Sexually Speaking with Shannon

Please welcome, Caroline Burkholder, MS, RD, LD, a registered dietitian nutritionist in Knoxville, TN. She is the owner of RootED Nutrition and Counseling.

We cover the topics of intuitive eating, recovering your relationship with food, how to model a positive relationship with food to your kids, and how intuitive eating te

Caroline became interested in nutrition counseling when she was a collegiate athlete, and her coach consistently shared scientifically unfounded messages about how to fuel for sport. Most of these messages actually encouraged restrictive and disordered tendencies. It became clear to Caroline how important it was for female athletes to have empirically founded nutrition information delivered in a safe and nurturing format. 

Caroline continues to participate in athletics; she is a mountain biker and an endurance runner. Her practice is heavily informed by her lived experience as an athlete.

In this podcast episode:

01:35 - Caroline’s story on how she got into nutrition counseling

06:00 - Recovering your relationship with food

08:30 - How to model a positive relationship with food to your kids

13:00 - Caroline’s relationship with food before

16:50 - What is intuitive eating and how do you practice it?

23:00 - Keeping a food journal

28:00 - Letting go and accepting that your body’s going to change

33:00 - You are allowed to gain weight

37:00 - Finding your middle

39:00 - The enneagram

You can find Caroline at:

https://www.rootednutritionandcounseling.com/

Instagram at @root_ednutrition

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Have you had a lingering sense that you are different than other women? Do you feel like you start projects with full force, only to fizzle out and not complete it? Does your partner get frustrated when you can't find your keys or you get distracted during s*x? 

Have a listen! Linda is going to share some incredible insight from her lived experience of being diagnosed with ADHD in mid-life. She also shares the superpowers it has given her and how we can look at the benefits of having this neurodiversity, as challenging as it can be! 

Linda Roggli is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), an award-winning author, and founder of the A-D-Diva Network for ADHD women 40-and-better. She is recognized internationally as an expert in midlife and senior ADHD. She created the ADHD Palooza series which now includes ADHD Women, ADHD Parents, and ADHD Couples. She regularly hosts workshops, organizing groups and retreats for ADHD women.

Linda’s book Confessions of an ADDiva-midlife in the non-linear lane won first prize for women’s issues in the prestigious Next Generation Indy Book Awards competition. Order an autographed copy at http://shopaddiva.com

Is there an offer you would like to give the listeners? : Free download from the ADHD Couples' Palooza

Where can they find you to get in touch?: http://addiva.net and http://adhdpalooza.com

In this podcast episode:

02:30 - Linda’s story - how she discovered ADHD

05:30 - What helps our neurons make connections

08:30 - Linda’s superpower as a woman with ADHD

14:30 - How can we be good role models to our kids in taking care of ourselves as parents with ADHD

22:30 - ADHD, impulsivity, intimacy, and your relationships

38:00 - The impostor syndrome

41:30 - The Couple’s Palooza

45:30 - Where do you go if you think you have ADHD?

You can find Linda Rogley on:

https://addiva.net/

Resources:

Book: Driven To Distraction

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If you are here for a comprehensive checklist of all the ways you can get through menopause unscathed by all the dreaded symptoms you have heard about…I hate to break it to you, you won’t find that here. But I have some more exciting news for you….  when you listen to this episode with curiosity and an open mind and heart, you may find that you feel empowered and dare I say excited about this transitional time in your life. Especially when you hear this conversation with Alexandra and Sjanie, co-founders of the Red School.

Alexandra and Sjanie are also the co-authors of the iconic and celebrated book from Hay House, Wild Power: discover the magic of the menstrual cycle and awaken the feminine path to power and they just released their latest book Wise Power: Discover the liberating power of menopause to awaken authority, purpose, and belonging.

They are pioneering the newly emerging field of menstruality, creating a new lexicon and approach to women’s health and well-being; creativity and leadership; and spiritual life based on the power of our menstruality consciousness. 

Between them, they bring over 45 years of experience. And today they teach worldwide on the psycho-spiritual process of maturation that unfolds from menarche to menopause and beyond. They’re committed to training the menstruality leaders of the future.

www.redschool.net

And our 6 week live online menopause course, which starts on November 2nd is Menopause: The Great Awakener www.redschoolmenopause.com

Thank you so much for listening! Share the love by sharing the podcast! And share your reviews and comments on the platform you listened to this episode on. 

If you would like to contact me about upcoming coaching, workshops, or transformative retreats, you can go to my website at ShannonHamaker.com 

This episode was edited by Travis Tench at Oak Hill Audio and scored using musing by his band Tinca Tinca. 

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Today we have Dakota Russell who is graduate of East Tennessee State University. We talk about STIs and sex education in schools is important.
Dakota shares the importance of having these conversations and about her upcoming program offered online called, “How to Talk about the Talk,” aka “HTAT.”

You can register for this program at this link:
https://forms.gle/iDScSDGeSy42Ria76 

In this Episode:

02:00 - STD vs STI
03:50 - How did Dakota become a student who wanted to study about STIs and educating parents about it?
04:50 - Dakota’s programs for sex education
08:45 - The stigma on women and sex education
14:30 - Teaching the proper ways to have sex to prevent suicide rates
16:30 - Sex education FAQs
19:00 - Teen pregnancies
22:00 - The high chlamydia and gonorrhea rates in Tennessee
24:00 - How does high STI rates affect relationships?

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Welcome to Sexually Speaking with Shannon! 

For today’s episode, we have Brianna and Mark Carey. 

Brianna has been in the sexual health field for 14 years and is a Relationship & Intimacy coach. Mark is a Licensed Professional Counselor and has been running his own private practice for the past 6 years. 

Together with Steve, they talk about postpartum depression and how to work through its challenges. Brianna and Mark also share some ways to reconnect with your partner after having kids and how the 3-2-1 dating guide they created has helped them.

In this episode:

02:55 – Who are Mark and Brianna?

06:55 – What is dad postpartum depression?

11:25 – Brianna talks about her work and how she helps her clients reconnect with their partners.

15:00 – Brianna and Mark share their experience reconnecting with each other.

18:30 – Mark shares men’s perspective on things.

21:20 – What are some of the things that Brianna and Mark do to stay connected?

27:20 – What are some signs of postpartum depression for dads?

32:20 – What are some resources to help with postpartum depression?

39:10 – Shannon talks about their couple’s retreat.

Steve and Shannon’s couple’s retreat experience: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS8xNzIwMDQ4LnJzcw/episode/QnV6enNwcm91dC0xMDg4NDczMw?hl=en-PH&ved=2ahUKEwi8_eXngNP5AhXEDd4KHQ-ABrYQieUEegQIAhAO&ep=6

Intimacy Evolution Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/387cWiLrs03L6jL7wTT33g

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It’s all things Menstrual Cycle on Sexually Speaking with Shannon! 

In this episode, Shannon dispels the myths and mystery behind the cycle and why it is incredibly important to live your best life. 
Whether it is planning how you are going to work out, what you are going to eat to support where you are in your cycle or when you are going to plan on having s3xy time, understanding your body is one of the most impactful things you can embrace and understand to have more access to pleasure. 

In this episode:

01:15 – Myths about the menstrual cycle 

03:55 – Books that helped Shannon be more in tune with her body

Woman Code: https://amzn.to/3QjVWbr

In the Flo: https://amzn.to/3SpmLNi

04:35 – The four seasons of the menstrual cycle and their corresponding energy

05:05 – What is infradian rhythm?

09:30 – Phase 1, the follicular phase

12:25 – Phase 2, the ovulatory phase

15:50 – Phase 3, luteal phase

20:35 – Phase 4, menstrual phase

25:05 – Why is it important to track your cycle?

The Flo Living Website: https://www.floliving.com/

27:15 – What are the effects of birth control in your cycle?

28:35 – Ways to track your menstrual cycle

Would you like to schedule a free discovery session with Shannon? Go here: 

https://calendly.com/shannonhamaker

Want to see all the offerings Shannon has? Check out her website:

https://bit.ly/ShannonHamaker

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Midlife shouldn’t be a crisis! For today’s Sexually Speaking with Shannon, she is joined by Jo squires. Jo is an endearing, fun-spirited Midlife Coach and the founder of the Midlife Clarity Club Facebook group.  

They discuss what really is midlife and menopause is all about and the clarity and joy you can find. Jo shares her journey and experience with some of the most common challenges including depression and how to find clarity and compassion with yourself as you move through this time. 

In this episode:

00:50 – How did Jo become a midlife clarity coach?

04:45 – The difference - Jo at 40 and Jo at 51

06:15 – Jo shares having depression and how she overcame it

08:00 – Jo shares her career in finance

10:30 – Jo talks about her past relationships and the patterns that she’d observed

17:20 – What are the tools that helped Jo love herself and encourage her clients to do the same?

20:00 – The importance of having your values and sticking to them.

22:20 – Boundaries and how having them can help you

25:40 – Midlife and going through it

28:40 – The different tests you can take to track your menopausal stage

30:30 – What is brain fog?

32:50 – Jo shares her group members’ reactions and the comfort that journaling gives her

36:10 – Jo’s program - Your Journey To Health and Happiness and how it can benefit you

Jo’s Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themidlifeclarityclub.jo.squires/

Jo’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-squires-4474b6119/?originalSubdomain=uk

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Wouldn’t it be great if we could understand the reason why people do the things they do? Do you have a family member that shuts down whenever an emotion comes up? Or a friend that freaks out when you have a change of plans? Or maybe you wonder why you do the same things over and over again expecting a different result only to find yourself in the same position that you’ve been in before?

For this episode, we talk about the Enneagram Typing Tool. This ancient tool can give you insights as to why people do the things that they do. We talk about the different types, their strengths, challenges, and how to support them.

In this episode:

02:00 – Shannon talks the Enneagram and where it came from

03:15 – Type 9: The Peace Keeper - my husband Steve

10:35 – Let’s talk about Type 8: The Challenger/Protector

15:55 – Shannon’s Type 7: The Enthusiasts

23:40 – Let’s talk about Type 6: The Loyal Skeptic.

28:40 – Type 5: The Investigators

32:10 – Type 4: The Romantic or The Individualist

35:45 – Type 3: The Achievers/Performers

44:50 – Type 2: The Helper and The Nurturer

51:35 – Type 1: The Perfectionist or The Reformer

57:30 – Shannon recommends ways to figure out your Enneagram

Here’s the link to take your Enneagram test: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Pick the RHETI version

58:50 – Shannon recommends the book - The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron

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Having alone time with your partner isn’t a want, it is a need! 

For this episode, we, (Shannon and Steve) talk about our experience on our 3 day couple’s retreat. No…it’s not like the movie…it was even better! Steve shares his growth journey leading up to the experience and why he chose to go and Shannon talks about the importance of building trust and fostering not just a sexual but also a spiritual connection with your partner.

In this episode:

01:20 – Why is having time as a couple important?

03:45 – Shannon Shares her experience in her couple’s retreat

05:40 – Shannon suggests some ways to have a cheaper couple alone time

06:45 – Steve shares his thoughts and the growth that he experienced

11:15 – Feminine and masculine energy

13:40 – What are the different archetypes of feminine and masculine energy?

17:55 – Steve talks about his experience in finding the masculine energy that felt most comfortable

19:25 – Shannon shares her time with the women’s circle and how it helped her break down barriers to growth

20:10 – The breath work experience

22:50 – Shannon shares why she found experiencing the moment and not expecting it to be challenging

27:05 – Shannon and Steve discuss what they learned about pleasure and expanding their horizon

28:00 – The 5 erotic blueprints and how it can help the experience be more

28:45 – Shannon and Steve share their experience doing Shibari

Shannon & Steve - from Checked Out to Fully In!:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1720048/9947634

Steve Is Back!
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1720048/10395472

Visit Shannon at:
http://shannonhamaker.com/

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Do you sometimes feel like you are working so hard for your job and taking care of others, that you don’t know what to do to take care of yourself? And even if you did…when would you do it?!

Or maybe you are watching your partner working overtime and you feel like there is no time left for you and your family? You know they mean well, trying to provide for the family…but in the end, you see the depleted person that you love that is exhausted. 

And even when they are around, it’s like they are there physically, but they aren’t fully present. 

My guest, Dr. Tracy Gapin found himself in a similar situation and he is here to tell us about his transformation after his wife encouraged him to get help. That simple request changed the trajectory of his life and the lives of many others. 

After taking responsibility for his own health, he opened the Gapin Institute to offer personalized paths to help men maximize sexual health, testosterone levels, and prostate health. 

Dr. Gapin wants others to find their path to fulfillment, performance, and presence in life. He also wrote a book called Male 2.0: Cracking the code to limitless health and vitality where he breaks down the tangible concepts you can implement in your life. 

We cover longevity, erectile dysfunction, and functional wellness tips on how to not just live longer, but live better! 

I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this conversation!

In this episode:

01:45 – Dr. Gapin shares how he found human optimization and high performance

03:30 – What is longevity? Healthspan versus lifespan

04:40 – Dr. Gapin discusses performance medicine

06:05 – How do all of these things relate to sexual health?

09:10 – Dr. Gapin explains what optimal performance and biohacking is

11:15 – Dr. Gapin shares the changes he implemented and how they made his life better

16:20 – What is Dr. Gapin’s Why?

18:00 – What are some of the things that Dr. Gapin does to prioritize his relationship with his wife over taking care of others?

20:40 – Dr. Gapin discuss some basic health problems and simple habits to support performance optimization

22:50 – Dr. Gapin talks about his book, Male 2.0 - https://amzn.to/3xn8mr8

24:50 – What is high performance?

26:10 – Dr. Gapin shares some of the things that inspired him in his journey

Lifespan by David A. Sinclair - https://amzn.to/3MDX6we

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - https://amzn.to/3OoBq8P

26:30 – Dr. Gapin talks about the programs that they offer and how simple coaching helps men achieve a high performance

Dr. Gapin’s Website: https://gapininstitute.com/

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