Sexually Speaking with Shannon

I’d like you all to welcome my new friend Emily Sabo! 

Emily Sabo is a linguist, a Ph.D. speaker, a TEDx speaker, a dancer, a choreographer, and the CEO of Full Body Feels, a feel-good dance fitness company.

Originally from Pittsburgh, we are so lucky to have Emily now in Knoxville, Tennessee, and she's here to celebrate feminine energy through dance, yoga, and community.

Hear her story on how she came full circle in using dance as medicine and why she thinks others should too! 

In this podcast episode:

02:30 - What did life look like for Emily before Full Body Feels?

12:00 - How many languages does she speak?!

15:00 - Emily’s mental health experiences

26:00 - Where the magic happens to learn about your body

28:00 - Emily’s relationship with her husband and the biggest change in her life

34:00 - Movement meditation with Emily

Visit Emily on:

emilysabo.com

Follow on IG: @fullbodyfeels

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My guests today are Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. 

Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. 

Dr. Glenn was determined to find out what went wrong so he went back to school and became a marriage and family therapist and a clinical sexologist. But it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. 

On the other side of the pain that they went through, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis created the Connection Codes,  a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their four-minute tool. 

Now they are authors, speakers, and have connection coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships. 

I hope you all enjoy this beautiful story as much as I did! 

In this episode:

01:00 - Dr. Glenn and Phyllis’ story

05:00 - A traumatic and disappointing first sexual experience

10:30 - We may think other couples are doing great

20:50 - A couple's pivotal moment: a comment about unloading the dishwasher leads to the discovery

26:00 - Tools or books Dr. Glenn and Phyllis read to improve their intimacy?

33:00 - The Core Emotion Wheel

On Instagram: @Connectioncodes        

Go to the website: connectioncodes.co/shannon

Use code: SHANNON20 for 20% off our Foundations course

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Everyone meet my BA friend, Jesse Akister! Jess shares her journey of understanding her body, mind, and soul. She highlights how our body responds to stress and trauma and how it can manifest in our daily lives, even in our relationships. 

Jesse is the Co-founder and COO of Sherolife, the first women’s holistic fitness community in UAE founded in Dubai in 2019. She is also a multi-awarded athlete in CrossFit and Powerlifting.

In this episode:
01:40 - CrossFit and Powerlifter Jesse
04:50 - Jesse's life before 
11:20 - Jesse's relationships during training
14:00 - The Polyvagal theory
19:30 - Jesse's training applying polyvagal theory
29:00 - Jesse uncovering her desires  
31:00 - The Will Want Won't list
34:00 - Other material resources 
38:00 - Breaking down feminine and masculine energy 
43:00 - Tips on meditating 
47:50 - Listener's takeaway

Find Jesse on IG: @jesseakister

Sherolife Offerings: @thesherolife

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After a couple of years of feeling like a fan girl trying to connect with Whitni Miller, aka BDE.Moves, I finally got to talk with her! Whitni is an amazing human who is creating sexy content with tangible tools for all people to implement! 

Whitni Miller is a Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator. She loves to create direct, assuring, shame-free sex education content on TikTok, Instagram, and Patreon. She also works with clients 1:1 and in couples setting to help them obtain their pleasure goals.

She is very passionate about pleasure-based sex in our performance mindset world!

In this episode:

02:10 - How did Whitni get into sex education?

09:00 - Encouraging exploring pleasure for women

09:30 - Top 3 reasons why couples stop having sex

12:00 - Patriarchy is bad for both men and women

14:40 - Unlearning ‘performance-based’ mindset in sex

18:00 - Changing the way you self-pleasure can change the way you have sex

22:00 - Being intentional in sex and self-pleasure

25:00 - Definition of sex for Whitni

29:00 - Whitni's Patreon (You must check it out!) 

Find Whitni on Instagram @bde.moves 

Patreon: bdemoves

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Have you found yourself in the same patterns of behavior or frustration and ever wondered, "WHY AM I HERE AGAIN?!" My guest for this conversation can help you uncover the answer to that question! 

Anat Peri is an Inner Child Expert, Somatic Coach, and the Founder of Training Camp for the Soul™. (Yes, the retreat that Steve attended 2 years ago that I have mentioned in several episodes!) For over 7 yrs she’s guided her clients through the process of mastering the wisdom of their bodies and emotions to choose to live the life they desire with ease, instead of force and sacrifice.
With 18 years of experience in developmental work and years of study as a trauma-informed coach, Anat has combined mindset, somatic healing, and inner child re-parenting to create Training Camp for the Soul Method™.
Anat considers it her mission to help people thrive, live a life where they feel connected and safe within and with others, and reclaim their power to be the creators of their reality.
She has guided hundreds through the TCS™ Method. Marriages, books, businesses, fulfilling lives, and babies have all been created by her clients working with her.

In this episode:

05:40 - What is Training Camp for the Soul?

06:50 - You are the Director of your movie, you can edit the script

08:40 - How the inherited script affects your sexuality and intimacy

19:00 - What it means to be "hijacked" into a role

22:40 - What did healing look like for Anat?
30:00 - Building sexual energy in self 
30:45 - Grieve the thought of fears coming true

36:00 - Your relationship is like a garden

40:00 - More about Anat's programs and the TCS retreat
46:36 - The way that therapy, coaching, and retreats play in self-development

49:40 - Practicing gratitude and humility

You can find Anat here:

Instagram: @anat.peri

Join us at the retreat in June here:

trainingcampforthesoul.com/retreat
Use the code "friendsandfamily" for a discount

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Breaking up is hard to do, but it can be done with love, respect, and dignity. Jennifer Kaylor Ruscin helps you create a breakup that leaves you and your partner feeling good, where you're both excited about the next phase of your lives.

Jennifer is a mom to 2 teenage boys, partner to Scott, multi-million dollar revenue generator of a sales & marketing firm, podcast host, & sex and relationship coach.

In this podcast episode:

03:00 - What is conscious uncoupling?

06:00 - Jen's experience with conscious uncoupling

10:30 - Doing things differently while practicing conscious uncoupling

12:00 - What kind of emotional support did Jen get when she was having the divorce from her husband?

13:40 - How Jen found her second husband

19:30 - Conscious uncoupling on an emotional scale

25:00 - How do you tell to the kids?

31:40 - Additional resources about conscious uncoupling

34:00 - If you are thinking about breaking up with your partner

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We have Leighanna Nordstrom back by popular demand! Today we are talking about a very controversial and complicated topic - affairs. More specifically, why do they happen, and how do you move toward healing and repair? 

Leighanna is the owner of Break the Mold Therapy, a virtual private practice in Colorado. She is a relationship and sex therapist who specializes in betrayal repairs, kink/BDSM, non-monogamy, and queer issues. Her goal is to help people unlearn problematic beliefs, values, and patterns by exploring the truths around sex positivity and wellness in a safe and non-judgmental way.

If you have friends or loved ones facing this challenge, please share this episode!

In this podcast episode:

03:00 - What is an affair?

04:50 - What causes an affair? 

11:30 - What leads someone to have an affair?

14:00 - What Affair Repair looks like

18:30 - Practicing relationships is practicing communication

20:30 - 5 major Don'ts after an affair

29:00 - Nobody knows enough to pass judgment

35:00 - Your pleasure is your responsibility

37:00 - Steps to recovering from an affair

43:00 - Top 5 Do's in Affair Repair

58:00 - The last powerful takeaway

01:00:30 - Leighanna's programs

You can reach Leighanna Nordstrom on:
www.breakthemoldtherapy.com

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Shhhh....your body is speaking to you! What is your internal wisdom saying?! My friend, Bonnie Casamassima is going to help us understand how our intuition can help us connect to our desires and unleash more passion and pleasure!

Bonnie is a researcher, professor, and highly sensitive intuitive empath. You know that song, “I’m a little bit country AND A Little Bit Rock+Roll?” Well, “She is a little bit Researcher AND a little bit woo”.

She gives 110% in supporting the people she works with every day in connecting with their own intuition through research, mediumship channeling, and consulting on the psychology of the design of their everyday spaces.

She has a Bachelor of Science in Interior Design from The University of Tennessee at Knoxville. She also has a Master of Fine Arts in Interior Design focusing on Environmental Psychology and Biophilic Design from Savannah College of Art and Design where she taught Graduate students. Additionally, she has completed two 500+ hour trainings honing her highly sensitive intuitive mediumship abilities. 

Bonnie is an amazing human being and I cannot wait for you to hear from her! 

In this podcast episode:

05:50 - The New Year, New Moon experience

08:00 - What was Bonnie’s life before she started listening to her intuition and prioritizing play, pleasure, and sexuality

12:00 - Bonnie on spreadsheet decisions 

15:30 - Tuning in on your body’s intuition and developing self-trust

19:00 - Bonnie in the bedroom before

20:30 - Listening to your intuition

26:00 - Calming your mind and connecting to your intuition

34:00 - Being your most authentic self

37:00 - Bonnie's life now

41:30 - Connecting with your partner

43:00 - Bonnie’s programs

You can find Bonnie at:

intuitivebynature.com

Follow her on IG @intuitive_by_nature         

Follow Shannon HERE

Follow her on IG @shannonhamaker                      

Join the Couples Collective here.

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Steve is back! We break down our Top 5 celebrations from 2022 and what we are leaving behind. In an effort to help others we share what worked for us in creating a stronger, more connected partnership. 

YAYS (What are we celebrating?)

1. Commitment to Personal Growth
2. Relationship Check-In’s 
3. Couples Retreats
4. Couples Mastermind 
5. Thrive Couples Class

In this podcast episode:

01:10 - The podcasts we listen to and fuel our journey

01:50 - #1 Continual commitment to personal growth

02:50 - Steve’s personal growth journey

05:00 - Guilt in doing or buying stuff for yourself

15:10 - #2 Consistent relationship check-ins

21:00 - Relationship check-ins on the fly

28:00 - #3 The couple’s retreats

33:40 - #4 The couple’s masterminds

36:20 - Family constellation

41:30 - The Couple’s Collective at the beginning of February

Join the Couple’s Collective here: https://bit.ly/CouplesCollective

Work with Shannon! Shannonhamaker.com

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41:30 - Why community is essential and how you can find community

- Find Amanda at @somaticdpt on Instagram 
- Check out Training Camp for the Soul here: https://trainingcampforthesoul.com/
- Women's Retreat in April 

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