Sexually Speaking with Shannon

Today we have Rachel Alba to talk about intimacy and spirituality.

Rachel is a certified clinical sexologist with an M.A. in Theology and Ministry. She loves helping people find pleasure in their sexuality and healing & growth in their spirituality.

Growing up a devout Catholic, she was taught a lot of unhelpful things about sexuality. The best thing she learned, however, was the Catholic Church's actual definition of chastity: having an integrated body and soul. For years this idea motivated her.  From dancing in college to studying Tantra and Kabbalah in NYC to becoming a Licensed Massage Therapist. 

Now she helps others find that same sexual-spiritual integration. Drawing upon her Masters in Theology and Ministry specializing in Sexual Theology and Faith Development, and her certificate in Clinical Sexology, she helps people find their path to having sex with spirit in a life-giving, sex-positive, spiritually enriching way.

This is a special deep dive episode on Sexuality and Spirituality. More specifically on the journey that each person can take towards a fulfilled sex life through embodiment practices and self-pleasure. 

Today on Sexually Speaking: 

• How Rachel went from devout Christian to Sex Coach
• The benefits of feeling embodied and how to start the practice
• The commonalities with Kabbalah, Christianity, Tantra, and Taoism
• How your sexuality and spirituality can feed each other
• Self-pleasure without pressure
• Transforming negative thoughts into Body Positive messages that empower you

Follow Rachel: 

• IG: @Rachel.Alba.Coaching
• Website: sexwithspirit.com

Contact Shannon: 

• IG: @shannonhamaker         
• Email: [email protected]
• Free resources: https://linktr.ee/shannonhamaker
• Website: ShannonHamaker.com

Schedule a free coaching call: https://calendly.com/shannonhamaker

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Welcome back to week 2 of lost libidos! Last week we talked about the ABCs of lost libidos. Today we talk about the qualities of a good relationship, how to know if you’re focusing on the negative things, tips for sexual communication, and many more!

In this podcast episode:

01:50 - You are a divine spiritual being and you are inherently good

04:30 - Focusing on negative things

09:00 - Working on your relationship with your partner

10:30 - It’s the quality of your partnership that matters

11:30 - Acceptance and attention

14:30 - Appreciation

16:50 - Affection and allowing

18:30 - Things you can do to enhance your intimacy

21:30 - Nurturing your fondness towards each other

24:30 - Overcoming gridlock

25:30 - Create a shared meaning

28:00 - Tips for sexual communication; knowing what you want

The Erotic Blueprint Quiz - https://theblueprintbreakthrough.com/

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Are you not wanting to have sex as much as you used to? Want to increase your libido? Today we are talking about lost libidos and the ABCs of desire.

In this podcast episode:

01:30 - What is libido and can you lose it?

03:30 - Social factors weighing on your libido

07:20 - Thinking of your libido as a flame

08:30 - Benefits of a healthy sex life

12:00 - Be curious

15:30 - Keep track of your cycle

19:30 - Notice if your body is saying yes or no

26:00 - Ways to cultivate your desire

28:30 - Scheduling a time for intimacy

30:30 - Getting your testosterone tested

The Come as You Are Workbook by Emily Nagoski - https://amzn.to/3hb4bqK

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Do you know the history of the vibrator? Today we find out more with Sarah Hamilton the director of the play In The Next Room.

IN THE NEXT ROOM or the vibrator play is a provocative, funny, touching, and entertaining story about a young doctor and his wife. Dr. Givings is obsessed with the marvels of technology and what they can do for his patients. His wife, Catherine, is only a bystander in her husband's world - listening at the door from the next room as he treats his female patients. Dr. Givings is not sure exactly how the vibrators help the women he treats - but they do keep coming back. The only woman whose problem is not helped by the doctor is his own wife who longs to connect with him - but not electrically.

In this episode:

01:00 - Who is Sarah Hamilton? Why did she decide to do theater?

03:00 - The history of the vibrator

08:00 - Why did Sarah start In The Next Room?

15:00 - What is River & Rail?

19:00 - Why did they set up tickets to pay what you wish?

21:00 - A program to help women entrepreneurs improve their public speaking skills

22:30 - How has directing the play affected Sarah? What was its impact on her?

24:00 - Tips for a successful marriage in this time of pandemic

Support them and get your tickets at https://riverandrailtheatre.com/

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Sit down and stay awhile…it’s storytime with Shannon! 

In this podcast episode:

00:40 - When I started my first podcast and why I stopped

05:30 - Finding out what an orgasm feels like

06:30 - Taking a human sexuality subject

09:30 - Being invited to my first Pure Romance party

13:00 - Hosting my first Pure Romance party

16:30 - The first time I met my husband

21:30 - Looking for people to help in bridging the gap in our marriage

27:30 - The Power of Now

32:30 - Working on yourself is tough

35:30 - The best thing you can give your partner

Find me on Instagram - @shannonhamaker 

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How do you make sure that you still have intimacy with your partner even after having kids? Find out in today’s episode.

Angela and James Mitchell are creating the most amazing life together. 

Pulling from their experiences personally in their 10+ years of marriage and professionally as a licensed counselor and certified coach, Angela and James developed Love Intentionally to help couples co-create the life of their dreams. 

Through facilitating retreats, 2:2 couples coaching, and their Retreat in a Box called the Love Bomb, they help couples connect deeply, communicate effectively, and strategically plan their life in order to reach their goals. 

They love spending time in the Colorado outdoors, adventuring to foreign lands, and having fun with their family and friends. They know that together they are better than the sum of their parts and they are excited to help plant this seed of expansive love in your life! 

In this podcast episode:

04:30 - How did Angela and James come up with the idea of a retreat in a box?         
11:30 - Setting goals with your partner
15:30 - Benefits of having a set of questions to go through with your partner every year and getting away to have a retreat with your partner
22:00 - What do you do if your partner is resistant to doing the retreats?  
26:30 - How do you have boundaries to have a sacred sex space after having kids?
34:00 - Prioritizing your relationship
38:00 - Having a safe space with your partner
45:00 - How do you help your partner feel “safe”?
48:00 - The importance of love language to you and your partner
53:00 - Resources to help your kids learn about sexuality

You can find Angela and James on: https://www.loveintentionally.com/

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I spent almost a decade trying to find out what was wrong with my marriage. I just knew there was more to it than what we currently have. Do you feel the same? 

I hope this podcast today that we had earlier with Rachel Maine helps you too to gain the clarity you want in your marriage.

In this podcast episode:

02:30 - How Shannon and Steve’s marriage started

07:00 - Conversations about sex and intimacy Shannon and Steve had growing up

11:00 - What if the woman has a higher sex drive?

14:00 - Steve’s depression

23:00 - Being committed to your marriage

25:00 - You can’t be everything for your spouse and the turning points in Shannon and Steve’s marriage

31:00 - Taking a sex coaching class

41:00 - Taking the first step towards recovery

45:00 - How is Shannon and Steve’s marriage and sex life now?

49:00 - It’s OK for you to have all those physical feelings

51:00 - Keep looking for the person/ therapy which can help you

Resources:
For Sex & Love Co - https://linktr.ee/thatsexchick
Training Camp For The Soul - https://www.trainingcampforthesoul.com
Book - How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self - https://amzn.to/3IFL1Vx

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I know it’s dry January for some people so it’s a great time to talk about how wonderful sober sex can be. Interested? Then listen to the podcast and take notes!

In this podcast episode:

01:30 - When and why I decided to have no relationship with alcohol

06:00 - The benefits of being sober

09:00 - Try to have some fun with yourself while sober

11:00 - The Erotic Blueprint Quiz

12:30 - The Will, Want, Won’t list

13:30 - Ask Shannon - Want to try something new with husband but don’t know how to get comfortable

Resources:

https://thisnakedmind.com/

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Today we have Tracy Mix to talk with us about sacred sexuality, feminine energy, and how spiritual work is sexuality work. 

Tracy has been a QHHT practitioner and guide for awakening souls since 2010. She prefers to teach and guide on things she personally has experienced and researched so she knows firsthand how people are feeling when they are seeking information, or are feeling challenged or struggling. She has had a thirst for spiritual knowledge and can intelligently speak on just about any spiritual topic, however, sacred sexuality has been a favorite.

In this podcast episode:

01:30 - What is Tracy Mix’s story?

03:30 - What were the seeds that helped Tracy make her life changes?

07:00 - What does sacred sexuality look like?

10:30 - Sexual energy is th most powerful energy in the universe

12:30 - How is Tracy helping people now?

15:30 - Feminine energy

18:30 - How do you know that another person is also doing spiritual soul work?

20:30 - The book - Many Lives, Many Masters; And where can you find a spiritual mentor?

26:30 - Basic spiritual practices for couples and how to be intentional with your sex life

32:00 - Orgasm is a good thing

35:30 - How can you own your sexual self?

You can find Tracy Mix on:

https://www.facebook.com/theawakeningguide/

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According to WHO in 2020, there were 2.3 million women diagnosed with breast cancer. Today we have Hannah Hopkins Walton. We talk about breast cancer, building a community, sharing your pain, and talking about how she used her adversity to help support others. 

In this podcast episode:

01:00 - How did Hannah build a community when she was still new in her area?

02:10 - Who is Hannah? What is her story?

06:30 - What did authentic look like to Hannah and how did she create her community for breast cancer?

08:30 - Knowing your body and being in touch with it

10:30 - What does Hannah’s relationship look like with her body and sexuality now?

14:30 - How is Hannah’s relationship with her husband now?

16:30 - How did Hannah and her husband deal with the challenges when she had breast cancer and until now?

20:30 - Setting intentions in relationships just like in business

23:30 - How did Hannah get the idea to create her community?

27:30 - Pink wash and having a support system when you’re diagnosed with breast cancer

32:30 - How do you support people with breast cancer?

37:30 - How do you share your pain without feeling bad about sharing your pain?

42:30 - Hannah’s fund raising event last November

You can find Hannah on:

https://somebunnyawesome.com/

https://www.instagram.com/somebunnyawesome/

https://www.facebook.com/somebunnyawesome

Hannah’s Superbad Podcast

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