also discusses his work with Hope Quest, an organization that helps men and their families find freedom from addiction. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick discuss the complexities of relapse in addiction recovery, emphasizing the importance of clear communication between partners. They differentiate between a slip and a relapse. Roane shares his 35-year recovery journey, highlighting the need for awareness, connection, and gratitude. They stress the significance of seeking professional help and maintaining accountability through men's groups. The conversation underscores the necessity of mutual understanding and shared definitions of relapse to navigate the recovery process effectively. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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In this episode, Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick discuss Carl Lehenbauer's book "Fire and Song," which explores the Song of Solomon's deeper meanings and its relevance to modern marriages. Carl shares his journey of teaching the Song of Solomon, which led him to write a novel that integrates its themes into practical advice for marital intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the Hebrew poetry and the book's role in addressing societal issues around marriage and sexuality. The conversation highlights the need for grace, deep emotional connection, and physical intimacy in marriages, supported by a strong relationship with God. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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Roane and Eva Hunter host Joey and Elizabeth Maxon to discuss their journey through recovery from sex and porn addiction. Joey, a former PGA Tour golfer, shares his struggle with addiction. Elizabeth recounts the emotional turmoil of learning about Joey's addiction and their subsequent recovery process. They emphasize the importance of faith, community, and open communication in their healing. Joey and Elizabeth have since founded Restoried, a nonprofit focused on helping couples and men in recovery To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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In this episode, Roane and Ben discuss the importance of finding purpose and meaning beyond sobriety in recovery from sexual addiction. They emphasize the need for a deeper understanding of one's life and relationships, advocating for personal growth and intentionality. Roane shares his transformative experience with a Christian counselor and the divine calling he felt. They critique the quick-fix approaches often seen in the church and stress the importance of long-term, inward work. Ben highlights the necessity of engaging with stories of those who have successfully navigated their recovery journeys. They both agree that true purpose and contentment are found in simple, meaningful actions and relationships, such as being a faithful spouse or parent. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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In this episode, Roane and Ben discuss emotional dysregulation, emphasizing its importance in recovery and life. They explain that emotional dysregulation means not being able to manage emotions under stress, often learned from childhood experiences. Men, in particular, struggle with emotional awareness, often turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms like pornography. They highlight the need for awareness, understanding core emotions (mad, sad, glad, afraid), and developing healthy coping skills. The conversation also touches on the challenges of emotional communication in relationships, advocating for mutual curiosity and community support to navigate emotional triggers and behaviors. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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In this episode, Roane and Ben dive deep into the moment many encounter—the realization that they've "hit the wall." This wall represents the accumulation of unhealthy coping mechanisms and unmet desires, often rooted in a lack of guidance around relationships and sexuality. The conversation explores what to do when life makes you aware of the damage, whether through personal reflection or external confrontation.

Ben and Roane discuss the fork in the road that follows this painful awareness: staying stuck in destructive patterns or choosing the difficult but rewarding path of growth. They share personal insights and hard truths about the cost of ignoring these moments—financially, emotionally, and relationally. The episode also touches on the unfolding nature of awareness, how it brings clarity and truth, and why choosing growth can lead to a fuller, more honest life.

This candid and transformative conversation is for those who find themselves at a crossroads, seeking guidance and hope in the face of life's hard truths. To learn more about the Sex, God, & Chaos team, click the link below:

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